The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spicing Up The Winter Nights With Rich Hot Chocolate And Thermal Tights!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

I'm one of the Brave Babes travelling on this fantabulous Bus, on it's journey to the wonderful world of sobriety.

The great thing is, that the people on here are a real mixed bunch. Some are drinking regularly, some aren't. Some are sober and have been for any number of days, some weeks, months and yep, some even for years.

There's no judging pants allowed, no savoury flans either , just lots of unconditional support from many varied sources. Yes, some of us have been here from the start but please don't let that stop you posting, this thread is for EVERYONE and it always has been

If you'd like to have a look back, here are some links. One to the previous thread and one to the very first, and the reason we are all still here.

See you soon,

Mouse xx

PREVIOUS THREAD

FIRST EVER THREAD

leucan - blimey, glad you're ok! yeah. I felt last night when was drinking couple glasses of white wine with ice that there was no point really...

baby - omg, 6,000 calories not drunk since Monday! that's amazing and v inspiring!!

Hi babes i was recommended this thread after one of my own about drinking.

So here goes...

My mother is an alcoholic, i grew up watching her drink drink drink. I started drinking properly when i was 12, and have used it as a coping method since.

I know what my problem is, its not that i need to drink, its that when ive had one, i find it hard to stop.

At the moment i have been drinking more frequently, almost daily to different degrees, but i know this is a method of coping with my Ex leaving.

I am thinking of embarking on 2 weeks of sobriety before the festive period, to really face some issues dead on, with no liquid support, just my own strength.

I'm hoping that in the long run i can discern whether i need to stop drinking entirely, or if i can learn how to be sensible.

puds well done for coming over. The babes will all be popping in at some point as they battle the booze and offer support. You are very welcome here.

Hi Puds sorry that things feeling so rough for you, sounds a really good idea to have 2 weeks alcohol free. I'm like you where once I start I can't stop and have been seeing a counsellor to talk through my issues with alcohol. I've found the babes on this bus so helpful, hope you do too. I'm nursing a hangover today with crazy 3 year old boy, It's not good. Guilt, guilt, guilt all day for me. Would you consider counselling, it may help to discuss the issues around how your Mum's alcoholism has affected ?

Good afternoon lovely Babes

After my essay writing overnighters I slept 14 hours last night - I woke up at 2. I haven't done that since I was a teenager!

Hello Puds and welcome. Big hugs to you, it sounds like you're feeling a bit shit at the moment.

Hi clutter and greeneyed what are your plans for tonight? Do you have anything in place to help you fight the witch? (Apart from us lot, obviously)

Hi leucan the brakes thing must have been terrifying - glad you're okay.

baby 6,000 calories - awesome :) I'm feeling less bloated as I haven't had a drink since last Saturday, but think I put some calories on eating choccies last night. Hey ho! And a long time to go until a size 8 (I'm an 18)

Mouse, hope you and Nemo had a good night.

I'm off for a bit, have another essay to do (my own damn fault for procrastinating) so have to read Chaucer this afternoon. Then Milton.

Thanks kotinka trying hard not to beat myself up, got little one cuddling into me & we're watching shrek while eating lots of cookies. He seems so happy so shouldn't feel guilty that I've not took him out, he's also full of the cold so day at home probably a good thing. sunnywithachance just going to have a bath tonight, get jammies on & watch x-factor Looking forward to getting little one down at 7pm Wow...14 hours, you must of so needed that! I have no wine in house & not going to drink tonight, couldn't bear feeling like this again tomorrow mouse hope your managing to get some time where you are not in pain, big hugs to you ( ) good luck to all babes for tonight x

Hi babes puds I'm so glad you came to join us, I think by saying what you have that your already tackling your issues, just saying (or typing) out loud show you have courage and the ability to change. No one is not or has not been in the same situation for lots of different reasons but you have found a sisterhood that will support you whatever happens. clutter the fact that you feel guilt means you know things need to change, your not in denial and that too spells big time progress!! I have been off wine for 6 days, have lost 4 pounds and feel a little bit self worth returning. I have told dh that things
Need to change between us, I suffered terrible post natal depression and he lost the real me for a year and though I got much better i used wine to fill the detachment that grown between us. Now sober it feels like a mist clearing and the problems look bigger than ever, but they were there anyway i guess I have the clarity to face them and fix them (if it's not too late) anyway enough prattling on, we all have a story and thank god have each other so welcome new babes and eternal thanks to all those who have supported me this far x x x x

clutter I didn't mean guilt for today sounds like a lovely afternoon, was referring to you being upset yesterday just in case you think I was sounding judgemental and by the way even non heavy drinking mums have the odd hangover, we are all very hard on ourselves x x x x

WARNING Me, me, me post! Sorry.

So horribly, horribly grumpy and down today. Feeling really lonely, even though the children are all here - in fact, I can't wait for them all to go to bed so I can wallow in my misery in peace. Have to go to the corner shop in a moment because I forgot the bloody chips as I grumped my way round Saisburys earlier, barking at the boys, and the Wine Witch is whispering in my ear that, as I've done sooooo well, one tiny, little bottle won't hurt!

Did really well last night with Film Night Friday. Got a DVD, popcorn, sweets etc and we all cuddled up under a snuggly blanket to watch Brave. All happy and content. Today, however....?

I hate, hate, hate the cold and, apart from my lovely hot bath this morning, I cannot get warm at all today. I can't seem to get anything productive done either. I'm even resenting the fact I'll have to sort some dinner for my DC!. Friggin' winter. Grrrrrrrrr!

Had a really lovely lunch with my friend yesterday (thanks for asking Baby) and didn't miss wine with the food at all even though she had a white wine spritzer (a favourite of mine). As before, the thought of not having wine was much worse than the reality. So, that was good, too.

The 'not drinking' is going well, the 'losing weight' is going well and the 'starting to get fitter' is going well so, why, why, why do I feel so shitty!?

Hi to all newbies and 'old lags' (meant in a loving way, natch!). Hope everyone is feeling OK.

Sorry for a very self indulgent post. xx

Aw babyJ didn't take your post as sounding judgemental at all. Yep felt guilty yesterday after drinking bottle of wine on Thursday & felt guilty today for overdoing it last night. My friend left at 11:30pm & don't know why I couldn't have went to bed instead of then having vodkas on my own sad face and just well sad!!
purplewolfe sorry your feeling so shitty. I often feel like that as get so pissed off with our ridiculously high mortgage for small, cold house!! I try really hard to tell myself what I have to be thankful for, sometimes works sometimes doesn't! I too today am feeling resentful with toddlers constant demands & moaning & stressed about teenage one going to a winter fair tonight in town. Feeling the lure of the wine witch but as there's none in the house that's helping. What about when you get dc off to bed having another bath, layering up in jammies & blankets & getting cozy?

Thanks for the warm welcome! I am commencing my 2 weeks of sobriety on wednesday with another fellow MNetter.

Oh Lordy, you lot can't half natter

I have just finished reading the last thread and came onto the new one to catch up with you all and you're seven pages in already!

Anyhoo, will carrying on reading back and hopefully be joining the chat soon. Hope everyone is ok. Be kind to yourselves brave babes x

hello all

am checking in before our evening commences...just ordered a chinese, had a long tramp through the hills this afternoon and have stocked up on mineral water and juices and popcorn. evening on the sofa with the kids and dh watching x-factor. can't wait to wake up tomorrow NOT having drunk wine!
tomorrow have planned rugby in morning, then make a roast for the evening...no wine this sunday though so am fresh for monday

must reiterate how helpful limiting thoughts to the day ahead though - that's my downfall, panicking about if/when will drink etc

Hey Faire how are you? xxx

I was in town earlier and DH wanted to go in the pub, and I stupidly did. I drank a G&T, which has given me a headache more than anything else.

Sounds a good evening kiki we're doing the same, ds going to bed at 7pm...thank goodness, been a long day. Dd staying over at friends so just me & dh, going to get Chinese & NO WINE for me, really, really looking forward to not being a hungover mummy tomorrow & we're going to put the tree up

Thank you Clutter x

Purple just checked in - how did it go at the shop? Hope you managed to come out without a bottle x

Hi Green. Well, I kind of cheated! I didn't dare go to the shop to get the chips, I gave the DC slices of buttered bread with their goujons instead. They were fine with it and made chicken goujon sandwiches! I seem to be having a day of wanting everything I see on the TV - chocolates, alcohol, baked potatoes (!) - latest thing is Baileys! I've hardly ever drunk Baileys! How has your day been? You managing OK? x

Well done - I was hoping you weren't going to ask me in sidecar 3 glasses of red. BIL is here and I cooked a big meal and opened a bottle ...... I will be okay, I can stop at this glass (no 4) but cross with myself that I find it so difficult not to drink everyday. I am having some AF days since I got on this bus (4 this week) but still drinking more than I want to (and thinking about it a lot of the time. I think I really need to have no wine in the house. Well done Purple you are doing so well and sound so much better. I hope you are feeling a bit better this evening - wave to all the other babes tonight x

Hi all. Been at a carol concert. Before dd2 sang they told the story of how she had had to drop out of music college because of lack of funds and that she was hoping to find a business sponsor or benefactor to support her.she had to leave before the end to sing at another venue and I was leaving to drop her off a man called me over and gave me a slip of paper saying, give this to your daughter. The paper says "call me" and has his telephone number. I know him, he is very very rich but wronged me badly when I worked for his company many years ago. Do you think he might be going to make amends?

Wow, ma, sounds like that could be the case.

purple that wasn't cheating, that was really sensible. Proper looking after yourself in a real way, rather than a bubble bath with candles and a glass of bubbly way.
I hope you had a peaceful night and have an unchallenging day.
HALT everyone! Look after yourselves.

Morning all. Dcs unwell last night so slept on the sofa - groan.that was a long night.especially when the bloody cat grabbed my dangling arm in the wee small hours. Screech!