My partner and I split up a few weeks ago after a horrific row, very upsetting for both of us. He wouldn't speak to me for weeks but we have recently met up to talk and he says he just wants to be alone, doesn't want any more emotional entanglement but wants us to be friends .....
We have been together for over seven years, and have been through so much in that time, five of which was a LDR. For background, he moved in with me two years ago and has struggled to find work, and hasn't worked in that time. I have had to work full time but our finances have always been separate. It's been a horrible year with major family problems for him, I have lost a very close friend and my youngest DC has left home.
Right now I would still try to repair this relationship but he seems to have made up his mind that the last two years have shown us to be incompatible, whereas I feel it is the things life has thrown at us that we haven't coped with. I know I need to give up now but feel so, so sad that he doesn't seem to want this to work.
Please wise ladies, please tell me that when a man says he wants to just be alone, after such a long and, what used to be, a lovely relationship that has gone wrong, it really means there is someone else? I have suspected this but he does of course deny, but he would.....
Thank you so much for reading, it is just so painful.