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Hope on a Rope - J and J needs some support please.

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lazarusb · 02/01/2013 18:38

Hello everyone. J and J has PMed me and asked me to start this thread for her. She is going to try and check in soon. Unfortunately her dh is ill again, I don't know details but she appreciates all messages and support we can give her again. She is so grateful for all the support she received last year and is sorry she didn't make it back onto the thread before it filled up.

So, hope to see all your friendly faces back on here again soon!

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dondon33 · 23/02/2013 10:54

Hi Homebird hope you're well.
:) Yeah I can remember the tiredness - it's like a form of narcolepsy isn't it - one minute you're awake, the next you're out :)
I'm still battling not to symptom spot - so far so good and anyway only 4/5 days before I should naturally find out.

Hope everyone's well x

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lazarusb · 23/02/2013 13:04

Ooh dondon - I'm living vicariously through you a bit - the anticipation and excitement! Fingers crossed for you. Well done for not symptom spotting.

My first pg was unplanned, I was on the pill for the first 9 weeks, drinking and smoking, completely oblivious. I'd had what I thought was a light period at about the right time, put the change down to stress (I was doing my A levels Confused). It was only when the next period didn't arrive that a bell started ringing. So symptom spotting would have been pointless for me! Every symptom I'd had I attributed to stress Grin

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dondon33 · 23/02/2013 13:27

Thanks Lazarus One of the girls on the conception board has just announced a BFP :) - her first month and DC no4 too. but she done some early testing to find out.... I'm so trying to fight doing it.

I fell with Dc1 and Dc2 while on the pill but I started feeling weird around the 5/6 week mark and took a test - with the 1st I thought I'd maybe forgot a pill, with the 2nd I was like - WTH??? I knew I hadn't missed one nor been ill.
My 3rd was completely accidental so all of this symptom spotting and fighting it is new to me.

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Homebird8 · 23/02/2013 20:06

Hi to you too Dondon. Yep, all's well here. We have finally put the last of our Christmas visitors back on a plane. It's a long time from the 17th December until the 21st February. Remind me of that next year. Mind you, nobody asked us about dates before they all booked their flights!

Still got the remnants of Summer here although we're starting to get signs that the season is turning. I can't get used to Spring and Autumn being in the wrong months. The Summer and Winter swap is fine but surely Easter and Spring are inextricably linked aren't they? Too confusing for my little brain... I'll be getting it wrong when I'm an old lady and the DSs will be rolling their eyes about their BritisherMama.

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lazarusb · 24/02/2013 10:56

Hello Homebird, I think I'd find the Easter spring thing a bit difficult to get used to as well. I can't believe you have visitors for such a long time! But I suppose if you will emigrate somewhere which is warm and sunny in the winter....! Grin

Enjoy the rest of the summer. Spring visited us fleetingly but it's cold enough to have been snowing again. Roll on some sunshine and a bit of warmth!

dondon I admire your resilience in holding out. You can drive yourself mad trying to decide whether to test or not. The time will come one way or another and I hope you will get a BFP very soon.

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dondon33 · 24/02/2013 19:32

Shock Wow! homebird that's a long Christmas :)

I'm with you both - I can't imagine Easter and spring without seeing baby chicks and daffodils.

You'll not believe what happened to me last night......
Got an out of the blue message from a cousin I've not spoken to for ages, saying.....
Strange question for you cuz, are you pregnant?
He'd seen a psychic last week who told him - your eldest cousin, who you've not seen for a long time is pregnant.
I'm his eldest cousin! Shock :)

So even if I'm not lucky this month - 't'other side' knows what I'm planning :)

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lazarusb · 25/02/2013 12:56

Ooh...I had a neighbour who was heavily into woo (no disrespect intended). She asked me out of the blue one day how far along I was, I replied that I wasn't. She insisted I was...got BFP a week later with ds2 (just a few days late).

My Nan used to read Tarot and told me when I was about 16 that I'd have 3 children. There would be a big gap between the first 2, but numbers 2 & 3 would be much closer together. I was sceptical - after ds1 I definitely didn't want any more! But then I met dh....

If the spirits are on your side that can't be bad Smile

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dondon33 · 25/02/2013 15:49

If the spirits are on your side that can't be bad

That's what I'm thinking too, positivity from any area is more than welcome :)
I used to be sceptical about them but I've seen a few brilliant ones, I can't deny that they don't have a gift.
Spooky isn't it? My gran, my mum and myself were all told I'd have twins, after my 3 I didn't imagine I'd ever have more and now that's stuck in my mind again :) please just one at a time, I'm too old to manage twins :)
When I was newly pregnant with my second I was with my Dm at a psychic party and my dm came out from seeing the lady and said - ' dondon please be careful because she told me I was going to get another GS very soon, your still on the pill aren't you?'
I took that opportunity to announce that I was already 2 months gone :) I'd been putting off telling her because I thought she'd be furious a) I was still very young and b) DS1 was only 14 months - turns out the psychic lady kinda done it for me :)

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lazarusb · 25/02/2013 18:05

Grin After a particularly bad year of my life I saw a medium. I thought I would be sceptical but I just needed someone to tell it was going to get better. I still talk to my Grandparents and friends at times. I know dh thinks I'm daft - he's very straight down the line - but if I believe they are rooting for me, it really gives me confidence.

The spirits are definitely pre-occupied with pregnancy around you aren't they?! Grin Hopefully they're pulling a few strings for you up there!

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dondon33 · 25/02/2013 18:43

Shock You're right there :)
My dp doesn't believe neither but then he's never experienced anything remotely paranormal.

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Homebird8 · 25/02/2013 19:22

Ah now, here's my story to add to the mix. DH and I were trying for a baby. Our first son was born too soon and didn't make it and we were obviously grieving and hoping all intermixed. One Sunday morning, I was sitting in church with DH on my right hand side. There was nobody to my left. And then all of a sudden I could feel a presence there. A substantial, warm, comforting presence. The feeling was so strong I actually remember laying my head sideways, away from DH, as if to lay it on the shoulder of the 'person' sitting next to me and I could feel an arm around me. And at the same time I could hear a voice, a man's voice, saying, "There's a little boy waiting."

I must have been three weeks at the time, way before you could test that early, and didn't find out for another ten days.

To this day I don't know whether the 'little boy' is the one we lost, Christian David, or our new baby boy who needed to wait another 38 weeks to be born and turn into the wonderful young man he is now. Having got the child I now call, erroneously, DS1 here with me, I'm sort of hoping the one waiting is Christian and that one day we'll be together.

Enough. Babies are all a miracle. And despite your protestations Dondon, I hope you do get those twins. Each child brings a blessing. Smile

The final twist to the story is that Christian actually had a twin who I lost at only 7 weeks. I'll never know for sure, but I think she was a little girl. No messages about her though!

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dondon33 · 25/02/2013 20:10

Homebird I'm so sorry that happened, I've got tears streaming here.
What happened to you in church, gave me goosebumps - it's just not to explain is it. You could be clairaudient.
I hope it's Christian too and I hope that your little girl waits with him - they have a connection that can't be broken whether in this world or the spirit world.

I've had many 'not to explain' situations and also I've seen ghost's/spirit's with my own eyes - a few that I didn't know but more so my own family members -
I've been told that I have 'the gift' particularly in the clairvoyant and Clairsentience area's, and if only I'd stop being afraid and learn to use it properly then I'd be able to understand a lot more. Confused One day, maybe I'd like to but I'm not ready yet to take it further.

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Homebird8 · 26/02/2013 07:16

Thanks Dondon. I think the thing I have learned most in life is that you never know what is going on in other people's lives. I reckon we should all be a bit kinder to each other and most of all a bit kinder to ourselves.

I get that you're not ready to explore your abilities further at the moment. Just because we can do things doesn't mean that we always should, or should straight away.

The oddest thing about the voice was the words. It's not anything I would have imagined. I'd have probably gone for words of bland comfort if I'd made it up. There are things in this world which we will never explain.

Lazarus, I can understand seeking that comfort in hope for the future. I trust you found some and that things got better after your difficult year. Hooray for your pragmatic DH. Your truth is your truth. His is his. If only we all could be so accepting and supportive.

I have to blow DH's trumpet in the Homebird household too. He is currently spending his daytimes teaching kids to sail, as well as looking after our boys and the house and being a fantastic support (even getting me two gorgeous onion tarts made for work when I'd over-promised my time and said I could make them for an interdepartmental cooking contest on behalf of my team) all when my own career has turned up a notch and I'm hyperbusy myself.

Talking of DHs, has anyone heard from J&J. Trusting her family are all doing well and she doesn't mind us attending the 'hope on a rope coffee shop' just in case. If you're reading J&J, thanks for being the catalyst for some lovely people to get together. Thanks

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lazarusb · 26/02/2013 19:40

I haven't heard from J and J. I'm hoping it's just because she's been busy and I'm sure she's thinking of us as well. Fingers crossed her dh has managed to line up Bar School for later this year.

What lovely posts! I had 2 early mcs and like to think they are waiting for me somewhere. They were part of my bad year. It started to improve about 6 months after I'd seen the medium - she gave me the strength to keep going. Your church story is interesting Homebird, I had a similar experience in very early pregnancy with dd. I was lying in bed - I used to drag getting up out, dreading going to the loo and sending a prayer up (I'm not even religious!). I swear I felt someone sit on the end of the bed and pat my feet. I like to think it was my Nan, telling me it was going to be ok this time.

I hope that hasn't depressed anyone - especially you, dondon. Hope you are ok at the moment and still not symptom spotting. You'll be waiting for a spirit to turn up now! Grin

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dondon33 · 26/02/2013 21:20

Aw Lazarus of course it hasn't depressed me, I'm sorry that you lost your babies and I'm sure that your little ones are waiting for you too.

It's funny you mention your Nan coming to reassure you - when I've sometimes been feeling down in my life I often 'feel' my great Gran around me, I feel her exactly like I did on earth- She used to love nothing more than sitting me in front of her and brushing/stroking my bum length hair when I was small - I feel exactly that happening and also smell she's around (unforgettable, unmistakable smell of Poison perfume :) ) It doesn't happen often but at times when I've needed to be reassured or given strength she's visited.

Homebird Mmmm onion tarts :) Mr Homebird sounds like a goodun ;)

I'm hoping that JandJ is just busy with life and that everything's all good.

I'm still waiting..... Af should be today/tomorrow - feeling very much like she's coming but we'll see :)
I don't know how I haven't gave in and tested yet, patience is not one of good points Confused

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dondon33 · 26/02/2013 21:27

of my* good points.

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dondon33 · 28/02/2013 13:05

Update - Feb is not my month Sad
But it's only my first try :) so positive thinking for March x

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lazarusb · 28/02/2013 19:32

Sorry to hear that...but you don't want a November baby anyway, would get in the way of all your Christmas shopping. At least with a December baby you'll have it all done by then (and you won't need to get dh a present - what could be better than a baby!).

Like you say, it's only the first month. You can enjoy a few more practice sessions in March Grin

(Hope you don't mind my flippant sense of 'humour').

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dondon33 · 01/03/2013 03:41

Of course not, your SOH sounds very similar to mine - My actual words to dp were (after I'd broken it gently that we weren't successful) ' so you have to 'give' extra BlushGrin this month because I don't want my due date to be at xmas'
If we're lucky this time - I'd be due the first week of Dec - If I get next af and have to try the cycle after- due date would be right around xmas Shock
I had a few friends with birthdays either right before or right after and they said they hated it being so close.... but it's tough titty isn't it, if it's meant to be, it will be :)

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lazarusb · 01/03/2013 10:16

Absolutely! Smile When we started trying for ds2 we were planning for a March/April due date - he was born mid-feb! Best of luck for a convenient due date.

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lazarusb · 04/03/2013 09:25

Hope everyone is well & had a nice weekend. It's sunny here today -woo hoo! Still fairly fresh but no huge winter padded coat needed this morning Smile

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dondon33 · 04/03/2013 17:56

I had a quiet w/e. Hope you had a good one.
It looked like a summers day here....from the window!!
Checked the temp-said 3 degree's so decided to leave thick padded coat,gloves and hat off....it was bloody freezing twatting siberian wind :) Won't make that mistake again.

Hope everyone's well x

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lazarusb · 06/03/2013 13:29

It felt springlike in Canterbury yesterday Smile but is grey again today. Have been overwhelmed with study lately. Grades not so good at the moment so I am struggling with that. I'm not failing, just not where I want to be. Exam dates now in - only 4 weeks from the end of term Hmm Pressure kicking in a bit there now too....Roll on mid-May, I'll just be worrying about results from then on in!

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dondon33 · 06/03/2013 14:18

Cloudy here today but not as cold :)

I'm not surprised you feel overwhelmed but it sounds very much like you're in control Lazarus so long as you know you've given 100% and tried your best you can't ask much more of yourself. Just the word exam gives me a shiver Shock
Wishing you the very best of luck with it all.
Mid May is not that far away Wink

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lazarusb · 06/03/2013 18:54

Smile Thanks for that - I was just coming back to apologise for my miserable, moany post! I know plenty of people have more problems than me and my degree is not the be all & and all! But thanks for your support - it is appreciated Thanks

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