Posted not long aga about my exp not being interested in dcs and had some good advice.
Just to update im now changing dcs names back to my surname. After no word from him for 3 months i gave him 24 hours to let me know if he wanted to be a dad and heard nothing (and hes shacked up with some new woman already ) so he has no rights to have the same surname imp. Cant change birth certificate details but can start calling them by my name i think.
Anyway all this stress of his emotional and verbal control over the 3 years we eere together and then cold turkey now hes gone has had an affect on me and dd. Luckily ds is too young at only 1 to understand.
I dont know whether dd(2) remembers her dad or misses him as she never speaks of him but over the last few weeks she has suffered night terrors, not wanting to sleep, withdrawn, bouts of sadness out of the blue. Today i took her to playgroup and sshesssssso quiet and sad just not like her at alll. She also shakes and