The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Wine Witch Into Touch!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're a group of posters who have been on a journey to here, there and everywhere when it comes to alcohol and the abusing of it.

Some of us drink, some of us don't at all and some of us are trying to get there, really trying to just stop the cycle, break the habit and calm everything down. Some of us are desperate to not be 'that' person anymore.

One Day At A Time or ODAAT.

So what have you got to lose? Weight? Saggy, puffy eyes each morning? False friends? The risk of cancers and other fatal illnesses......... why not join us?

We have a resident MonsterCat, Wolf called Seth and Squid called Barry (best not to ask about Barry! )

And, if you want to see where we've been so far, the links below will show you. The first ever thread is the best by far, because the OP is just like you. And me.

FIRST EVER THREAD

PREVIOUS THREAD

Thanks Help, Guggs and Mrs . Unfortunately, I can't go to an evening class as I live in the middle of nowhere, not even in the UK!!! Moved here for the peace and quiet and dear God is it peaceful and quiet esp this time of year. It's so weird really, when your dcs are small, you can just long to be left alone for a bit of 'me' time and some sleep!! But, they grow up and suddenly they're gone and you wonder where the time went! All you babes with dcs, give them a big hug (yes even the teenaged horrors darlings) and enjoy them. I'm not old enough (yet) for a Saga cruise or to take up bowls or whatever, so I'll cook my little socks off and join you all on here from time to time. I love the fact that you are all so supportive of each other. JWN I hope your day got better and better and that you have a peaceful and happier evening. x

So, today I have had 1 crumpet and of smidgen of spread - 90 cals, 3x oat cake 46 cals each and another smidgen of low fat soft cheese and chive spread, 20 cals =248 calories in total.

Four pints of water. I'm going to have some light hot choc later, 41 cals leaving me with 211 cals.

I am going to have half a portion of veg soup which has 96 cals, and some fruit, not sure what yet. But I'll be under 500, I think, for the day

Tomorrow is going to be kebabs all day long!

Thurso - Hello lovely. I'm so glad that you posted today in response to JWN. I sat nodding in agreement with every word, as I have with all of the posts, and thinking just how wonderful this place is. Fab to see you xxxx

JWN... Just rejoined mumsnet so I could post, thinly disguised variation on name number one.
Though we never met, you saved me, and I want you to know that. You also saved yourself, and goodness knows how many more.
Solidarity dear friend if I dare to presume such a relationship. I wish you big cushion -y love strength and be kind to yourself vibes.
One day at a time.
Love xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Algeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

Hello! xx

Thank you mouse! Really felt moved to hold hands with jesus...

Hi babes, managed to dodge the ww bullet for the first time in weeks, in no small part down to the genuine affection and kindness you guys show to me and each other. Your faith in me has given me a bit of faith back in myself. jesus I hope your feeling a little better, there is a mountain of love here for you, you began this amazing journey and we follow you, an army of babes inspired by you, you have changed lives and brought this amazing group of women together. Awesome. Lovely posts from everyone today, that ww must be cowering in a corner somewhere cos she sure as hell ain't in my crib!! X x

baby well done babexx

green you have helped me a great deal today, thank you and a big hug x x x

well, i seem to have something in my eye.... you really are a fantastic bunch of friends, how lovely to read such nice things about me when tbh, i have felt lower than whale shit today - im sober this evening, its been a bloody long day but im in my pjs now, didnt actually get to AA, (although i have been talking on the phone with members) dh needed to talk and i needed to listen - he wants me to stop work, not all together but cut down to realistic levels, he suggests 2 days a week, he suggests some time at home just 'pottering', he wants to look after me and see me get well again - as soon as he said it i felt a huge weight come off me, sounds silly i know, i have a lovely life, a lovely home etc etc but im just struggling right now, i miss dd more and more, i feel unreasonably jealous when i see teenagers with their mothers, i want her back (which is ridiculous and unfair of me) dh is away a lot and i think i have been kind of 'loosing' myself again iyswim?

so, today is the first day, im starting at the begining again, one thing that i have felt all day, i dont feel the terror of not drinking this time, i know im not alone, i know i have all of you here who understand, its a very wonderful feeling!!!

jesus there is an advert on tv for a holiday company, from the moment he leaves his house til he gets to the hotel everyone is cheering for him high fiving him and the implication that he is a legend to all around him,
If we were all together in real life and you walked in that how i imagine it would be, do you know the one I mean?!x

Can I say how wonderfully understanding your DH is? Look at the difference between this time and the last. He wanted you out of his life. This time he wants you in his life, forever. He can see why this has happened, he can actually appreciate what you are going through, he finally gets it and bloody hats off to him for sure!

You need to listen, yes siree Mrs. Get thee pottering just like before. Yes, work got busy, real busy and he needed you to be there much more but now he can see that the cost to you, to your health, to both of you is not worth it. Not one bit.

If he can manage without you there, then do something else. For you. Find a hobby, meet up with friends, hell, why not drive the Bus for a bit and come see some of us Babes? A UK and beyond tour?

You'd be welcome at Chez Mouse any time and would even have your very own log cabin, yes, really!

This has all happened so fast in the grand scheme of things but it has to stop NOW. Well done lovely lady for posting, for being totally honest with yourself, for getting up from the floor and taking action TODAY.

I know you miss DD . Have you thought about a pet? Seriously? Why not? I love having Seth here when DH is not. Especially when DD AND DH aren't here! I am not good at alone and knowing he's here when I'm without adult company, really makes me feel needed. You need to feel needed again. xx

Oh lovely lady, you have so much more to give, you are this thread. You are THE BRAVEST BABE OF ALL!

Oh, and BTW, today I am not drinking either and that's down to YOU xx

Well done on today Baby!! Good on you!! xx

Right, my night is almost over on t'interweb. Nemo has school tomorrow, I managed to leave after only ten minutes of settling on Monday so he is really making MASSIVE progress in terms of separation anxiety, bless him.

I'm off to get my Death In Paradise fix...... white sandy shores, pale blue waters..... ahhhhhhhhhhh.

Night Brave Babes, I love this Bus, the support here is amazing, no matter what. xx

PS - JWN - I'm not normally a 'God' person, I do believe that there is something or someone out there, but today I said a little 'prayer' for you and your family. Just a little bit of extra help from Jeff knows who. Take care dear lady, sleep well xx

help thank you so much for thinking of us and Richard today. I'm just going to phone mum and see if he turned up to meet her today as planned.
Slight distraction in that all the lights in the house have gone off and we have no fuse wire to fix the old fashioned fuse box.candles all round. Have totally failed on the diet, booze and exercise front today. Hey ho, tomorrow is another day.

thurso glad to see you again. Stop lurking and get back on here!

So lovely to see some of the 'old' babes popping up to show support and share some of their stories. I'm sure there are many more lurkers sending love and best wishes over the airways. Well done all those not drinking today.

I've had such a busy day and am bushed. DH is just making me hot a drink and then I'll be off to bed to read for a bit.

Another day, done and dusted. Sleep well babes, stay safe, stay strong x

ma no one failed today, not even Barry. Hope that your brother turned up to meet your mum.

Night lovely babes

jesus and Ladame I really identify with the empty nest fear. I've got 2 half flown and one still here; the one at home and I went to see Les Misérables this evening again, masochistically .
I had promised myself I'd then go to AA. It's 2 months since I last went, when significantly the main chair talked about the relapses before the relapses. At the time I recognised I was doing that- isolating, detaching from AA, getting really busy and ignoring the HALT triggers.
So, because it works for me, I'm going to AA tomorrow.

baby a big hug back, hope it goes well tomorrow

ma hope it was good news from your mum. Very tired so waves and says night night to all the other lovely brave babes, you all rock! Xx

Hey Babes, have read back but too knackered to post much after busy birthday day for DD.

Just wanted to say, though, that JWN you are the Babe who created this amazing bus with your honesty and your journey, and that you have been the inspiration and the strength for so many other Babes to move on in their lives and away from alcoholism. I hope you can take some of that strength and inspiration back now when you need it. It's a timely reminder, I think, that the booze beast can always sneak up and bite you on the arse if you get complacent. I bet you've helped even more people by falling off the wagon (temporarily of course) and reminded us all of how careful we need to be with this thing.

Popping in as a reader to add another great big hug to JWN, you lovely, lovely lady

There is a children's book about a sea-creature called Barry

Speaking of books I bought "No Matter What" following chat on here and read it to my DS who has autism. He was telling me that he loves me very much and that love like starlight never dies at 4 a.m

I wonder if you all realise how much good you are doing? These threads make me proud to be a MNer

Morning babes checking in, no booze for me since 19th jan & for the first first time last night slept well, fell asleep at 7:30pm then til pretty much 6am...unheard of! Feel wow! JWN your plan to cut back hours and your husband both sound awesome! Hope today is a new & better day for you lovely creator of the bus babe!
Wishing all babes a good day x

Morning Babes,

Morning Clutter, glad you slept well, the sleep really does get better doesn't it?
JWN I hope you slept, and that you feel better this morning. I should think you are pretty exhausted, look after yourself and try some "pottering" today, if you can. xxxx
Mouse I hope *Nemo's morning goes well, can't believe he's such a big boy now!

Well, I got up, made Dh's two salads (he's on the 5:2 diet, and is sticking to it [ ), I just can't seem to do it for myself, I tried, but I just end up thinking about food ALL day , not how it's suppose to work, I believe!!

Have good days all
xxxxx

Morning BBs
Love and HALT to all, I'll be thinking of you all, as well as Nemo and Richard.

Haha I lurve the picture of Barry, is it our Barry masquerading as a squid? Hmmh, the plot thickens

JWN hope you are feeling a little more positive this morning. Remember to plan your time, your meals, your drinks so that nothing will sneak up on you.

I find I don't get big cravings now, or haven't for ages anyway, but it was always the 'whisperings' that tripped me up. Someone talked about the WW whispering in your ear and I though, yeah, that's it.

The conversation in my head goes a bit like this

Me in the morning: I feel great, so glad I didn't drink yesterday, not going to drink today.
Me all day, fine: La, la, la
Me coming home from work tired and hungry.
WW: You're tired, a glass of wine would be nice
Me: Yes, I know I'm tired but I'm not drinking today
WW: You need a sugar boost, just one glass would hit the spot
Me: Yes, I know I'm hungry but I'm not drinking today. I'll have something to eat.
WW: You could just have one glass with your meal
Me: Yes I could but I'm not drinking today
WW: You don't have to drink the whole bottle, you could share it with DH
Me: Yes I could but I'm not drinking today

You can see where this is going . It's called the 'broken record' approach and that's why, for me, making that decision in the morning is so important. Job done. Not going to entertain any ideas of drinking because I don't need to.

Happy Hump Day babes, have a good one.