The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Spicing Up The Winter Nights With Rich Hot Chocolate And Thermal Tights!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

I'm one of the Brave Babes travelling on this fantabulous Bus, on it's journey to the wonderful world of sobriety.

The great thing is, that the people on here are a real mixed bunch. Some are drinking regularly, some aren't. Some are sober and have been for any number of days, some weeks, months and yep, some even for years.

There's no judging pants allowed, no savoury flans either , just lots of unconditional support from many varied sources. Yes, some of us have been here from the start but please don't let that stop you posting, this thread is for EVERYONE and it always has been

If you'd like to have a look back, here are some links. One to the previous thread and one to the very first, and the reason we are all still here.

See you soon,

Mouse xx

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FIRST EVER THREAD

So sorry about your friend, Venus. Hope the funeral goes as well as these things can. Truly a sobering thought, though.

I have some freshly roasted chestnuts for the Lovelies on the bus....? Ommmnommmnommmmm! xxx

Realistically grey will you not unlock your cards and cash later? Better to go out now for milk, magazines, chocolate and magazines now. Then come back and post- now and at temptation hour.

grey and icicles welcome to our bus, you have come to the right place, everyone here can give you great support on your journey, I'm also a relative new comer and its best just to take it one day at a time, tomorrow will take care of itself, that makes it all seem more realistic. Looking forward up getting to know you and helping each other along the way x x x

I've been recommended this thread.

I'm not happy with the amount I'm drinking. I've just thrown up from last night.

It's time to stop all this, hangovers on school run etc...it's ruined my diet too.

greyhound lovely to see you back (I mean, not that you feel you have to come back on the Bus, but I was just wondering how you were doing, you know what I mean...) Did you ever sort out the dog owners son who had a potty under his bed

okay its a lovely bright sunny day, start of a new week, lets get this Bus cleaned up and all shiny for Christmas!

PS. another thank you to everyone on here; in the depths of anxiety issues last week, I used the mantra One Day At A Time to get through it, useful for other things besides alcohol cravings

it's so so so boring processing the same junk in my head every day, surely people can be teetotal and happy, think of all the chaos and regret I could dump out of my brain, why can't I just bloody get on with it!!!! Exactly Baby exactly. I too am mighty fed-up with the same old tape just going round and round in my head day after day after day.....At the moment I feel like giving up the struggle and just accepting that I drink too much and allowing myself a bottle of wine every other night. And then I remember how bloody unhappy that makes me and how I KNOW MY LIFE IS BETTER WITHOUT BOOZE.

It's nice to hear from you Grey, what's your aim, cut back or cut it out? Welcome Detached you're in good company here. Are you going to try and not drink this evening?

I only read the first page of this thread:

shakes post really hit it home.

Most nights for the past two months I have drunk a bottle of wine. I usually have a slight headache then just get on with day. I was aware I was drinking too much and too often.

Last week I felt quite low, anxiety running away with itself, felt quite stressed (I don't lead a stressful lifestyle, like I did before)

I enjoyed drinking a ready mixed mojito when x factor final was on. DH fell asleep I opened the wine.

I found both bottles empty being the curtain out of sight this am, so even in my drunk addled state I had the guilt to do this.

I'm very hungover today, ate breakfast of toast, threw it up by lunchtime.

I check % volume on wine
I get tired and short tempered with kids
I lose chunks of time due to hangover

I'm going out for a meal tomorrow. I am not going to drink. I will take my car which is newish and love driving.

Thanks for welcome soma I don't find it difficult to not drink when I am this hungover.

In Sept/ Oct I was doing W/W and doing really well. Since stopping that my consumption crept up, my tummy has been less than gracious (disgusting really) my face is red and bloated.

Hi to Feeling, Grey and Icicles, grab a seat on the bus and some help from some who know where you are right now.

Sorry I wasn't in a good place to post positive stuff for you last week Baby. I wasn't really up to it but glad others pitched in to support you.

Still struggling here - with no real idea why everything is so difficult all of a sudden. Even resenting having to go out on the school run.

xxx

Feelingdetached not drinking whilst hungover seems easy doesn't it? Shame the hangover wears off in a way, I 'forget' the feeling really quickly!

Well, have been to the supermarket and bought posh fizzy water and some cranberry juice so all prepared for any thirst I may have this evening. Also dusted off an old pilates DVD so will sort my powerhouse out tonight too!

Hope the day is treating you all well

PurpleWolfe you're right, everything does seem such an effort...only day 5 for me but have felt like I'm coming down with something, fuzzy headed and just so, so tired.

I found this today -

And then the day came,
when the risk
to remain tight
in a bud
was more painful
than the risk
it took
to Blossom.
(Anais Nin)

feeling I too have hid bottles, also put wine in a coffee mug to fool dd (she ain't stupid) we've all done it and I had your hangover yesterday but tomorrow you WILL feel better and this bus will help you get where you want to be and feel better about yourself. purple you have helped me so much and you have done so well so keep that In mind. Also feeling I found going back to ww has given me a new project and eating healthy foods and getting back to swimming has helped distract me from wine, not always successful but if you find something focus on it all helps. Looking forward to a wine free evening xxxxx

Love that dementedma!

So positive to see that we're taking the risk to blossom, I hope that I can...

my DD has just come home with a Christmas present from herboyfriend (a little silver teddy with a Santa hat)

they're TEN fgs! not sure if I should confiscate it [actually it's rather cute but seriously, when I was that age boys and girls barely acknowledged each other!]

My DD wanted £10 from me to buy her boyfriend a baseball cap for Christmas - having not saved a single penny towards it (or anything else for others who have been around a lot bleedin' longer). I said 'no' but she managed to con ExP into parting with the money!

(DD is 11)

That's really sweet Joey but yes we only spoke to boys via messages through our friends until we were about 14!

Purple I know all about that 'all or nothing' feeling. It helped me massively to have a goal to aim for so that, rather than giving something up, I was working towards something. Being on a diet and being healthy was motivation and it did help enormously.

However, like you, I couldn't sustain it forever and once I'd had a little blip it all seemed to fall apart. The dieting, the drinking, the exercise. It was as if I thought well I've blown it now so I might as well go the whole hog.

So I did need to learn moderation in all things and not be so strict and controlling on myself.

Right, this is all leading up to something, bear with me .

What worked for me was concentrating on putting some goodness in my body. So, even if I'd just eaten half a cake, I would still make sure I got some fruit. If I'd had a glass of wine, I'd make sure I had a glass of water too. I allowed myself to rest if I was tired and didn't beat myself up about it. We all need some down time now and again.

After a while I began to feel more positive and got back on track again.

Sometimes we just need to do something a little different to kick start that motivation.

Hi to new babes, make yourselves comfortable

Oh and hi to Greyhound too, lovely to see you again x

faire you sound like your in a really good place so your method is working. Sound and brilliant advice .... X x x

Thank you Faire, you have hit the nail on the head. I'm fine when I can see results from my efforts but any dip and I find it really hard not to give everything up. I need to learn new ways - your way sounds do-able. This is what I meant a few post ago when I said that, for me, it isn't just about not drinking - it's much deeper than that. I need new coping strategies.

Really not well atm. Aching all over, headache and sinus pain. On Sunday, thought it was hangover but it's still here today. Supposed to be meeting TastyFarmer tomorrow evening. Ho hum. x

purple you've been talking about not feeling quite right for a few days, so it sounds like you are coming down with something.

DH just said he was popping out to get some beer. I pleaded with him to get me some wine, he refused and said he would do without any beer tonight. don't know why I keep asking, I reckon he's on to me now.

I have my small bottle of wine on a Saturday, and the rest of the week, just feel... bored, frustrated... I should embrace sobriety, but I still feel somethings missing.

That 'something's missing' feeling - such a bastard! I just thank goodness I never started smoking! Tried it once at 12 but hated it. Anyone seen the topic for The Wright Stuff:

"TUESDAY PREVIEW: MUM: DON?T DRINK IN FRONT OF THE KIDS!
A study out yesterday claimed teens who see mum and dad boozing more than once in a blue moon are likely to be problem drinkers when they grow up. Not only does it set a bad example, says the think tank Demos, parents who drink too much are also likely to have a laissez faire attitude to parenting that won?t discourage their kids from risky behaviour. Do you buy that? Did your folks? boozing have an impact on your approach to alcohol?"

If you look up the above site on Facebook, a lot of the comments are saying 'no' seeing their parents drink didn't affect them. Interesting.

Thanks Joey, feeling shit right now, not sure if I'm glad it's a bug or noT?! x