Officially Divorced as of Today! Couldn't be happier

[YouKnowNothingoftheCrunch]

I've just had confirmation that the divorce has been finalised :)

Haven't been on mumsnet for quite a while, but I just wanted to say an enormous THANK YOU to everyone who ever posted on any of my threads about my EA, 'depressed', officially XH.

I couldn't have done it without you. You stopped me from breaking so many times.

Now I'm incredibly happy. New bloke, new area, new job, new life.

If I'd known this was what life should be I would never have put up with it for so long.

So, thank you MN, you're all amazing

X

And yet he's amazingly oblivious. I've watched him talking to people who I know loath him, and while they are stunted in their politeness he jabbers on without noticing a thing.

He even went round to my friend's when I had told him I was moving and said how worried he was about me and my mental health, and how rubbish my family are at supporting me so I'd be going back to no support and I'd be miserable, and couldn't they persuade me how ridiculous the idea was!

Luckily friend just came straight to me and told me everything.

Oh I do need one bit of advice if anyone has any (should probably start another thread): as you can see now that my eyes are well and truly open I LOATH the fucker and want him to fuck the fuck off. But as the dcs must retain a relationship with him I must continue to have minimal contact.

My question is, how can I get from hating him to not giving a crap. He makes me angry and takes up headspace, because I constantly take the moral high ground and don't react to all his bullshit? And I know this riles him more than ranting would, but it means I don't get to be angry and poor dp ends up comforting me (which he does happily and willingly, but I'd rather he didn't have to).

Any ideas?

one word

and it isn't an easy get-out clause, because there isn't one

time

time is your friend, here

hang in there

Damnit, no quick fix then

Time it shall have to be.

Thanks AF.