Dating chat thread still going! Number 39

[lubeybooby]

Here we are all

Dating related chit chat here

Thought I would have a touch of botox between the eyes (should be able to move the forehead with this)....and some dermal fillers from nose to mouth. I am quite serious about the eyebag removal, always had eyebags, they make me look tired when I am not, ds has the same and he is 8! But they certainly are not getting any better. Havent had a holiday for years so this might make me look like I have had one. Might do it when the kids go away for 10 days with their dad in the summer.

good luck Ike I've heard good things about botox, not sure I could afford it though!
I'm saving up for a face lift instead, might have enough by the time I'm 90

MrsC I dont think anyone takes being ignored lightly, it's rude and hurtful, you dont need to be 'loopy' to find it upsetting, surely!

Honestly ....there comes a time in a woman's life when it is now or never...40's seem a good time to have this sort of thing done...

I have had botox before ...full forehead...it does freeze up movement but looks good...thought I would try just the real 'problem' area this time £99

I'm sorta hoping that advances in medical technology will mean that when I get to 60 there'll be a pill which makes me look 30 again?

At the very least so long as I keep up my obsessive exercise and healthy eating regime I'll have the body of a 25 year old...just with a 60 year old face

You poor soul, Grinchie, make sure they give you serious drugs, demand proper pain relief, don't be trying to be stoic.

Ike, you is dead brave.

Grinchie poor you, I've been through that and when it kicks off it was agony They have told you that fats trigger the attacks? no one bothered to mention this to me until after months, I saw the surgeon

Luckily for Morning Knobber I had a big training session at the gym earlier and was very chilled so I spent most of the evening gently taking the piss and letting him reveal himself with every turn of events. When I met him before, he was very nice but there were a few things that I noticed but we've all said stupid things on dates. This time he seemed desperate to know if I wanted to progress, driven I think by a propsect of a 3rd date shag today.

Bant your allure clearly knows no limits Maybe the Historian will also reappear

Snape I've missed out on nameless too, could I ask for a PM next time you are gazing at his pics?

Mercury - problem is, I am not actually being ignored, I am scared I am going to be. All stems from school days where my class decided that no one was to speak to me for over a term. and no one did - until one person was friendly and others followed, but she later admitted it was only because I was friends with some fit boys in the neighbouring school - friends I made as noone spoke to me in my school. I spent a year having no one speak to me in school

So, I see silence as not a pause in the conversation and tend to tell people to fuck off more often than I should - I see it as not being liked or as a punishment and panic - so a little bit loopy but I am fully aware of it lol

MsC posting to let you know you are not being ignored

i understand now MrsC

good point though..what length of pause in a convo' is ok??

i have charts and spreadsheets showing how quickly he replied vs how quickly i replied, what % of interactions were initiated by which person...guess that makes me loopy!

Bant the Historian might be in a good mood since they found Ricky's bones...today might be a good day!

ike my mum had her eye bags done. Looked awful afterwards but looks amazing now.,my only concern would be making sure the rest if your face matches - iykwim!

OMG MrsC - sorry nothing else will do - I have spent years and years trying to work out why I get so upset when people don't return calls/texts/emails.

You have just turned my blood cold and lit an enormous light bulb, not a bad feat! I had completely forgotten/dismissed the year I spent when 16/17 being completely ignored by my classmates until I changed 6th forms.

I want to cry and laugh all at the same time

I think I've just become hypersensitive to being 'messed around' with the online dating thing...I used to give people the benefit of the doubt, now I give them the cost of the doubt.

I cool off very quickly as soon as the other person does something I dont like

Still keeping everything crossed for you Flipper

3rd date Snape Thrilled for you!

Juliette Oh dear. A prize knob.

Wishing you a speedy recovery Grinchie

Waves to rest of thread

it's not just women who over react to pauses, eg, I exchanged a few messages last night and today with a chap (who seemed normal & sensible) today he said
'I'm Coming off this site... but would like to carry on chatting to you if you'd like'
I read the message, decided to think about it and reply later.
He gave me half an hour and said
'Ok fair enough :( shame. Really fancied the pants off you. Xxx'

I CBA to point out that he's over reacting and now looks like an insecure plonker.

Or does he see himself as some kind of 'limited offer buy now while stocks last'

Today I am freaking out about the STD chat. I don't know when to do it. I've always done it by text before, but I don't want to do it by text with nameless. I can't put it off indefinitely...and it's not fair to prolong it if we start liking each other more and it looks like it might be a 'thing' rather than a 'fling' ... But I don't want to have either kind of conversation yet (STD or good grief where this might end up) because it's too soon, but I'll need to be honest about it.

Bloody buggery fuck. There just isn't a right time with this one. at people who can just have sex

I know if he freaks out, then he's not that nice, but I'm enjoying the giddy-feeling and don't want to crash back to reality yet.

Snape, I appreciate it must be very tricky.

On the one hand, as you say, it's only fair to deal with the subject.
but on the other hand it's a very personal subject and ideally we all like wait until we've known someone for a while before we trust them with things that are very personal.

snape, do you even need to have the talk about it yet. Its only been two dates, and while you have a third planned, its way to early to tell if its a fling or going to be something more... could you not wait until it comes up face to face.... when the momment arises?

flipper, sorry yesterday was inconclusive. I dont know what else to say, but hoping it becomes clear soon.

velv - glad you are feeling better? excited about fri?

mrsc - bless you, are you feeling less sad?

ike - ouch, very brave.

Goat boy has been absolutley lovely today and im very much looking forward to seeing him fri. Hes got two weeks off in 10 days and odd plans have been bandied about......

talking about personnal. i had been going on at goat boy about wanting a pic of him naked in his cowboy boots. he refused on the basis that he didnt want to look like a tit.

I havent asked since sat. This morning, at 7:15, straight when he got home from work, i got a pic. naked, hard cock, cowboy boots. amazing. love it :)
Whats more funny its thats he obviously been thinking about it and planned it and sent it. so, so so funny

This is what I mean about it never being the right time...it seems a bit 'off' to me to have the chat when sex looks imminent...he reaches for a condom, I quip, 'yes...just as well' trousers are put back on and we never speak again...

It's difficult because I think it is on the cards...but because of the big H, I can't just do the casual thing, because it is personal and I have to like and trust someone before the subject is raised...& because it isn't casual, it's something else...or has the potential to be something else.

Snape I hadn't been seeing Mr R&R long before my skin flare up. I felt fucking awful about it, still do if I am honest. We have adapted our sex life to accommodate my issues with it. I told him with the offer of a 'get out of jail free card'. This sort of stuff doesn't come with an easy answer.

He has come through for me so far. I sincerely hope nameless comes through for you.

at cowboy boots and a big......smile.

Snape I do understand your wanting to have the chat, it is a big deal to you, you can't tell how anyone is going to react . It is incredibly personal and only you know when the right time is but it will be bothering you until you do. Face to face has to be better than text.