Is this the straw that will break the camel's back?

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Day 4 of the silent treatment.

He came home from work on Tuesday, in grand humour. At 3 mins to 6 he asked if he could change the channel on tv to watch the news - which starts just after 6. D13 said "ah dad, I'm watching this", his tone changed and he asked the same question again. He then sat down and changed the channel and dd said "aaahhh daaaad, I was watching that", to which he replied "can I not even watch my own fucking tv in my own house, what do you want, do I have to go to the pub to watch it?"

So I got annoyed at him for bullying her, and said to him "your tv, your house, your remote, watch what you want as nobody else in this house has any rights or choices". So he stood up, put on his coat and went to the pub.

Since then, no apology, no discussion, no nothing.

And I'm sick to my back teeth of this bullying attitude, then the poor me and the cowardly running off to the pub. So this time, I'm not fixing it.

Regardless of the argument this is how he deals with it. He has gone to the pub every evening since then.

Oh and he has also invited his son 22 to stay in our house on Christmas Eve without any discussion with me. His son used to live with us until I told him to leave due to his hugely disrespectful behaviour, who has encouraged our daughter to lie to us, and who has caused h's other children to totally blank me by bitching about me.

Hi Curly, got some good advise from solicitor today and had a good session (on my own) with counsellor. Think I'm starting to move into a more clear-headed space and some decision making should happen soon. Couldn't have made a decision to save my life recently, head just numb from all the emotions of the last few weeks.

Thanks :-)

Keep us posted, hope things work out the way you want.

Hiya Curly.....Day 33. Asked him yesterday if he would be home this (Sunday) afternoon as we needed to talk. He said yes.

But no, he went off to the pub to watch the match instead.

Power, control and cruelty all in one!

Message is now sinking in loud and clear.

He is on a 6am flight on Monday morning, not back till Saturday.

Any scope for moving out to stay with friend/family who lives in reach of DD school, so he comes back to an empty house & a note on the kitchen table? With a 'next stage' plan eg a rental, so you aren't forced back for practical reasons?

Hi OP have just read this entire thread. My God you have done so well not to cave in. You now have all this week to implement a plan. Why dont you pack his bags and leave them outside on Saturday, and if needs be change the locks as well. He is unbelievable! Good luck with whatever course of action you decide to take.