dp just told a waitress she's gorgeous...

[Dunkinbiscuits]

just having a nice romantic meal and dp said to waitress 'you're gorgeous you are' !!! Right in front of me ffs- i threw a wobbly and now hes sat outside as i finish the bottle of champers at the bar alone - feeling pretty shit tbh :-( am i over reacting?

YANBU. Wtf was he thinking?

Not the wisest of things to say whilst he's in a date really. Does he usually eye up other women or try to chat them up right in front of you?

Urrrgh. I hope he's suitably mortified.

Horrible. I actually think I'd finish with someone who is that disrespectful to me. Hope you feel better.

That's awful!!! Poor you! How was the night going up to that point? Was he drunk?! Is he usually so disrespectful to you? Hope you're ok x

My God, what a creep, i bet the waitress thought he was a wanker as well!

Btw- well done for staying and finishing the champers....:)

Oh dear.
That's a shame.
My DP wouldn't say it to the person, but he would tell me if he thought someone was attractive - but I know he's not saying it to wind me up or upset me, it really is just an observation - like 'that's a nice building' or 'she was a pretty girl'.
Complimenting someone other than your partner during a romantic meal though is pretty lacking in tack!

Poor you! I would be livid too.

I'll never forget when I was heavily pregnant with DD and me and DP went out for a meal with another couple and I was all dressed up and feeling great.

We went into the restaurant and he commented on a woman in there saying 'don't worry pochemuchka, you'll look like that again soon'

I spent the rest of the night seething after I'd torn him off a strip and he had a lot of making up to do.

Your DP needs to get back inside and start making things up to you.

I hate to say this, but if he's saying stuff like that in front of your face, what is he doing behind your back?

What a slimey thing to do. No your not overreacting. There's nothing wrong with finding other people attractive but saying it like that upset you and has probably embarrassed the waitress too.

Did he think he was being humorous?

Thanks for replying, I thought maybe I'd flown off the handle a bit, made me feel really shitty tbh, walked back to the hotel on my own and had to wait for housekeeping to let me in, he's come back and thinks I've been somewhere between the restaurant and here?!? Wtf - yeah, quickly down an alley with a waiter??? Bloody hell, I give up!!!

That's Horrible my OH agrees that was a shitty thing to say

So he's been an arse and tries to deflect the blame back on to you by accusing you of a one night stand.
He's so classy.

What a shit thing to do, hope you're ok.

Feel like getting the first flight home tomorrow on my own :-( I know he's drunk but I've stuck by him through thick and thin - bit of a kick in the nuts tbh :-(

Wow!!!!! What a total fucker!!!

I was once told after an ex was eying up a waitress very obviously that I was only jealous as I couldn't pull off that skirt

You don't deserve that OP!!! You were not overreacting at all!!!!

Does he have any good points?

No, YANBU. I know the thread isn't in there.
And he's making you feel bad, because he obviously left you to walk back from the restaurant on your own after he had made a dick of himself.
Hope you are ok.

Does he do this kind of thing often? It is very disrespectful to you.

DH would say to me that waitress is pretty, beautiful etc., but he wouldn't say it to her.

DH was eying up the language students (you can't move in Bath in summer for huge groups of these) on our second date so 24 years later I don't expect him to improve.

However, neither he or I are particularly good looking and neither of us cares.

Blatant flirting is another matter.

He's asleep - how do they sleep??? Have had a good whinge to the reception girls and they both agree he was out of order - need to try and sleep, another Day of work tomorrow :-( what a Dick hey?

I love that you've told the reception girls. I hope they give him hacky looks in the morning.

Is your relationship so dismal all the time? Hope you're feeling less shit this morning and he's woken up very contrite, though I rather think he will have latched onto the idea of you "doing something" with someone before getting back to the hotel.

It's funny how often the unfaithful partner accuses the other of adultery...