Hat wars and soup-er dates, let the sausage see the roll... The Online Dating Thread reaches 25!

[Yogagirl17]

Erm...hope nobody minds?

western - could you not text him to say you are worried now, and can he let you know if everything is ok or not? could be perfectly innocent. had you told him you were nervous at all? he seemed ok when you asked him out for wed?

I really hope thats the case. but i honestly think before getting naked snape should say, sorry I have to send a important massage. Then update us

I would just ignore him western. He knows you are feeling nervous. Leave him to his own devices and don't have him make you run rings around him. He has been unfair to leave you hanging

oh crap... what did he say?

Just had a how's your day been chat and arranged to meet up tomorrow. Nothing particularly nervous-making. He has had a conversation today with his ex and she has asked to come back and he said no, but he said he's feeling okay about that.

Well I will know soon enough I suppose but looks like I will be back on jolly old PoF soon!

hand holding....

Western - I think was thinking of you post from yesterday where you said you sometimes play it cool even though you like him - could be related to that...?

Am still hand holding snape

Western, why do you think it's not good? He said talking to you about feeling nervous, not nervous about talking to you about something. It can't be that bad I'm sure.

snape - likes and in LIKES?? fuck. why did he tell you that? well done for giving it to him.... crossing everything for you.

western, hmmm, could be nervous about ex wife ( are you sure things are totally over, esp since shes asking him back?) could be nervous because of ex wife, shagging and feeling hes not quite ready for all this? could be because hes not sure where he stands with you (though i think if you asked him out for wed its unlikely?) could be none of those thigns.

i dont know, i hope it turns out its notihng.

Western he might be feeling nervous - you've been feeling nervous the past couple of days - he might be having the same feelings. I don't think you want to split up with him despite your nerves so there's no reason to think he necessarily is.

I do think that sending you a text like that is crap though.

I think it's going to be something like Ihe is feeling nervous about getting into another relationship or something as a lead-in to saying he doesn't want to carry on.

Please tell me honestly if you think that's a likely interpretation or if I am being paranoid.

I think in the nicest possible way you might be a little bit paranoid.

Oh I love this thread. So glad I can come on here and whittle away to my heart's content and then appear incredibly sane and grounded irl!

Snape, could he be trying to make you jealous in an attempt to make you declare yourself? Hope the notebook goes down well, are you still there and covertly messaging or are you home? Still hoping for a positive outcome for you!

western, could he be nervous because he really likes you and is planing on letting you know? If you have chatted tonight then it doesn't seem as though he's wanting to get rid....

Western, I agree - overthinking and paranoid, just a bit and in the nicest possible way.

I have stuck to my cup of tea plan however still failed to get anything organised for tomorrow. Someone kick my arse? (but don't make me let go of snape!)

When he said about his ex and he had told her he's not interested, I said good as they can both start to move on now, then I said being very honest I was glad to hear it as I'd been worried. So possibly he means me being nervous/worried about his ex???

IV that is so positive! Hope it's true (but I bet it's not) ...

snape I hope all is going ok. I rather hope mention of liking new girl was BEFORE notebook-time. because if not its spectacularly insensitive of PM, I thought better of him. Actually its a bit insensitive either way.

western i think its more likely to be nervous of his feelings for you, your reaction maybe etc rather thanbeing nervous cos hes about to dump you.

in my extensive experience of being binned off post sex, the sort of men who do it never feel nervous, theyre far too busy being smug. nervous in this situation i think is good not bad. But totally understand the feelings of worry.

Western, I always think a positive outcome is just as likely as a negative one, it's just that woman (myself included) never have the self confidence to believe it, so hugely overanalyse anything we are not expecting to hear and fear the worst. You come across as a real catch to me, you should be believing it's going to be good!!!

Oh and I forgot to add...

MadameO I got an email!

de-lurking again...love this thread...you do all sound so calm and sorted about this..whereas I am getting tied up in knots about it all !

Yes, maybe he's nervous cos I've been taking the piss whenever he says anything nice and I've made him all paranoid and not knowing where he stands - hey, hang on, get your mitts off my emotions mister!

IV and Sponge - thank you so much for your reassuring words. I am feeling a bit better now. Must shake the habit of assuming the worst (but then you only get good surprises ...)

Come on Snape don't leave us in suspense!

Sponge what's the email?

Can I join the Snape handholding?

I've deleted my OD profiles and have entered sofa land. I'm going to try the brave step of smiling and flirting with real live people even though I intend to do nothing about it for a couple of months :)

FWB was a bust, POF dude was a midget with no spark and OKcupid girl appeared to be trying to dangle me...

If it's alright with you I'm going to lurk and date vicariously for a bit.

I am hoping snapes hands are full of other things than devices for updating the thread