Posted not long aga about my exp not being interested in dcs and had some good advice.
Just to update im now changing dcs names back to my surname. After no word from him for 3 months i gave him 24 hours to let me know if he wanted to be a dad and heard nothing (and hes shacked up with some new woman already ) so he has no rights to have the same surname imp. Cant change birth certificate details but can start calling them by my name i think.
Anyway all this stress of his emotional and verbal control over the 3 years we eere together and then cold turkey now hes gone has had an affect on me and dd. Luckily ds is too young at only 1 to understand.
I dont know whether dd(2) remembers her dad or misses him as she never speaks of him but over the last few weeks she has become withdrawn and sad , not wanting to sleep, mood swings and kind of a loss of enjoyment with life . Its so hard to see her like this i just feel helpless and im trying my level best with all 4 dcs (two older from a previous relationship) and no outside support.
I think i shuld take her to the docs to rule out anything physical but the thing im ashamed of is maybe its me! I lose it and shout and sometimes its all too much. Maybe i need counciling to make her better if it is my fault. All i want to be is a good mum and im getting it so wrong.