Bizarroville!! PoshBoys, Muppets, Surgeons, nurses, coffee addicts and RL - dating thread 27!

[lubeybooby]

Roll up roll up get yer dating chat here... all kinds of dating...

Online, RL, established, new, join in and blether away!

Don't know if i should just meet him, before everything gets rusty...

but I'm the common denominator

Rubbish! One or two lucky exceptions aside, we are all in exactly the same boat or we wouldn't be here, on this thread, for weeks, months or even years on end. We are all going through the same cycle of looking, finding, meeting someone, getting our hopes up, feeling elated, feeling anxious, feeling let down, wondering whether this one will "stick" or whether its time to move on... If it were that easy to meet someone lovely and then move smoothly into a lasting relastionship we wouldn't be on thread 27, now would we?

Are you thinking about a quick once-over Parsley, or a full service and MOT?

Parsley - what's the rest of him (personality etc) like?? I am all for meeting up asap then you know one way or the other, and it's only an hour or so out of your life if it's no good. You really honestly can't tell until you meet them in the flesh, however well you are getting on by text and phone. Good luck!

Sponge - I thought you were supposed to be arranging the third date? So, why don't you text and say "Do you fancy doing xxx some time this week/over the weekend?"? I find it a bit tricky if someone only gives me one possibility for date/time as I have other commitments and it's not always possible, and much prefer something a bit more open-ended. Does he have a lot of other stuff going on eg children, work? In the nicest possible way, stop stressing, it is NORMAL not to be in touch all the time at this stage and excessive texting is definitely a bit of a red flag for me.

I have had lots of anxiety over texting etc since I started dating again (no such things as mobile phones even let alone texting last time I did it) but I've now resolved to stop caring about who texts most/last/how often etc etc . It was just making me miserable and didn't change anything at all. I had a lot of good advice on here to text if I wanted to text, realise that all the texting stuff isn't significant and just enjoy what's going on. I'm doing pretty well with this if I do say so myself

Thanks for the replies! Just wondering if a no strings fling would be good for me, as long as he is pleasant. Ie FWB or ONS I guess. We are having a pleasant time messaging at the moment.
Sponge have you tex him yet?

Parsley - I think you need to have a certain mindset to enjoy ONS and to a lesser extent FWB arrangements. (I don't have it although I can definitely see why it works for other people). It all depends on keeping your emotions separate and if you can do that I think it would be a great plan. If you can't, it's just going to lead to angst and upset . . .

No harm in meeting Parsely and then see what you feel like. I can't remember your story but for me, even though I don't do ONS, a bit of a no strings fling with a nice guy was the best way to 'get back in the water' so to speak! Just a bit of a confidence boost and get over that feeling of 'shit, I've been sleeping with the same man for 18 years and things arent exaclty what they used to be'.

So coffee date is now set for monday & we've exchanged numbers. And he's given me a nickname. So I am

watch how can you cope without carbs?

sponge relax. Breathe. It'll be fine. And don't you dare say you're the common denominator! There's nothing wrong with you.

parsley link?

Hello everyone else.

Ooh Yoga that's brilliant!

what's the nickname

parsley go for it!! As yoga said even if it's just to get you back in the pool again .. ;-)

Hee hee, well I'll just say the nickname is sweet - nothing filthy - and definitely personal to me so not as if he calls all his 'dates' the same thing just to avoid getting them mixed up.

So is swimming the new Coffee??

Thanks all.go on Yoga what's the nickname?

www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=46569954

Hubba hubba

He is of course going to know who has looked at it, and message you all for sex!

Ooh Parsley .. What are you waiting for??? Xx

I need to go and do some work...got a comission to finish. But someone come and play first!

Have you looked Kirsty, have you, have you?

Ooh er Parsley get you

very hot Parsley:o
profile reads like english aint his mother tongue though?

Dunno. He may just not be very...bright. I have thought like you before, and been wrong. Don't know if I'm bothered if its just short term, which is all he wants, so not abusing the poor chap!

Ooh Parsley - he's got a gawjus party six-pack !

OMG Parsley - he would intimidate the crap out of me!

I know! I've never had a bloke with a bod like that! Think how dissapointing if there was only a walnut whip to go with it!

Think he should change the 's' in his name to and 'e'