Ike - thats an interesting question - am still working on that - I guess - a certain amount of physical attraction, warmth, tactile, emotional give and take. I have two kids, I get on well with my ex - he left three years ago for someone else, but we get on well - initially it was determination on my part for the kids, but further down the line, it's a genuine friendship.
I don't have much going for me, and there's a lot to take on - I have two kids, and as a nurse, I work a lot of weekends, and have to stagger that with the kids, so I guess someone who can deal with that - eek! sometimes, if I get a rare weekend off, I like to hoof it off somewhere, - sometimes I end up in strange places, so I always take my passport just in case.
Am going to be mad cat lady who works in uganda for a while, comes back, gets cats, dies quietly from an unremarkable disease, no-one notices, and the cats eat me for nourishment.