Mine would be:
Why did you say over 3 pages of blather you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him and give it to him in a bright yellow envelope, rather than being discreet. And why did you think he wanted you after you forcibly stripped him and he couldn't get it up and then said nothing until you left. How can that be a successful 'reunion'?!? And why did you tell him to hug my daughter for you. And then why, only two days later, when I told you you could have him, did you suddenly not want him.
Why should I care whether your family finds out and you lose your kids, or your husband gets angry - why shouldn't he get angry. My DD has suffered because of you - why should I care about you - you are so not my problem!
And on the subject of OW - yes some of them know exactly what they are doing - and if you don't believe that, go and read a psychology book. Apparently trashing marriages is a way of exacting revenge on the male species when they have had an inadequate / unreliable father figure.
In the case of the OW with my H - she got in touch on FB - he confided in her about his Dad's abusive parents and skanky siblings (as she came from the same background). She knew he was depressed and I was abroad and she probably just saw an easy target. She then chased him by sending the Fifty Shades of Grey, and demanding gifts and telling lies about how her husband beat her up and how she needed protecting and was sooo frightened. He knew her father had beaten her up as a child - so he was an easy target. She kept on pursuing, after he told her we were trying for a baby.
After I found out, she promised me she would never contact him again, because she felt like a nasty person. Then she told me that I couldn't divorce him because it would make her life difficult and I should encourage them to be friends. Then (because she had keys to his house down south) told him how she had had counselling for violence, and made him believe his house would get trashed if he didn't play ball.
My DH is a pathetic tosser - and I will never think of him any other way - however she did pursue him unrelentingly - and I do believe him that he thought he'd be going anyway after the first mistake, so why resist her.
Subsequently he found out about her true colours, when he met other people from school who will not let their wives go out with her, and the blinkers fell off. He knew her at 11-16 and thought she was sweet and vulnerable. Didn't see the slapper that was blindingly obvious to any woman from her facebook page. Turns out that she has a track record for unrelentingly targetting married men, staying around long enough to trash their marriages, and then running off. Why shouldn't I despise someone like that?!
If a man had done to a woman, what she did to him, then we would condemn them and call it sexual assault - why are we always blaming the men ...... to me it is clearly 50:50 blame. He tried to talk to her about why she kept stripping him when he said no - she just laughed and made out he should have liked it!