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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spicing Up The Winter Nights With Rich Hot Chocolate And Thermal Tights!

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Mouseface · 27/11/2012 21:13

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

I'm one of the Brave Babes travelling on this fantabulous Bus, on it's journey to the wonderful world of sobriety. Smile

The great thing is, that the people on here are a real mixed bunch. Some are drinking regularly, some aren't. Some are sober and have been for any number of days, some weeks, months and yep, some even for years.

There's no judging pants allowed, no savoury flans either Wink, just lots of unconditional support from many varied sources. Yes, some of us have been here from the start but please don't let that stop you posting, this thread is for EVERYONE and it always has been Smile

If you'd like to have a look back, here are some links. One to the previous thread and one to the very first, and the reason we are all still here.

See you soon,

Mouse xx

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OP posts:
babyjane1 · 15/12/2012 20:53

alias used to love opal fruits (made to make your mouth water) remember the advert??? Xxxxx

helpyourself · 15/12/2012 21:20

alias used to love opal fruits (made to make your mouth water) remember the advert??? Xxxxx
That's actually quite cruel.
Xmas Wink

aliasjoey · 15/12/2012 21:21

lalala lalala
four natural flavours
made to make your mouth water

this is why I'm in charge of songs Smile

aliasjoey · 15/12/2012 23:07

dammit

DD unable to sleep, bad cold, headache. (neighbours also got a noisy party on)

she has to do 2 shows tomorrow, I can't remember if she has a solo but my mother and in-laws have all bought tickets. Will have to go to Sainsbury s in the morning and buy calpol and no doubt more wine

poor kid. wouldn't normally care about the neighbours, it's just bad timing. very frustrated and worried.

aliasjoey · 15/12/2012 23:11

neighbours did give us warning, it wouldn't usually be a problem. but tomorrow DD has to be on 2.30pm til 9.30pm !! even if she does manage it can she go to school Monday. I can't take time off work. she looked awful just now. I know it's only a cold, but she's only 10.

bugger bugger bugger

greeneyed · 15/12/2012 23:16

Joey do you live on my street, also a noisy house party going on - hope they all shut up and we can all get to sleep soon! X

Fairyloo · 15/12/2012 23:17

Three years sober and currently feeling really sorry for myself. I'm pretty young and life not drinking like the rest of my peers seems so boring. Currently on a Christmas night out and I know I can't drink (I can't stop) but fucking hell it's hard.

Hate that constant feeling on edge whilst everyone else is letting loose

aliasjoey · 15/12/2012 23:55

green I can't really be cross with them, they are usually quiet, and anyway young newly-weds, bless em.

a few years ago I would have been feeling jealous, young things, drinking, having fun. now I'm more concerned about DD.

fairy that must be very hard being on a works night out. I get the ' letting loose' part. at least you won't go into work tomorrow worrying you've done something stupid!

helpyourself · 16/12/2012 08:10

(((fairy)))
I do feel for you. I'm also 3 years sober, however I'm not 'pretty young' and spend 99% of my time with people who were around my drinking and are delighted I'm not drinking. Even my work colleagues are a pretty sober, but lovely bunch.
I wouldn't normally recommend AA for socialising- newcomers need to keep their heads down and concentrate on their sobriety, but I notice that there are lots of 20s/ 30s having a great social life sober.

helpyourself · 16/12/2012 08:15

And I bet you feel better this morning than your friends do!

dementedma · 16/12/2012 09:27

Morning all. koala how are you today. I had very little last night which was good,just didn't feel like it.got a house full of sleeping teenagers this morning - they were very restrained too. A glass or two of cava and then they all had mugs of tea went to bed.now I need to catch up with strictly which I missed last night.....

Fairenuff · 16/12/2012 10:06

Hey, ma, sounds like some of those old habits are starting to change for you. Takes a flipping long time doesn't it, but so worth it when alcohol starts to become just a tiny bit less important. Keep on keeping on x

Hi to all. Been massively busy shopping, etc. Didn't go to my work do either. They are a rowdy lot and it would have been fun but I was just soooooooo tired. Had an early night instead and feel so much better for it now.

Well, been super organised and am just ready to put my feet up and enjoy tidy, peaceful house, beatifully decorated, lovely Christmas tree with sparkly lights, etc. when ds informs me he needs to get a present for his new girlfriend and can I please take him to the shops! Grin

So I'm off shopping again.

Love to all. Will catch up later x

greeneyed · 16/12/2012 10:34

WeLl done Ma and yes very restrained for teenagers! faire you too organised! Wishing I hadn't left everything so last minute as has now been struck with tonsillitis and can't move!

aliasjoey · 16/12/2012 11:29

well done ma sounds like a lovely evening!

my mother has just turned up early and I'm already stressing out

feel like I can't do anything right, God I'm pissed off now. neighbours party didn't finish till 2am... I feel like screaming, ridiculous - she's only my mother, many people have to put up with far worse.

helpyourself · 16/12/2012 12:13

Early guests are a nightmare! HALT and hugs to you all.

babyjane1 · 16/12/2012 13:36

Hi everyone, hope everyone is doing well today, especially you koala??? I've been a bit quiet, not been feeling well, I have Crohn's disease and have had an almighty flare up. Ironically as I'm not drinking, I'm eating more to fill the "treat" gap and I think my very very damaged bowel is not happy. I did not mention my illness before because I didn't want you all to see me in your mind as "sick" but it is actually one of the major reasons I ended up drinking so much so it's relevant. Because of my illness I suffered very severe panic attacks, I am on constant watch for toilets everywhere I go and often don't make it in time, my anxiety never left me whether home or out so the odd glass of wine helped. As I became more housebound and bored set in a glass became a bottle, you know the rest. I'm lucky to be mostly better these days due to my medication but I still have painful attacks a few times a week. Anyway enough me me me, I know what you will all be thinking and no wine does not appear to make my condition any worse than anything else I eat or drink, bizarre but true. Soooo even when I'm stuck at home I have lots of friends round and that's you all, my lovely babes x x

KoalaKube · 16/12/2012 14:00

Morning everyone, or afternoon (sorry) only just surfaced as I didn't sleep at all last night and finallly got off at about 6am. Woke up ravenous as a teenager and wolfed down a half heated bowl of leftover pasta - I couldn't even wait for it to heat up properly! My body must have needed those carbs.

Thanks for your concern - I'm doing all right at the mo - just need to make a plan to make it through today. But im adamant I WILL NOT BE DRINKING.

I refuse to continue the 'life' I have been leading.

Looks like the Babes Bus will be stopping at the shops a lot today - because of my drinking I had so far managed to buy 1 xmas present online (not sent off to recipient yet) and last night because of my non-drinking I managed to buy 2 presents online (hope they make it on time as they are coming from USA) - Progress .

LRDtheFeministDude · 16/12/2012 15:21

Hi everyone.

baby - I'm on day 5 now, so are we the same? I'm so sorry you're not feeling good. That sounds so difficult to cope with - I hope it will settle down soon.

koala - sounds as if the not drinking is working well! Grin

ma - you sound really positive, good to hear.

I'm still struggling through the really sleepy bit. Does anyone else get this? I stop drinking and I want to sleep All. The. Time. It's ok at the moment because I was well ahead with work but it makes me feel really lazy.

aliasjoey · 16/12/2012 17:41

Lrd I want to sleep all the time anyway. the difference is when I'm drinking I push through it, ignoring what my body actually wants.

at least if I'm sober I can go to bed early, instead of the late nights I'm in the bad habit of...

dementedma · 16/12/2012 18:06

Hope u all got the Christmas shopping done. I feel absolutely exhausted. Feels like it should be bedtime but its only 6pm! Teens are making cupcakes and trashing the kitchen. I wish I could just go to bed......

babyjane1 · 16/12/2012 19:16

Hey koala how you feeling tonight? X x x

KoalaKube · 16/12/2012 19:42

Hi BabyJane I was just about to post anyway thanks for checking up on me!
Feeling a bit jittery - washing up done - kitchen tidied - food eaten. Trying to watch some telly but can't concentrate so was trying to think of another distraction.

Decided to go to an AA meeting tomorrow. Got doctors appt early, then I'll go into town make a start on getting some pressies, maybe even a tree. Then theres a meeting at 12.30.

Felling nervous about it, but I need the support and reinforcement that other alcoholics stories give - also need to find ways to occupy myself that don't involve the round the clock drinking that has been my life for so long.

I'd thought Id reached my breaking point 18 months ago when I went before - silly me it has only got worse.

My Liver hurts, I'm so bloated that I'm often mistaken for being pregnant (and I've got quite a small frame elsewhere) and recently I've had such bad sores in my mouth that they keep me awake at night. Although I have noticed a little difference in the last few days on the sore tongue.

I know I won't be drinking tonight, but I'm starting to worry about the days ahead and I know I need to take it a day at a time - so thats the strategy for tomorrow.

I keep thinking of what you said to me the first day - well now its 3 days in and 9 bottles of wine not drunk.

How about you all ? how have you been doing ?

babyjane1 · 16/12/2012 20:45

Hey koala imagine 9 empty bottles of wine lined up in front of you and that's what you have saved your body and mind from. I have also been putting my usual daily wine spend into a wee piggy bank and each week will spend the money treating myself to things I have never been able to afford/deserve because of my habit, you should do the same!!!! Get a facial, buy a new handbag, change your hair, have a massage, you deserve all if these things and they will let you see the true value of your abstinence, also knowing and listening to your strength will give many people following this thread the belief that they can do the same, remember every day is a victory so be proud, big giant hug from me x x x

babyjane1 · 16/12/2012 20:54

lrd thanks for your lovely mention, I'm ok, took my dd 's to a Christmas party today, it was lovely seeing them having fun, normally stay in on a Sunday due to almighty hangover, there really is whole new world out there and when we got home my 13 year old kissed me for the first time in months, it felt good, my wine haze is clearing and it feels good. Xxxxx

helpyourself · 16/12/2012 21:33

That's lovely baby Xmas Grin
kk good decision and good luck and loads of resolve and energy tomorrow.