Should I be worried about our relationship?

[NotAnotherNewNappy]

I really should have NC for this...

The thread on here a few weeks ago, where posters revealed how often they had sex, has got me a bit paranoid.

On the whole, I would say DH and I have a rock solid marriage. However, we only manage to DTD once every 8 weeks [hsad].

To put this in context, we have DD1 (4yo) and DD2 (19mo - v clingy, often sleeps in our bed, has been ill with asthma, only just stopped BF). We love them both to bits - but they really wear us out and we both find the bed time routine quite stressful (same lovely relaxed routine every night, yet they can never switch off and both get the other over excited).

We moved home earlier this year to a house that is a bit of a project. Also, we both started new jobs in January and are on temporary contracts. So lots of stress here.

What do you think? Are we normal, or doomed?

Are you both happy DTD every 8 weeks? Personally I couldn't give a fiddle how often everyone else is doing it, as long as DP and I are happy with our sex life, that's all that matters. More importantly, do you feel close to each other in other ways? Do you feel loved and supported and manage to achieve intimacy outside of the bedroom? That is Waaaaaaaaaaaay more important.

Now that I am consciously thinking about it, I don't suppose either of us are very happy with the situation. We both seem to have accepted that life with small children can be gruelling monotony andhavejust buckled down to get on with it. I spend a lot of time annoyed with him for not doing enough. He spends lots of time stressing over work and thinking I'm a nag.