The all new, sparkly,2013 Dating Thread - 35!

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Oh I know...but I am booooored though ...and he might flatter my aging ego....but more likely give me raging cystitis with his massive donger...Really I just want what I had with Mr Torso Rubber (which was meeting twice a week to watch a film, meal and occasional sex) but with someone supportive and NICE.

Pah ...its a no goer ...he's just gonna pester me for sex isnt he? Give me a good ol pounding and then on the the next one...sounds hellish to me. Thanks Ladies.x

NICE is seriously underated. Only took 48 years to find that out.

Ike he would flatter your ego right as long as he thinks he will be having sex with you. Not nice, and yes nice is the way to go. Why would you go for anything less?

Oh 48 I am a bore though lol an odd bore ...think this is why I need to change my profile pics cos ahem... I do look younger than my years on them but in a an alternative wacky kinda way. Which attracts the attention of young guys but not the attention of the more sophisticated guys my age ,,iyswim

Crossed post Ike

I am open minded and wacky and all of that but pretty bloody boring too..oh god what a shit combo...

Yeah Juliette thats what I reckon too. Ah well...fine if I was up for a hot sesh but thats kind of the antithesis of who I am..oh well ..plod...

I wouldn't alter your look. It is who you are

Yeah I wont alter my look exactly just maybe present it more sophisicatedly have some shots of the hair up or something...dunno... Ill think it through..

Hello, can I join you guys?

I've been reading the MN dating threads for ages and ages and have decided to have another crack at OD myself, after a year off.

Which is scary, because I have the world's worst dating history (pretty much a full checklist of every type of cynic and liar it's possible to run into). (Not that I'm bitter.)

My last OD guy was actually very sweet and awfully kind, although slightly immature, and we absolutely did. not. click sexually.

Anyhoo, to celebrate the New Year I joined POF (God help me) and blocked 5 guys within the first hour (no shit) and have already had a decent haul of 'hi hun hows yr day been so far' kind of messages.

I've also already found someone on the site whom I knew vaguely through a shared sporting activity I used to do, I had a MASSIVE crush on him, he's gorgeous and has the best profile on there to boot. So I've been clicking his pic like a demon.

I haven't put any photos up yet. Does anyone else try to do this without photos? My number 1 reason is that I photograph really badly. Like, REALLY badly. If the camera adds 5lb to most people it adds 15 to me, and I'm inevitably pulling a toilet face. The other reason is that I've got an abusive ex (father of DS) who's been a pain in the past regarding my new relationships, whether real or imagined by him. I'd hate for him to see me on a dating site, it would lead to nastiness or stalking I'm sure. But you can't explain that to strangers on an OD profile, can you.

OK that's me! (!)

Tamoo I feel for you ...that is a tough all re the ex I suppose you could send e-mail attachments to the select few you chose to contact?

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Ike if you're not getting the results you want, I would try a change. It is still you, just the version you want to present. A change of pic has had success elsewhere, so why not.

Tamoo you need a photo but you could always keep your profile hidden and send a pic to those you decide to message.

Tamoo, I have a profile on POF, it's very short and doesn't have a photo. Get some messages and only reply to a couple. Also send some out then send a picture if they ask. I'm not doing very well with this.

Hello Tamoo, Ike's suggestion seems pretty logical, in fact I'm sure there's someone on here who has done precisely that, can't remember who at the moment because I've had a shite day and barely remember my own name

Its Arse MsArse (helpful).

Tamoo that's a tricky one. Problem is that a lot of people ignore profiles with no photos or assume there's no pic for a dodgy reason. My first thought would be that the person is in a relationship or married.

In an ideal world, you shouldnt have to worry about your ex, and I'd say get a friend to take loads of pictures from different angles and you'll find at least one passable one but only you know really if putting a photo up is likely to trigger something with your ex. Does he live in the same area? Do you have any court orders against him?

Not only are you helpful, Ike, you are also dead sophisticated

Yes Arse in a boring yet wacky kinda way!!

Ike you're not boring. Your posts really cheer me up.

You are not boring, Ike, I'd definitely go on the razz with you. Obviously as I'm not a hot but nice bloke, that's not your dream evening but you know, the thought's there.

Tamoo I've never not had a pic on a dating profile

I think it really is important - I tend to completely ignore anyone without one, they could have the worlds best profile and first message to me and I'd never know because I never even look, I see it's a pic-less profile and just delete. Although, some of that may be to do with me presuming guys are married/attached if they don't have a pic on there. I am not sure whether men think the same way about female pic-less profiles?

I would at very least have one uploaded privately that you can include when messaging people

I know the unphotogenic feeling but with a webcam and some pic capture software you can snap away at all angles til you find one you like. You could even then open it in 'paint' and spray paint over your eyes or something. Even having a pic with a hint of a smile and most identifying bits obscured would be better than nowt. Might help?