Ok so you all do this right? When you have a new partner and decide to stop using condoms (and have other contraception in place, pill/coil etc) you both go to the sexual health clinic to get tested right?
Don't know why I'm asking really because this is what I'm doing and in fact went to the clinic today. My new partner is going to the clinic near when he has a day offwork next week.
I have been to the clinic before but I've never really been this sensible about the going to the clinic first before stopping using condoms. When I was younger I think my biggest concern was not getting pregnant! Now I have two children I guess my health is very important to me too.
I told my sister and she thinks it's overkill as we know that some stis may not even be present at the time of testing (but can be present later). I don't think it is.
I think also it's if I'm setting boundaries for the new partner to see how much respect he has for me/how sensible he actually is; does that make sense?
I'm rambling on here and like I said we're both going to the clinic so it's a bit academic but would love to hear your thoughts/experiences