Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Crotch grabbing, jelly nailing, double-quick portions and man parts floating in a pear tree...dating thread 33 survived Christmas so bring on NYE!

999 replies

OhLittleTownofWesternWind · 26/12/2012 00:14

Here we are!

OP posts:
VelvetSpoon · 30/12/2012 22:35

I think he's gone offline again now...can't believe he hasn't mentioned it at all!

Nomore I don't think that the children thing is a massive issue tbh. Those men were probably going to flake anyway, lots do in OD. I normally find only about 1 in 10 conversations ends in a date even being suggested let alone taking place.

Spaceman has a very young DC, similar age to yours. I wouldn't say it put me off but it did make me a bit cautious in terms of how long had it been since the relationship ended, etc. You may find some men might view you similarly. But I dont think it would put them off per se.

Nomorepain · 30/12/2012 22:44

Thanks! I'm not too sure what I want. I just want to meet someone to spend some good times with. Don't think you can go into these things wanting something heavy. It just happens or it doesn't!!

I always do the "my children are young, very young...!" I know it wont put everyone off but it makes me mad that I am almost feeling apologetic because I have got children! Erm nooooooooo!! I was happily married when both babies were conceived, they were planned and very much wanted. Just so happens my shit of an ex decided he wanted to shag someone else and take a one way ticket out of the world we created. I don't need to apologise to anyone about my beautiful children because they are the tops!!

Been chatting to someone who I thought had potential for last few days. And he started messaging etc. didn't appear to have a problem with me having kids, then exchanged messages about their ages, I said I didn't expect him to reply but he did so I sent another message and now nothing!! And he was online, then vanished!!

48howdidthathappen · 30/12/2012 22:50

Nomore My daughter at 17 is still my number 1 issue. I never take anyone to my place if she is home [only ever taken Mr R&R) only go to their place if my daughters BF is with her.
My son at 23 would ruin my dating life if he wasn't in Australia. His mother couldn't possibly sleep with a man that wasn't his father. Subject not up for discussion.

They are my life. If someone has a problem with this, feel free to 'run for the hills'.

Apologies inadvance for mistakes Wine

BantaBaby · 30/12/2012 22:50

Would it help if I said brown lederhosen?

48howdidthathappen · 30/12/2012 22:53

Nomore My daughter at 17 is still my number 1 issue. I never take anyone to my place if she is home [only ever taken Mr R&R) only go to their place if my daughters BF is with her.
My son at 23 would ruin my dating life if he wasn't in Australia. His mother couldn't possibly sleep with a man that wasn't his father. Subject not up for discussion.

They are my life. If someone has a problem with this, feel free to 'run for the hills'.

Apoligies inadvance for mistakes Wine

BantaBaby · 30/12/2012 22:53

Sorry all that was cross posted with a text.

WhatDoesTheDogSay · 30/12/2012 22:54

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

48howdidthathappen · 30/12/2012 22:54

Oops! Blush

Nomorepain · 30/12/2012 22:54

I take it back - he just messaged!!

Doesn't seem to have problem with kids. Now just trying to work out if he has an obsession with nudity. God this OD stuff takes you to some funny places conversation wise!!!

Thanks for all of your words. I would never bring a man back here whilst my children are here. Just feels strange. Of course if things developed into something serious then they would meet but at a very slow, steady pace. I am happy to keep both worlds separate for quite a while!!

MsArsebiscuit · 30/12/2012 22:56

Banta, what on earth are you up to ? Your last two posts have actually made me LOL and I generally refuse to write that.

I'm glad you're on the Wine 48

WhatDoesTheDogSay · 30/12/2012 22:58

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ike1 · 30/12/2012 23:01

48 please to hear about Mum.x

WhatDoesTheDogSay · 30/12/2012 23:01

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ike1 · 30/12/2012 23:01

Bant, Bant cool head now....

48howdidthathappen · 30/12/2012 23:03

nomore They all want to get your kit off.

Nomorepain · 30/12/2012 23:14

48 - that's until they've seen me naked!! I may have list 3 stone recently but my tummy is awwwwwwful!!!

BantaBaby · 30/12/2012 23:15

Right. Post date update. Cabincrew was nice. Same age as me, never married no kids. Started off playing pool in a bowling alley which was a but strange compared to my usual choice of places but it was alright. Moved on to a chain restaurant, more beer, more chat, we got on well and kept chatting for 3 hours or more, then I asked her if she wanted to do it again (really shouldn't do that in person on the date as she'll be embarrassed if she wants to say no and will probably say yes anyway) she said yes, for one night this week. No kiss.

But also I've got a date set up with Shoegirl who just seems really funny and sweet, has 2 dc same ish age to mine, lives closer. Date set for Sunday. Hmm.. Lederhosen comment was to her.

ike1 · 30/12/2012 23:17

Sounds like a cool headed appraisal Bant....thought the old Beer Goggles might have been taking over for a min there...

MsArsebiscuit · 30/12/2012 23:18

Is that the secret of your success, wearing lederhosen for the laydees ?

VelvetSpoon · 30/12/2012 23:20

Banta sounds as though it went well. and you still have Shoegirl to meet.

I can't work out what's going on with Spaceman. I'm probably in the friend zone Hmm but if I am, I wish he'd stop ending his messages with double kisses.

Nomorepain · 30/12/2012 23:20

Yay! Go Bant!!

What is the harm in having dates with them both. You don't know what will happen with shoegirl till you meet her in person and you have obviously clicked with cabincrew! You must have felt the date went well to ask her if she wanted to meet again.

The kiss isn't a bother. If it is meant to happen then it will!!!

BantaBaby · 30/12/2012 23:21

Oh don't get me wrong, the beer goggles crept in, but also she was very attractive when I turned up do I didn't let that bother me too much.

Nomorepain · 30/12/2012 23:24

Velvet - double kisses off a man does not equal friendzone! That meant he pressed the kiss button twice for you!! I think he is interested in you, maybe a bit shy and unsure of how to play things. If he hasn't been on the dating scene for long then he doesn't know what signals to give. I honestly think if he wasn't interested then he wouldn't contact you. Please don't be so hard on yourself. You need to believe that it is possible for a man to like you! You seem like a great person so don't let your low self confidence get the better of you!!

BunnyKelly · 30/12/2012 23:25

No More your kids will obv be a factor as they're a huge part of your life.

For some guys it'd be a problem.

I've only been out with one girl with a young child (1 yr) and we were friends when I fell for her. Its a bigger ask for someone who doesn't know you- so make sure they know how special you are.

Good luck - there's someone out there for you.

BantaBaby · 30/12/2012 23:31

nomore I have two young DC and I'm split on the idea of dating someone without kids so we can go travel the world or whatever when I'm dc free, versus dating someone with DC who understands the sleepless nights, school plays, homework to help with & inability to drop everything. Combined with the fact the dc will always be more important to me than a girlfriend.

There are lots of men out there, some will have issues, some won't. Some women have issues with me having kids. Sod 'em.