Advice please about contacting an old boyfriend

[StretchVelvet]

I'm thinking about contacting an old boyfriend I recently found on FB.

According to his page he is in a relationship. I am single.

I have no wish to cause any problems in his relationship, but I would just like to drop him a line to say hello and just find out how he's doing. I have no wish to meet him in person, not while he's in a relationship.

I'm still not certain that I will send him a message, but any tips on what to say if I do? Keeping in mind that he and his DP may both read each other's FB so what do I write that keeps things light and doesn't make me look like I'm a potential homewrecker?

It's been many, many years and I keep thinking he may not even remember me, but it was a serious and very intense relationship, surely he MUST remember me ? If he doesn't I'll just crawl under the nearest rock and never come out

original thread which has long posts by me is here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1667231-Feeling-stuck-and-sad-about-the-past

If I was in a relationship and didn't trust my DP to handle contact from an ex appropriately, I wouldn't be with him in the first place.

But you can bet your life that if he leaves his current gf for you then that would be because it was fated and that you're soul mates, rather than hes a faithless git.

You are setting yourself up for another fall, I really wish you wouldn't.