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Am i F'cking Stupid?????

29 replies

fairyfly · 04/04/2006 17:45

Just found out my x was seeing someone else for a year while i was with him, not the one he ran off with, oh no, another one. I was at home breast feeding.

Apparently someone gave him a b.j. in the pub toilets, how utterley gross is that. I was still sleeping with him too, yuck yuck yuck.

I know it's not relevant anymore, i understand we split up a long time ago and he is no longer part of my life. i'm just bloody flabbergasted, i didn't have a CLUE.

Thank God he is out of my life.

Rant over.

OP posts:
NomDePlume · 04/04/2006 17:47

Nice.

You're well out of it.

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fairyfly · 04/04/2006 17:52

I know!

I'm trying not to even think of times back then and all the lies he must of been saying, i feel ill. I could have caught anything.

Seedy seedy man.

I've promised myself i won't start getting paranoid, but how the hell do you know.

I suppose i'm lucky i found out now, i would've have been gutted then, now i just think he's rancid.

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JoolsToo · 04/04/2006 17:54

seedy is the right word - ugh!

Kathlean · 04/04/2006 17:56

Yuck I want to go and have a shower for you.

Have you had a health check? It may be worth it just to put your mind at ease. Who knows what else he was up to?

Blu · 04/04/2006 18:01

The dirty dishonest bastard.

How did you find out??

Chloe55 · 04/04/2006 18:08

It sucks doesn't it? Same thing happened to me with my ex - thing is, half the village knew about it and I didn't - love is blind as they say. Good riddance for me and you!

cece · 04/04/2006 18:09

He sounds soooo nice. Get yourself checked if it will put your mind at rest. Then forget him. Yuck!

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fairyfly · 04/04/2006 18:10

I should go and get a health check i suppose. I'm so furious.

I found out because he used to go to the college i am at.I have befriended people he used to know, we all went out for a drink and they finally let spill.
They said he was a pompous knob in college and they all used to cringe when he recited his poetry. One of the girls said he tried it on with her loads.

Wirting this down it sounds like another world, i mean i thought we were having an adult relationship.
I had a baby during this time.

I'm ill for the past but over the moon i am well gone.

No way is he going to stay faithful to his fiance once she has children.

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cece · 04/04/2006 18:10

Chloe55

It sucks doesn't it?

Did you intend the pun? pmsl!

Chloe55 · 04/04/2006 18:12

Grin - sorry!! Ewwww, yuck!

ruty · 04/04/2006 18:13

Reciting his own poetry too. Yuck. He sounds bloody awful. So sorry you had to go through that.

Blu · 04/04/2006 18:13

Well, we know how they must have felt re the poetry.

He is probably unfaithful to her already.

Are they going to have children? How revolting. And cruel. (to the poor kids).

Can we have another therapeutic take-the-piss out of his poetry thread?

expatinscotland · 04/04/2006 18:16

FF,
I hate to bring this up, but have you been tested for STDs?

He sounds like a tosser who was engaging in risky sex.

Best far, far away from him, but please look after your health.

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fairyfly · 04/04/2006 18:19

Right, where do i have to go and who do i have to ring to get tested. How marvellous.

Blu i want a poem for his engagement card, i want to post my kindest regards.

I'm torn between laughing at his audacity and wanting to bath in a vat of bleach.

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Kathlean · 04/04/2006 18:23

Look up you nearest G.U.M. clinic (Genito-Urinary Medicine).

Piffle · 04/04/2006 18:25

His fiancee is one lucky woman huh.
She would I'm sure be enthralled to know how much his marriage vows mean to him.

ruty · 04/04/2006 18:25

any takers for an engagement poem? I'm thinking..

merryberry · 04/04/2006 19:00

dear x here's a card as you wed
may your knob never turn lurid red
you're a bit of a skanker
nay even a wanker
with hormones not brains in your head

?

cheltenhamgal · 04/04/2006 19:01

fairyfly, I know exactly how you are feeling, I had a similar thing happen to me and you are well rid

merryberry · 04/04/2006 19:03

a fiancee? how lovely for you!
did you ever do her in a loo?
does she know you'er a liar?
with pants in the mire?
we'd be safer with you in a zoo.

help me the limerick bug has struck.

ruty · 04/04/2006 19:05

you are a true poet merryberry.

merryberry · 04/04/2006 19:09

i have to go cook the diinner
but fairyfly's nasty old sinner
won't leave mind
he's an unlucky find
and that poor lass must think he's a winner

mistressmiggins · 04/04/2006 19:52

why do they do it though?
the unprotected bit?

my ex was having unprotected sex with his mistress cos "she was on the pill"

oh thanks - just protecting me from a baby but sod the fact the 3 of us could have been swapping diseases

makles you glad they're gone but still hurtsSad

justadad · 04/04/2006 20:55

Here's wishing you both all the best,
But your patience he'll remorselessly test,
If it's breathing he'll shag it
That dirty old faggot
There, I'm glad I've got that off my chest.

glitterfairy · 04/04/2006 21:53

FF I am really sorry how awful for you!