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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Wine Witch Into Touch!

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Mouseface · 23/01/2013 17:50

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

Welcome to the Bus. We're a group of posters who have been on a journey to here, there and everywhere when it comes to alcohol and the abusing of it.

Some of us drink, some of us don't at all and some of us are trying to get there, really trying to just stop the cycle, break the habit and calm everything down. Some of us are desperate to not be 'that' person anymore.

One Day At A Time or ODAAT.

So what have you got to lose? Weight? Saggy, puffy eyes each morning? False friends? The risk of cancers and other fatal illnesses......... why not join us?

We have a resident MonsterCat, Wolf called Seth and Squid called Barry (best not to ask about Barry! Grin)

And, if you want to see where we've been so far, the links below will show you. The first ever thread is the best by far, because the OP is just like you. And me.

FIRST EVER THREAD

PREVIOUS THREAD

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ThisIsMyTime · 01/02/2013 13:38

I can relate with twos story very much like mine, I have 2 year old and very stressful job. Normally get to day 4 and think I deserve a "treat" only the WW is not a treat but a bloody pain in the arse! I two would like to wake up every morning without the fog and anxiety ! All of us together can do this and mrs mal i will be cartwheeling if I can get past day 4 and to day 5 like you xx

curryeater · 01/02/2013 15:03

Hi everyone

I am also feeling very tired. Working from home today and the temptation to lie down and nap is almost overwhelming.
dd2 had a very nasty virus and DP and I have it now, he worse than me. But I love the calm of working-at-home days - have changed the dcs sheets, done 3 loads of washing, drunk about 3 pots of tea, received people collecting old baby stuff on freecycle... and done a fair amount of work (not as much as I should have).
Good to hear you feeling better, JWN.

Finding it so hard not to eat all the time these days.

Have a good weekend everyone. Very special best to anyone who finds Friday nights tricky. What about: hot chocolate; green tea; having a long bath; taking to bed early with a book; tea & cake...?
Very best all babes x

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Mouseface · 01/02/2013 15:43

Curry - hello lovely Smile Wow! What a busy day! I get rid of lots of stuff on Freecycle. It's amazing what people want isn't it? You do sound brighter even though you're poorly, sorry about DD too Sad. Big hugs xx

Welcome MyTime - I missed your posts earlier, sorry Blush.

MrsM - good to see you back! Never say ONLY on day 5, day 5 is more than 4, 3, 2 and 1 so it's never an only is it? It's 5 whole days of hard work. The number is irrelevant, you have worked hard to get where you are and you sound much brighter too!

Are you sleeping through the night? Do you get a full 7-8 solid hours or is it a fretful night?

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curryeater · 01/02/2013 16:57

Not a very busy day at all - feeling very guilty about doing so little work and eating so much. but trying to calm myself by telling myself that it is better to take it easy the odd sneaky day than have a nervous breakdown (this is not a figure of speech, it happened in the summer.

I can't believe how light it is at this time! I love it when the days start to feel longer.

I think we are approaching evil hour for some babes: courage, courage mes braves.

ThisIsMyTime · 01/02/2013 18:29

Well just had Indian and relaxing with cup of tea looking forward to sleeping tonight wen I don't drink I sleep like a log and feel great and full of energy the next day bring on tomorrow x

aliasjoey · 01/02/2013 19:05

really frustrated, DH has just said he's arranged to go over to his parents tomorrow.

Its my 2nd rule that I don't drink over there (the 1st rule is not to give chocolate to dogs: its bad for the dog, and it's a waste of chocolate)

I can manage controlled drinking at home. I've done 4 or 5 dinners with the in-laws sober now, it can be done but its BLOODY HARD. Last time I hid upstairs to avoid conversations with my mother-in-law quoting the Daily Mail. I just want a relaxed weekend, maybe I'll drink, maybe not.

I don't wanna go we were there just recently, yeah I know they're his parents, but how do I cope with a line such as "I think some of these girls in the Jimmy Savile case are just jumping on the bandwagon!" without turning to alcohol..?

eminemmerdale · 01/02/2013 19:27

sorry, fallen off :( am having a glass of red (again - bought a bottle today) I don't know why I'm doing this but I know I will regret it tomorrow. What a useless derr brain I am. 'stressful week' doesn't cut it any more, I'm nearly bloody 50, I should know better. Sorry, there goes my smugness.

jesuswhatnext · 01/02/2013 19:39

emin - dont worry about 'smugness'! if ever someone had that disease it was me, i had it by the bucket load! Sad and i am bloody 50 and should have known better - if you can, please tip the rest away, honestly, i have had the most shit couple of weeks, all totally avoidable Sad had i have listened to my own 'smugy' advice - you really arnt a 'useless derr brain'!!

eminemmerdale · 01/02/2013 20:02

thank you - I don't think I can tip it away but I will, I really will start again tomorrow. I know I am going to feel grim in the morning, I know I'm going to regret it, but I'm on glass three now and - well - sod it :( Please don;t throw me out :(

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Mouseface · 01/02/2013 20:10

Em - NO ONE GETS THROWN OUT!!! xx

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ThisIsMyTime · 01/02/2013 20:16

Jws can I just say how much u inspired me I read the entire first ever thread before I picked up the courage to post. Just felt like you should no this x

ThisIsMyTime · 01/02/2013 20:20

Jwn

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Mouseface · 01/02/2013 20:21

Em - Read my OP..... the one ^ up there..... where does it say anyone drinking will be chucked off the Bus? Come here lovely, there's a huge corner seat, near the heater, there's fleecy blankets and water for those who are dehydrated, paracetamol, food of your choice.... lots of warm hugs..... whatever you need to get through the low tomorrow/now/later. xx

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determinedma · 01/02/2013 20:32

Hi all and welcome newbies.
I've really fallen off the wagon but plan to get back on track with the exercise, dieting, and dry days.going to get back into it, I have to. I was doing so well then hit the self destruct button as usual.
Yes, mouse bro met with his counsellor today.he missed his meeting with mum but phoned to say he was OK and had had " a good session" with his counsellor and was going home to tidy up and do some washing. All sounds good and positive......

eminemmerdale · 01/02/2013 20:40

thank you. I will sit in the corner for a bit with my monster cat, stroking him and snuggling and thinking about why on earth I have done this again. Smile

ThisIsMyTime · 01/02/2013 20:47

Try not to punish yourself em tomorrow is a new day for you to start again you can do it

aliasjoey · 01/02/2013 20:51

emin no-one is thrown off the Bus! they just get tucked up in the sidecar for the night.

Just told DH I didn't want to go to PILs tomorrow (I just said we wanted a quiet weekend at home - I didn't mention that his bloody mother would drive me to undo 4 WEEKS of sobriety)

He's cross. The in-laws are disappointed. Sigh.

StepAwayMister · 01/02/2013 21:47

joey I have opted out of a night out tonight. DHs friends, DH slightly miffed BUT they will be drinking and I don't want to put myself into a difficult situation yet. It's self protection - they'll get over it x

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Mouseface · 01/02/2013 22:09

Off to bed in the hope that I can get some sleep before Nemo wakes. Even though DH gets up, he still wants me so I have to get up.

Last night it was 2am. He's been to school today and was upset apparently, but he's getting there without me, good days and bad. Same as everything with life I guess.

Joey & MrsM - I'm sorry sweets but you HAVE to self preservate! DH's will get over it, as will ILs. People without drinking problems don't understand just how hard it is to not pick up a bottle of wine and down the fecking lot and them some!

Do what YOU have to do to preserve what you have worked so Jeff damn hard for this week, last week, last month (tis feb now), and even tonight!

Keep going, keep saying no to the WW, tell her to Fuck The Fuck Off and them some more!

Take care my lovely Babes, I'm leaving DH up with his bottle of red. We had to change Nemo's feeding tube tonight and DH had to hold him down. Nemo hates being pinned down, DH hates having to do it but it's only when I need to pass a new tube.

The alternative is going to hospital and waiting for a nurse to try. Without sedation and most likely experience so I do it here, at home and it takes me 2 mins max. It just upsets us all.

Anyway, it's done for another 6 weeks. I'm going to go and kiss him goodnight one more time until he wakes and tell him how much I love him, more than ever.

Night night all. Stay safe xx

PS - Ma - weigh in Monday? New start and we'll do it together? Have you heard from your bro? xx

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aliasjoey · 01/02/2013 23:26

Thanks mouse you're right about the in-laws, I just feel guilty because I could have tried but couldn't be bothered. Sometimes it is a lot of effort...

Hope you and all the mouse family sleep well tonight.

MsGee · 02/02/2013 07:40

Hi, it's been a long time since I was on the bus but I need to climb aboard again. (Shufflehugs to anyone who remembers me).

If its ok, I'll just sit quietly for a while.

Today I will not be drinking. Today is day 1.

KoalaKube · 02/02/2013 08:26

Hello MsGee and welcome back to the bus, I'm fairly new on the bus only joined in December- but hugs from me to you. Remember all the things we learn here ODAAT, HALT looking after yourself and eating and drinking well.

I've a houseful of girlies DDs and friends for the weekend but will check in from time to time. No AA today as we're all going out, but I'm going to try to do a Fast today (why do I test myself like this )? as still plateauiing weight wise.

Have a good day Babes I WILL NOT BE DRINKING TODAY

guggenheim · 02/02/2013 09:03

Morning lovely babes

I'm not posting much because I've actually had to do some work Smile
I'm doing ok and thinking of you all. Welcome to new babes- good on you for getting on the bus.

Can I have a shiny badge or an opal fruit please? Dh has man flu and so far I have been nice to him. it may kill me Grin

NewYearNewMia · 02/02/2013 09:18
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Hello MsGee, welcome back. How's little missGee?

Mouse no probs, I just didn't want you to order a bra that didn't fit and then go 'D'oh!' when it arrived! Grin If you've had a fitting then I'm sure that'll be right. I think you can buy 'chicken fillets' - squishy things to go at the bottom or bras to fill out and push up your norkage. That would probably do the trick for the H cup one?

NewYearNewMia · 02/02/2013 09:25

Joey my daily wail reading MIL made the exact same comment about the Saville case. I just say 'mmmmm' and change the subject, usually, same as when she mentions immigrants! I don't see much point in trying to change people's points of view, usually, when they are older and entrenched in their ignorance. I sometimes haul my mail-reading mum up on things, but it's like trying to push water uphill to be honest - just focus on the positives about them and ignore the negatives, like with a toddler! Grin

Having said that, I still couldn't (yet!) contemplate a completely alcohol free evening with either, so I feel your pain.