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Ex is a prick

173 replies

Lovingfreedom · 01/02/2013 18:17

I know I know...I've said it before...anyone interested in a thread where you can just say things like 'my ex is a prick' and other people say 'yeah so is mine'? I've tried wine and I've tried chocolate...but it's just not helping. He's not doing anything illegal, dangerous or frightening...just being self-righteous, entitled, irritating and generally... a prick..

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Lovingfreedom · 04/02/2013 14:59

Squig I know you've already spent £200 but wouldn't it be money well spent if you bought an even bigger card than your ex....afterall size counts! I'd love to see his face when you stagger out with a birthday card the size of a garage door.

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trustissues75 · 04/02/2013 16:17

Yup I have my very own prickity-prick prick-prick-prick here....and he's not going to change. Ah well, lucky me...I don't have to live with him anymore.

marryinhaste · 04/02/2013 16:21

Oh, can I play prick bingo - I also had one who accused me of poisoning him. Where do they get this shit from? There is definitely some sort of prick school where they all compare notes/think up the best ways to display their prickishness!

trustissues75 · 04/02/2013 19:19

OOh...I don't have that one on my list...poisoning him...what a bloody great missed opportunity!!!

marryinhaste · 04/02/2013 23:56

Grin that was my thought when he accused me - why didn't I think of it? Mine went the extra prickish-mile by telling me he'd had a full body scan at the doctors(!) and that was where it was discovered he had been poisoned. I can't believe my children have his genes - let's hope nurture wins out over nature with them!

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 10:57

I know....I've been over and over this and I just can't work out what I was thinking....It's not like I couldn't see he was a prick...it was kind of obvious. Ah well....as trustissues says, 'I don't have to live with him anymore'...this comment is joyful. My prick-ex didn't accuse me of poisoning him...but he did accuse me of destroying his self-esteem....lol....ha ha ha

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OverlyYappyAlways · 05/02/2013 11:18

Oh I should add my prick on ex has a new g.friend and treats her the same. Yeah he's a prick, actually prick isn' t strong enough for him, complete wanker of a prick no... will have a think Grin

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 11:28

My prick-ex is lovely to strangers...couldn't be more charming, generous, helpful etc...but horrible to anyone close to him. I would pity any new partner...I think he should come with a health warning.

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McBuckers · 05/02/2013 17:19

Oh please can I join in!

My ex is a prick, he:

  • Tried to push me into aborting DD3 (it's me or the baby)
  • Drove our eldest 2 children whilst over the limit
  • Hit me round the head in from of DD1
  • Literally kicked me out of bed during an argument
  • Pinned me down on the bed and shouted in my face whilst I was holding DD2
  • Cheated on me when 2 months pregnant with DD3
  • left us 3 months after DD3 was born for someone he'd known for 3 months and had been shagging for 2 weeks
  • Didnt turn up at all one Saturday for contact with the children
  • turned up 5 hours late one Saturday to see kids and claimed train delays when in fact he was staying with the OW at a Holiday Express Inn 5 mins walk from the family home
  • is underpaying maintenance by £100 pound this month and for the next two months because he has no money but has spent £191 on flights to take the OW to Barcelona for Valentines weekend and God knows how much more on the hotel
  • Is perpetually late to pick up the kids claiming traffic delays on the motorways when AA Roadwatch says it's all clear
  • Fails to return practically everything I pack for contact visits: car seat, bottles for DD3, coats for the eldest two, baby's snowsuit
  • Demanded I gave him all the presents his family bought the kids for Christmas

Writing this has made me realise he's even worse than I thought!!!!!

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 17:29

McBuckers - this thread is supposed to make you feel better not worse....your ex sounds like a prize prick...I suppose the one positive to take from this is that presumably you don't have to live with him any more?! ... incidentally, have you ever considered poisoning him?

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McBuckers · 05/02/2013 17:43

Really it has made me feel better because I'm no longer with him and it's only a matter of time before the OW has to put up with his crap! Every time he's at an opening night, press night, after show party she'll be the one wondering what he's up to. It's not my problem any more.

McBuckers · 05/02/2013 18:04

PS - poisoning is far too painless

50shadesofvomit · 05/02/2013 18:11

Marryinhaste- I am crying with laughter at the full body scan. Mine said that I was going to add brake fluid to his coffee. Nice...

marryinhaste · 05/02/2013 18:33

Oh, prick bingo again - this time with loving. My ex is also thoroughly charming to strangers, he even gloats that people love him when they meet him, and that I have no friends. This may be because he was out til 4am every weekend shagging other women playing pool while I was at home dealing with non-sleeping dc2 as a baby. It does dent your social life somewhat being with a prick.

McBuckers · 05/02/2013 19:19

Mine too - thoroughly charming to strangers. Mine even told his parents to "fuck off out of my house" when his dad cooked us a lovely curry made poppadoms etc and STBXH turned up 2 hours after he said he would without any warning and his lovely parents questioned why he couldn't have let us know he'd be late.

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 19:32

Mine invited one of his OW to my 40th and said that she could bring her DS and they could stay over in our house even though we'd told friends & family that we didn't have room to let them stay and that we'd prefer they got babysitters (well he'd prefer they got babysitters...bizarre...I like having all the kids there). He went in a right strop when I told him that they couldn't stay. He actually denied she was OW...saying that 'you must be crazy, she's got a 7 year old son'...as if that meant she couldn't shag... I had a nine year old son at the time and I could. Few months down the line he's taking Ms Unshaggable to Paris for the weekend....well lucky her! I think she's ditched him now... aw shame.

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McBuckers · 05/02/2013 20:00

Lovingthefreedom OMFG - what an arse!

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 20:09

Yes...but that's ancient history...these days he's wondering why I can't just get over it and be friends with him. Came round to my house in tears the other day...he's so depressed you know...poor lamb...

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mrkidd85 · 05/02/2013 21:00

Funny how you all seem to think this after splitting up. Why would you go out with a prick in the first place?

TisILeclerc · 05/02/2013 21:06

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 21:30

Some are born pricks, some achieve prickness and some have prickness thrust upon them...others are decent blokes. What about you Mrkidd? I'm thinking if you've read this thread you would find some evidence of genuine prickness.

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McBuckers · 05/02/2013 21:52

lovingfreedom -is he actually looking to you for emotional support after everything he's done????

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 22:18

I have no idea McB? Any time things don't go his way he either cries, shouts, sulks or issues threats. I try to treat it all with the same indifference. When he came round crying with 'depression' told him to tell someone who gives a shit a doctor. It's harsh but tbh I had it for years and he just took the absolute piss. It is attention seeking self indulgent bullshit.

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Lovingfreedom · 05/02/2013 22:21

Your ex sounds pretty unpleasant McB?wouldn't fancy swapping with you either...

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ninja · 05/02/2013 22:29

Can I join in? (Hi Loving Freedom!)

Mine is a prick and a TWAT - he still tries to control me. He does have the kids and that's part of the problem he wants to have them when it suits HIM.

He went away skiing and then asked for extra days around that - I stupidly said 'yes'

He's taking them away in March on 'my' week and thinks I shouldn't get days back (which means almost 3 weeks seeing them only 2 night)

Thing is - he was never here when we were together! He was always out at football or the pub

He's sabotaged the mediation we were going to by shouting at me and the mediator

I sometimes wish he were worse and I could just break off contact as 18 months after he's left the house he's by far my biggest cause of stress