On paper in the Spring the guy was great. Spent loads of time with me, loads of little romantic gestures, loads of messages. Wonderful time together, all loved up. He had a good job, his own home, a little boy he saw a lot and paid over and above what he should.
All was great.
Then he came back off holiday and it all went a bit pearshaped. Work went a bit wrong. He obsessed over his son/ex and new boyfriend. He dumped me at short notice for fishing and then football. He ignored huge things in my life and though says he didnt I am still convinced he ignored my calls and texts.
I ended it. He got better. We tried again.
Things got marginally better. Its slowed down a lot but I was ok with it.
I saw him briefly Sunday. Was meant to be dinner, ended up being coffee for a couple of hours. Hadnt seen him for 2 weeks. Got a cursory kiss on the cheek at beginning and end.
No chance of seeing him until next weekend (kids etc). So far hasnt replied to my text asking what we are doing then.
Tbh the sex was great. But last few times it has been all about him and no effort to make it great for me. When hes done hes done. Which is completely not how it was in the beginning.
He sent a few texts Monday night when back from work late. Havent heard anything since. I have text a few times. Nothing - now I know my texts sometimes dont go through (have this issue with other friends too) but he must have got one. He has been on FB briefly Tuesday and last night too - it comes up on my news feed. But not once has he text or attempted to ring me.
I deserve more than this dont I? Give me the guts to end this. I was on my own for 3 years and on paper and in the beginning this guy was everything I could have wanted. But now I find myself browsing POF again and being desperate to have plans and dates on my weekend without the kids (when he has his son this weekend - we havent met each others kids)
He says he's too tired etc, but tbh I cant put up with any more of this. When its good its great, but I cant be on hold for weeks can I? I know his son comes first will never dispute that, but I cant come behind the ex wife and the football too, especially with a new job keeping him busy.
And he said him and his wife broke up because she had an emotional affair. Because he was paying too much attention to other things and not her. I can completely understand why she did it. Hes so obsessive - at the beginning of the summer it was about me, which was fab. But now its not and I feel shitty.
Tell me I wont be an old lady with kids and a cat. And that ending what was a good sex, loads of money etc relationship is the right thing?