Well purse my fanjo, giraffes in wheelchairs and submariners going dowwwnnnn - the dating thread hits 30!

[JulietteMontague]

Off we go...

I agree with mercury probably needs a wee bit of ego boosting attention

No dating news here, fully expecting the prof to cancel dinner tomorrow, as am in the mind frame of people letting me down. DS1 managed to give himself a mild electric shock at 2.30 in the morning (don't even ask) so very little sleep in the snape household. Today I wrote a fantastic appeal against the decision to discontinue financial support from work and I'm now off until Monday, so I am going to busy myself doing fuck-all except trying to persuade Ds1 to go to school for te rest of the week and chase up CAHMS. If he doesn't go, we might go to Tate modern.

Got a message on OKC from a 30% match with the one word 'cool' I mean why bother.

Resigned to a life alone, met on all sides by misconception, hardship and shit. (Feeling a bit low today!)

Hi snape I will join you in feeling low today-sending hugs & woo (and ) your way. Have given up on the dating at the moment. DD has been typical awful hormonal preteen all week which erupted in a massive raging outburst on the way out the door this morning and resulted in her actually ripping the shoulder strap off my handbag. XH also being a total shit. Friend might come through with a job for me (going to see about it tomorrow) but not getting my hopes up about anything at this point. Hope the prof doesn't let you down - you deserve a night out even if you have to keep your knickers on

I won't be wearing any knickers! I am fully aware that he has a insubstantial girlfriend, so certainly wouldn't do anything untoward, but I might as well get some slightly perverted thrill out of it. He won't know I'm knickerless... But I bloody well will. --reserves right for it o be very bloody cold and wear thermals.

Oh! If I'm going, it's the green lesbian charming dress that never got the outing it deserved.

Somehow managed to send the same text to my ex and Mr fuck and run (now renamed Mr fuck)

Not my best moment

Hi everyone,

I'm in internet cafe so won't be around too long. It looks like things got a little heated last night. Which I'm really sorry to see.

yoga and snape May I join you both in the feeling low club please? I also feel rather resigned to a life alone with a sneaking feeling that I will never fall in love again. Haven't heard anything from my man boy since Sunday night, apart from him liking some of my FB pictures which hardly counts. To be fair he did send the last text & I didn't answer it which isn't unusual. It's never stopped him texting again a few days later before. I feel like I can't text him because I never have before and then he will just think "Ha, we have shagged and now she want's me".

I feel like a can't bloody win either way. I know you shouldn't expect much from 21 year old's met over the internet but still...

48!! Was it indeed for the ex or mr fuck?

Will anyone be confused?!

48 What on earth did you say? Hope it wasn't a rude one in either sense of the word.

Milk I bet this has never been said on here before, but text him. He's texted, he's liked your pictures and I bet he's at a loss now to know what to do. And if he dies think you like/want him, is that so bad (assuming that you do)?

Does not dies. Sorry.

snape it was meant for Mr Fuck only.

My ex texted saying 'some text missing I hope' He hasn't replied to my lastest text.

I have hurt him, he has guessed it was meant for someone else.

What a shit thing to happen.

Hello, may I sahe that I did not see my crush today So here I am running to the library to make it there on time, befor he leaves his usual time and I am not sure, how I'll manage getting there on time with working in a diferent area as of next week...

...so here I am getting all hyped up, and looking extra good today and am having all the words I am going to say when approaching him and trying to make a move... and he is not there Arrrrrgggghhhh

And to all these fabulous women on this thread, well I belive that the pool of available men for this level of womankind is awfully small, if that makes sense!?

48 You cannot tease us like this. We must know what you said.

It's just reminded me of a recent episode of Fresh meat and one character says to another that the guy whose just contacted her was probably sending a group text & has her down as "Bitch three"

OWW The trouble is he's had zero trouble getting in touch or being quite pushy before so I can't imagine he's going to feel the need to start now. Oh and yes it is VERY bad if he thinks I like him. All that will commence is a ridiculous game culminating in him doing a vanishing act.

Not that I'm a tad bitter or anything mind...

It would of been a dirty one. One of a few. No idea which one, not that knowing would make any difference.

I feel just awful

It's an akward mistake to make 48 but you are only human & you aren't together anymore. I'm presuming your ex didn't think you were going to join a nunnery now that you've split? Don't feel too bad about it.

Milk of course you should text him. He is just as likely to be thinking you have tossed him aside now you've had your wicked way with him. Just be straight with him and if it turns out he doesn't deserve you, fine you will know about it right away.

Snape and Yoga I think it's the season. Time to hibernate I think.

Secret you are welcome. I hope you have some luck, we all need it!

48 I accidentally sent a pic of TheAuditor and stuff about us going on a date to my STBX MIL instead of my friend Mary .. MIL is now Gran Mary in my contacts to avoid further mishaps .. Whoops!!

milk We slpit 8 months ago, after 25years together. My decision. We have only started communicating since our son went to Australia just over 3 weeks ago.

He believed we would always get back together. I care about him, just can't live with him.

Hi everyone, just marking my place as didn't even get a chance to go on the last thread

48 that's sucky. Obviously we're not party to how things ended with you and your ex, but that wouldn't be a great text to receive and it says a lot about you that you wouldn't want to unnecessarily hurt him. If you've apologised and meant it sincerely and in good part, then please acknowledge that you have tried to repair any unintended damage, have acted in good faith and can do no more. :-)

Hmmm, I don't know Juliette whenever I text men after these events it generally does not go well. I'm sick of getting let down time & time again. If likes me he will get in touch. If he doesn't, then that proves he doesn't like me.

That is awkward 48 and I do feel for him. Perhaps it's for the best that he comes to realise it is over though? Otherwise he is hanging onto false hope and that isn't good for either of you.

48 cross post there. I think it's commendable that you stilly care about him after 25 years and have no wish to act like a twat. It's regrettable, but it can't be taken back, just built upon.

World. What a let down! Are you going to be able to go back next week or are you working too far away?

48 Oh dear. But, please don't beat yourself up about it. It was an innocent mistake and now at least your ex knows you're moving on. Had to happen at some point.

Milk sending a text isn't a grand declaration of undying love. Really, it's a very minor concession if it is one at all. He's probably there racked by angst that you've used him and cruelly cast him aside.

Snape I'm very tempted to do stockings (well, hold ups) and no knickers tomorrow but I'm not sure if I dare. Oh to have your chutzpah!

Poppy - how are you feeling?

I wish everyone would come back and join in and get us back to normal in here!

OWW Do proper stockings. You will feel like the hottest mama on the planet. I always get out my fully fashioned's and vintage style suspender belt when I want to slay them dead.

Yes Poppy How are you? I've missed a bit of the thread & I need to know what is happening with half Italian stallion.

Yes I know a text isn't a deceleration of love OWW & I do feel very silly for acting like such a tit. I don't think he feels cast aside though. I suspect he's got a million OKC dollybirds on the go & I don't want to add myself to the pile. My pride is just about all I have left these days!

I agree OWW I had to do work this afternoon the thread was moving so slowly

I agree with milk. 'Proper' stockings with a garter belt are amazing, you walk with a Monroe wiggle and the observant notice the little button-suspender on your thigh. If I want to feel feminine, stockings are the easiest way to do that.