it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

[lulubellaboozle]

Post away daters x

[lubeybooby]

Nope still nothing... off to run a bath anyway

[MsArsebiscuit]

Any chance he's having a siesta to preserve his strength for this evening ?

[lubeybooby]

Could be... he didn't confirm til quite late last time either (he was just checking it was still ok before he left I think as he has a 30 min drive) but we had been text chatting and sorting out the time the night before, this time we haven't

[BillMasen]

Hi all. Very nice date last night. Drinks, very good food (I paid). Back to hers for Coffee and yes I did "stay out" whoever asked. Then been to pick my kids up so you're getting a quick update while they're in the bath .

It's all fine, slow and no pressure.

[48howdidthathappen]

Bill No pressure. My sort of thing

Lubey TT could be having a kip. Men do seem able to drop off any time of day.

[lubeybooby]

still nothing and I'm pretty much ready...

Wondering at what point do I give up and invite The Stig over instead

[SweetSeraphim]

I'd ring him Lubey, and say just that. "Hi - are you still on for tonight? Because if not, I'm going to make other plans"

[lubeybooby]

He just text... said mine had only just come through asked if I had started cooking yet and said he has to be honest he feels lousy... I replied not cooking but did get stuff in especially, but I'm not gonna drag him over here if he's ill. Will see what he says (hoping it's a 'just woke up' kind of lousy and that he will perk up... )

Ah! He just replied. Claiming 'onset of manflu' and he's going to have a lemsip and see if it helps.

I said to let me know by 7ish

[Alittlestranger]

I have a date next week with someone who is far too attractive for me and I know is going to be disappointed. I will be his learning curve to trust the least attractive picture.

I hate feeling like this because it makes me really un-flirty because I know I hate it when people I'm not attracted to flirt with me and I don't like doing it to other people. I think OD is starting to give me ishoos...

[lubeybooby]

Alittle - just flirt anyway! Doesn't have to be blatant. Nothing wrong with a slightly cheeky glint in the eye and air of flirty mischief.

I was convinced there was no way TT was attracted to me but well, he was...

[Bant]

stranger the fact that you think he's attractive is a good thing. The fact you think he's too attractive is possibly down to your self esteem. He asked you out, didn't he? How about you let him judge what's attractive to him.

He could be thinking he doesn't stand a chance with you, as you're great. Going into it with a 'you're far too good' for me is going to put people off.

He fancies your pictures, he wants to spend time with you, you're a catch, ok?

[Scrazy]

lubey hope his lemsip kicks in.

Alittlestranger. He is lucky you agreed to a date, keep that in mind.

Another lonely Sat night in for me :( No dates on the horizon and all quiet from the last one, but that's a good thing in the long run.

[JayARC]

Hello daters, can I join? I'm in the middle of cooking dinner for a guy I've been seeing for a couple of months, who is actually a great example of self absorbed, arrogant, critical, makes me generally feel rubbish - he IS a red flag...ishoos? Well mine are clearly alive and well - he's just affirming quite how little self worth I have left. Once this is over (bound to be soon) I need to work on my confidence before I set foot near a man. Turns out I can't do casual and I can't do receiving no positive affirmation whatever. Who knew? I did! But clearly needed to learn the lesson again. It is with heavy heart tonight I cook this meal, which will inevitably be criticised. Even I think "I'm better than this shit".

I've been following this thread and thought I'd delurk for moral support, to give and receive.

Plus even with the sex I think he's the most selfish lover I've ever met. So the question is why am I a masochist. Gah.

Have a good night all

[Alittlestranger]

Thanks guys. Will bring my A game and see what happens.

[grinchie]

Jay why are you still with him? Stop!
Tell he's dumped & he can shove it then get under the shower while the night is yet young, go out & see a friend/out on the town/get a bottle of wine and your favourite takeaway and a dvd just for you.

Why put up with it?

[lubeybooby]

JayARC wouldn't you have a better time cancelling, eating the food yourself, and erm... attending to yourself in other ways shall we say rather than putting up with that shit?

Then you have an easy way to end it too. Cancel due to being ill, then be ill an awful lot. Forever.

[grinchie]

Sorry, yes stranger Bants is on the money on this one too - let him decide what's attractive.
If you are having a low day channel Debbie Harry circa 1979 (or insert your own foxy inspiration here) that's what I always do, it gives me the kick to get out of the door.

[48howdidthathappen]

Jay Cancel. Cancel. Cancel.

Take control. You will be empowered. It is a good feeling

[KirstyWirsty]

What grinchie said Jay

[Bant]

jay I agree with lubey. Cancel cos you're sick. Then dump. Most of us are on this thread because we didn't want to spend our lives being treated like shit, and are hopeful there's something better. Cancel, dump, date and find someone better, or just treat yourself better than he does

[MsArsebiscuit]

Jay, another one saying ditch the git and tell him to make sure the door doesn't hit him on the arse on the way out. He's a tosspot.

[ike1]

Lubes...whats the story on TT? Torso Rubber has just informed me he has a work shift tonight...Lol reminds me of why we are not 'together'...that's ok as an easy going friendship thing I am fine with loose arrangements broken. I think for me until I find someone really worthwhile keeping a few male 'friends' is the way to go ...little investment then hopefully not too much disappointment...

[ike1]

Jay deffo dont bother...why are you putting yourself through that??? Actually Bill your situ with Geek Girl would be fine by me...nice!

[48howdidthathappen]

How are you Bant? Still finding plenty of humour in life I hope

[lubeybooby]

Not heard anything ike so guess I'm eating my quesadillas by myself then!

Texted The Stig no reply from him either but he was a long shot anyway at such short notice. Oh well I'm not all that bothered to be honest.

Would have been nice making use of a kid free night for some debauchery but I'm very happy in my own company and enjoying the peace and quiet!