Marrying you and then refusing to let you know about the finances - instead giving you a separate bank account with an allowance that wait for it...he gets to dip into when he likes to.
Waking up in hospital the night after your child has been born and getting stroppy and asking "what the fuck are you doing?" as you're trying to breast feed and then flinging himself back down on the bed.
Refusing to help you try to get some sort of routine going in a household with an extremely fractious baby and little sleep - "I don't DO books." and then getting stroppy with you when you try to explain what it is you're doing, asking him to do the same, and being told your are criticizing.
Ignoring you all day as you sit with very bad PPD with tears streaming down your face.
Begging for comfort and being told "It's hard to hug a fridge."
Being told that your hurt and growing anger towards him is completely unfounded, that your are obviously very ill and that his prickishness is all in your imagination.
Allowing his behaviour to get to you, acting out, and then having it pointed out to you that it is you who is the abuser, and the crazy one, and that if you're not careful he'll get you admitted to psyche.
Moving you half way across the world to somewhere you don't want to go, telling you if you don't you're just letting your family down even more than you already have, and not giving a shit that your psychiatrist and doctors advise that it is the last thing his wife needs right now.
Telling you your friends/family take advantage of you and slowly, subversively separating you from them.
Re-writing history
Refusing to take little to no responsibility for the state of your relationship
Refusing to go to counselling
Promising things and then never coming through and then using your disappointment as a means to point out how difficult/whiny/nagging/unreasonable/ungrateful you are.