The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New Year? So, Let's Go Up A Gear!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse (normally Mouseface but I'm wearing my festive name )

Welcome to the Brave Babes Battle Bus, to a place of solace, support and sanctuary, if that's what you seek of course. It's also a Bus full of bloomin' chatterboxes, waffling on about life, love and all things from school reports to laundry!

The journey into 2013 is going to be an ass kicking one as we're moving up a gear to give the WineWitch a bloody good slapping, and the BoozeBeast a kick in the bollo.............

Some of us drink in moderation, some of us drink. Some of us are sober, some of us are trying so very, very hard to be.

Some of us have been dry for days, weeks, months and some of us years...... some of us are just starting out and are scared of what stopping drinking means. It's not forever, it's just for today if that's what you want.

We have a saying on the Bus One Day At A Time. Or ODAAT

Take each moment, each day and each blip as it comes. The support on this Bus has kept me from ruining my life time and time again. The experiences of others shared here has helped me to change the way I see alcohol, the way I see what it does to me.

Although some Babes have been here a while and kind of 'know' each other, we all have different lives, different roles to play, different places to sit on the Bus, but we ALL have or have had abusive relationships with alcohol and we're here because we want that to change; for the better.

Everyone is welcome here so don't be afraid to just jump right in and say hi. Post as much or as little as you like!

So, come say hi, grab a seat, an eggnog (non alcoholic of course ) and a mince pie, or chocolate chip cookie, and meet some lovely, genuine people who are just like YOU.

Also, HERE IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD with a link in the OP to the first ever thread, and the reason why after more than two and a half years, this thread is still here, supporting those in need.

That's nice faire
stop snivelling ya daft old tart.

mouse great advice for ma on letting your DH take over, even if he does things differently to the way you would do them. o know my DH and I have different approaches, as long as we agree on the basics it does the kid good to learn that adults (parents, grandparents, teachers) are individuals

interesting that koti suggested getting a home help for YOU and you automatically assumed she meant for memo... think maybe maybe you forget about your own needs sometimes. o hope that doesn't sound patronising

and ma you are on FIRE tonight! am really enjoying reading your posts at the moment!

GAH! sorry feeling really stressed. DD has been so clingy and irritating today - it's a mixture of it being nearly the end of the hols, the whole getting the cat excitement, her brother annoying her - and she has a hearing impariment which frustrates her when she's in certain 'moods' :( Day 4 is always tricky too isn;t it - especially being a Friday. I just want to stick gin in my gob sorry to be mememe. Will sort it out - rant over Hope all is going ok with all of you..

Its the new positive me, so unlike the old miserable one, doncha think?

Ma - if Nemo would stay with someone else, there would be any number of volunteers. I swear, they are queuing up.

He. Just. Won't. Let. Anyone. In.

My friends are so worried, they also care and have seen myy weight drop off, my moods fluctuate, my life in tatters a few days a week because I was so tired, they want to help, he just has such a terrible time of things, his PTSD is affecting him still...... that will take time and nurturing to get through. He needs to let someone other than me and DH in.

And he will, in time.

Time. That's what his nurse said, it'll take time for him to get used to the fact that it's all over now.

So, it's not the getting someone, it's the getting him to be with that someone.... and with school just across the road, I can pick him up. I'll want to by then.

Purple xx

Quick hello to east then got to go. Tablet battery running out. Night all

Night Ma xxx

And, thank you so much xxxx

purple are you there love? did the wet fish help, or do you now need a bath as well as a shoulder to cry on?

I'm here Joey, lurking in a shame-faced way, , hiding under one of the seats in the side-car!. The fish was useless, Ma needs to polish up her slapping technique but...but.... I did make myself a tuna salad sandwich (and it was so nice, I'm thinking of making another one). Also managed to sort out some photos onto disc for my DC's school's website that they asked me for (weeks ago!). I don't know about anyone else but I have always been shit at asking for help in RL. This Bus is a revelation for me. The support, care and support I've found here is phenomenal. Thank you all, my Bus friends. xxxx

I'm in the sidecar too. I'm finishing up yesterday's wine and another mini bottle, and fretting cause it's not enough, I want more. guess that shows there is a problem. so tomorrow I'm going to start dry January.

the Bus is great isn't it

God, I hate that fretting 'it's not enough' feeling. Hugs Joey xxx

It's occurred to me that, we, on this Bus, must me the tip of the iceberg. We are the ones who have searched, researched and found this site and then been brave enough to post. There must be thousands, tens of thousands, who don't use/can't use a computer, lurk but don't post, haven't heard of MN, haven't admitted to themselves that there might be a problem etc. Just think, 20 years ago, most of us would be sitting at home struggling with this by ourselves, no-one to talk to, no support and, probably, feeling like we were the only one's with a problem. I feel like I have people I can be totally honest with because of the anonymity, people who will not judge and will have empathy, that is worth millions to me. Just a thought. xxxx

me too. I have literally posted on the Bus every single day for the last 7 months. it's my new addiction!

btw who mentioned about magnesium supplements? and was that the same person who said they had crohns?

Can't keep up with this bus! Been to a funeral and a panto in last 2 days (odd), day 2 of no booze. Not had time to read all the posts but welcome to everyone even newer than me and big hugs to all babes having a hard time. On phone so can't post much but hanging on in here with you wonderful babes

Hope alias mouse kotinka purple MA guggs hope pippen green & all other brave babes managed ok last night to beat whatever demon you were fighting off or that the sidecar not too bumpy. I didn't have a drink last night & slept better for it & feel better this morning. Starting to get oh no work on Monday feeling but will have had 17 days off so really, really shouldn't complain! Think it's cause it's first day back & have interview at 8:30am!! Going to spend a nice day with my children today & may take little one out on his bike as still have not managed this due to weather! Hope today ok for all babes

Feeling good for sober night also Clutter : ). About tp get ds up for athletics and preparing for massive case of shouty teenage grumps so glad I don't have grumpy hangover head myself! Hope you all have good weekends (am also back at work Monday but feel.I need to step away from the tv and chocolate before none of my clothes fit me.). Purple, Ma, Guggs and all - hope you get a break today babes! Will post properly later when have laptop charged!

So good to actually sleep and woke up feeling - well- normalish! Hopefull getting Smudge the cat today. We have everything ready (except our sanity perhaps) Wishing all a peaceful day.

Ps Clutter, what is the interview for? Will be sending you good luck vibes on Monday !

Hey Holly, happy new cat day : ). (Steels self to finally stop posting and procrastinating and haul ds from his pit)

Aw well done holly and hope feels so much better than usual fuggy head on a Saturday morning. I need to go get teenage dd up soon & know she's going to be grumpy but need to break the sleeping all day up all night cycle before she goes back to school on Tuesday. Aw good luck getting smudge, that's exciting, new little kitty cat Interview is for community school nurse post, same band that I'm on but school holidays (though better not say at interview that that's what appeals to me)

Morning. Survived the wedding on Thurs. Drank a barrel of water and had a huge breakfast/lunch before it. Paced myself with the drinks, didnt even get tipsy, enjoyed the day. No hangover yesterday.

Good luck with new cat East. remember rescue cats can be a bit traumatised so let him hide if he wants to and take things at his own pace.

well the great weigh in has occurred. Drum roll please......after week 1 I have lost 3 lbs, reduced my BMI from 27.2 to 26.8 and been 4 days without booze.
I have also found a walking buddy and new friend, and said "no" to the dds expecting me to do everything for them.
I don't know who I am any more but I like it
Technique any better this time?

greyhound are you ok? Is DP home all weekend or can you get some time on your own?
Anyone ever hear from rural - I worry about her.