Dating chat thread still going! Number 39

[lubeybooby]

Here we are all

Dating related chit chat here

That, Lubey, is a young man with an impressive set of biceps. I can see why you were quite so taken with him in your shower.

I know what you mean, Velvet, when I first got together with Maris and he'd told me that he was very keen on being a cunning linguist, I was really worried that it'd been so long since I'd experienced it that I wouldn't like it any more. Hurray ! I do. Booooo - I'm not getting any.

What's he grilling you about, Juliette ? Are you going to kick his ass ?

Oh no shit I forgot, don't look at him without condoms on your eyes, or something.

And I'm giving Nameless and TT each a resounding 9 ( on a scale where 10 is Sweaty Indiana Jones circa 1984 )

Nora, I think I'm a bit out of practice. The Evil Ex and I barely had sex at all for the last few years we were together and there was no oral with the lovely Ex because (and dear god this is going to sound appallingly sad, please have a sickbag ready) we could never bear to stop kissing and gazing into each others eyes for long enough . I think if we'd lasted longer than 6 months and the first flush of love it would have happened at some point.

Am hoping eventually I will feel comfortable enough to let Cuthbert :)

Ryan Adams? hmm no, close but definitely more Ashton Kutcher. Beefier.

this is also a pic of TT, honest, I'm not lying, laalaaala dum de dum

Right, this is probably going to sound really pathetic, but has anyone ever had a dream where they are in a really wonderful relationship- where it so intense and they adored and wanted etc?

I have had these recurring (probably a couple of times a year for since ever) and everytime I wake up it feels as though I am grieving for the lost relationship even though it was just a dream and the feeling stays with me all day.

I know it sounds really pitiful but it really does effect me

It's not as though I am even looking for a relationship now (have committed to taking time out) but the thought of never finding anything like that really makes me feel sad.

I have, keepcalm. And I've lived that relationship before too. With a really wonderful man. Weirdly though I don't actually miss him now, and shock horror I actually know it was right us ending. But the feeling at the time was completely gorgeous and that filters into dreams.

Nah, no sickbags, Velvet. Did you ever say what had happened with Lovely Ex ? ( if it's too upsetting or you're bored of re-telling, just ignore me )

Lubey, that's really weird because I've been looking for a photo of my new fiancé to show you all that, my friends, is a mighty erect sword

No, Keepcalm, I used to have dreams like that all the time about Maris, I'd wake up and be briefly happy, I reckon you should just see it as your brain processing the kind of relationship that you want and preparing you to find that in your life.

keepcalm - I had that dream one time, that I was with someone I wanted to spend my life with, there was a connection and I felt wanted, needed, liked, respected - and I felt all that back for the faceless woman in the dream - in fact I had it a couple of times, and I woke up and the reality of the world hit me and I was hugely depressed. That's why I got divorced.

Oh no have I missed snapes pic, can't see it on your profile.

And on the other recent strand, I spent the past 20 years thinking I hated receiving oral - the past three months have proved otherwise

And Loobey, just Wow!

Bant that reminds me of my house related dreams.

I dream I live in a massive house, or that I find extra rooms I haven't used in my current house. I wake up SO happy thinking yes! I can convert that room today and..... then it hits me... so depressing.

And my house isn't even that bad really especially on space. I just really want more.

I never get the waking up depressed thing with relationship dreams though. Shows where my focus is currently then, maybe...

My gooood I have been taking photos tonight to up date my profile....forget it!! How I have aged in 3 years!!! No way am I using any of them! Not just botox now but dermal fillers as well. Fucking hell! There is no help for me ladies and gents non at all ...howl...

bant but dreams can have that effect, they show you what you want versus what you actually have - I was having these types of dreams even when I was in a relationship and still waking up feeling just as sad. It is almost as if they are a subconsious measure for whether we are satisfied in our current relationships.

wine yes, that makes perfect sense and probably summarises where I am at, I am not being proactive i.e. dating sites etc but if there is someone I am interested in then well, lets see where it goes. And yes, inspite (or maybe because of the oreos!) I do want to be with someone, I do want to be in a relationship but I don't want to take any sort of emotional risk at the moment.....hence, why I will remain single for the time being!

Ike, now stay calm, the lighting was probably rubbish and the camera angles were wrong, there'll be nothing wrong with you. Have you looked at TT yet ? It will make you feel better.

Where the fuck is the pic of Nameless??? Have I missed it??

TT... Hubba hubba!