NC, have posted under this before, but only about this subject.
Backstory could take pages so will bullet point the main things, and answer Q's as they come up (although am going out in a mo, so bear with me if I dont get back straight away)
DH has gone NC with his mother and sisters due to their treatment of him and me.
They refused to attend our wedding, mainly because his eldest sister doesnt like me
His mother has been verbally abusive, told the most appalling lies about him to anyone who will listen and still demands her own way.
MIL has demanded that he give up his share in a house he owns with his sister because sister wants to sell it and keep all the equity. He would not receive any money at all for this
Went postal at him when he said (via solicitors) that he couldnt do that because a) it is his only asset (I own the house we live in and for legal reasons, it can only pass to my children not him) and b) it has massive tax implications that he would be liable for
Calls his relatives from his dads side (they divorce 40 years ago) to tell them lies about him and demand that they get him to sign the house over. She has to call them as he changed his number and wont answer her emails or letters, all of which have been abusive in some way.
She actively supported his 30 something son in a campaign against me that culminated in him being arrested for harrassment after he made threats to kill me and my then unborn child.
So, not nice people.
The last contact was when she rang one of his paternal relatives, didnt get the answer she wanted and slammed the phone down, this was last week. Yesterday we got a christmas card. Well I say "we". It was to him, with a large sum of money in it. There was an envelope with another large sum of money in it saying "For X" underlined twice, meaning our child. We have 7 between us, his estranged adult son, my 5 and one together. No mention of me or the other kids. She has never seen our child as she refuses to visit my home and says that he should take the child to her. Over my dead body (and his, he wont go there ever again he says).
I think it is manipulative because she is trying to get him to sign this house over, and while I know she doesnt have to buy my kids anything for Xmas (she hasnt been in touch for the last 3!), I didnt appreciate the way she did this.
I would rather send it back but he says that whatever he does she will accuse him of being in the wrong, so he is keeping it. I feel that keeping it sends the message that it is ok to do this, and that it keeps the door open for further attempts to manipulate him