Red shoes, charming lesbians and pirates with taste...Dating Thread 24

[ChaoticismyLife]

It's the best I could come up with

As you were...

I prefer to chat to one person at a time, meet them quickly and then decide if its a yes or no, before moving on. It does mean a bit of waiting around in between but I'm in no rush.

These principles have earned me praise and also saved me from getting confused about who's who, as my memory is shocking and I would undoubtedly get muddled up!

I realise some prefer a more scatter-gun approach, but that's what works for me.

IME, at least half a dozen. Reason being that of 6 email exchanges you might start, at least 2 will peter out after a couple of messages, or take days to reply so proceed at a much slower pace, another will say something that makes you a bit so you don't bother replying any more, the other 3 might then get to a stage of talking about meeting for a coffee or something, but probably only one will actually arrange anything. You often need to have that many ongoing to actually end up with one date which will then cancel at the last minute

Hi Bantam No more than 3 because my poor feeble brain can't cope with keeping up with more!! Seriously, if things get to 2 dates I tend to cease correspondence with other. The etiquette thing on OD is very complicated. Currently juggling two. x

Wow we are moving fast today!!!

Thanks red - think I will just leave FB status blank as no doubt people will comment if I change it and have always felt FB is not the place to discuss these things.

Welcome Quint!

Fate - agree!

Bantam - again, I have to maintain that if the relationship was meant to be, having sex on the first date wouldn't have changed that. If you went off them once the chase was up, the same thing would ultimately have happened it just would have taken longer.

A few of my married friends have left it blank too which I found interesting.

I think a lot of people aren't bothered about what their relationship status on fb says. Mine was sort of by default "married" when I was married but I can understand people not putting anything at all. I would be surprised by someone who was married putting "single" though.

I don't have many friends and not ones that would just come round, and the only male friend I have (apart from acquaintances at school who are DCs parents) is Mr Nice. So for me other people don't come round and so whenever Mr Nice came round to meet children would have been unusual if that makes sense. He checked last night he is not going to be introduced as an Uncle .

Have just been to the dentist. Have a numb lip and nose. Is a good thing I am not doing any kissing today...

Sponge I think we have well and truly established that "nice girls don't shag on the first date" is utter bollocks.

Red good luck with ! thats where I've had best luck in the past (tho u may find if ur still looking in a few months it's the same people and want to move on to a site with bigger membership)

So what to do about NYBoy? Tell him straight up I just see him as a pen pal? Keep replying and potentially "string him along" until he gets up the nerve to ask me a direct question? Block & run?

Sorry on my phone so harder to keep track

Parsley I only search for profiles with photos.

Pie - love it when I get interest from a 20-something, bless them (not that I ever respond)

Western I am on Match Affinity, which I think is different to Match.com. No winking!

oh - i agree with sponge - when i was online dating properly this year, id talk to six or more at a time. Some will peter out, some you wont get on with. some will ask you out then vanish, and maybe for every 6-8 you chat to, you might get one date.... and then there is always a high chance that date might not happen.

i havent online dated since may... when i realised i was going to dump puppy. i logged on to pof once for a quick nose...and messaged the pirate, chatted to him on there for 3 or so days, and then we went to texts. Ive checked ( because im a girl) and hes not been online since we moved to texts, so im assuming he was only talking to me :)

pie - yes, stakeout. with binoculars :) i went 10 years younger once. The sex was good, but i could have never have actually dated him....

yoga - are you really not interested? if not, just tell him, or block and run.

Parsley I don't know that site but I'd think about putting a profile up on a free site/sites as well maybe. I've had hugely different experiences with the same photos/profile on different sites.

I have been guilty of having a lot of conversations on the go at the same time. Ive not been on PoF since last week and think I'm going to delete my profile. Do you think I should message the guys I was chatting with and say? There were some nice blokes, quite a few had asked me out and I feel a bit bad just disappearing.

western, yeah, if you had got to the asking out stage and you quite liked them, yes. its a nice thing to do. Have you had the exclusive chat with the optician yet then? are you going exclusive without having slept with him? Is he taking his profile off too?

and yeah, parsley - go with some free sites too, there is nothing to lose:)

Western For your own peace of mind, message them and say you are having a break and wish them all 'Good luck'!

He's taken his profile down already, and i know he's not seeing anyone else. Haven't had a chat with him about it and hes not asked me to take my profile down but it's got to the stage where I wouldn't feel right seeing other people. Actually, i haven't been out with anyone else since I started seeing him as that's not really my style. God, I feel so old-fashioned sometimes ...

if hes taken his down already - then go for it :)

Who wants to be a 'nice! girl anyways...doesn't sound particularly exciting!

MArking my place on the new thread

Just catching up a little...

No photos and I don't respond, so I think even a small, distant one is better than none

Western, I would send a generic message and say you are having a break, I personally dislike it when someone disappears with no reason

And EASY! No such thing as easy. Sex has no bearing on the type of person you are. Sex has no bearing on being called again after. If someone wants to see you again, they will. Sorry but the rules are codswallop and are all about gameplaying

Cant believe how fast this thread is going. Hoping I can jump on without getting dizzy
Hello and welcome to all the newbies.
Things are going well with Science Boy (who is not a boy at all, but he just looks so much younger than his real age I couldn't resist)
Date 5 is on Fri, date 6 hopefully on Sun if he's free.
Just a quick post, have to go out with DD now.
Hoping I dont have another 200 posts to wade through on my return!

Ok, so totally on a side note - having too much free time on my hands and being slightly obsessed with everything tattoo at the moment I've been watching all the "Ink" shows on DMAX. Why is it that in the London version they show people wincing, saying "ouch", generally admitting that it hurts. In the LA & Miami versions everyone smiles. All the time. What I can't figure out is whether this is because the Americans do something different (like numb the area somehow..?) or whether its just because American producers have decide that people admitting that tattoos hurt isn't good telly?

Different strokes for different folks yoga I have two tattoos then had a name added to the first. First tattoo wasn't sore, second wasn't sore despite three recolours. The name adding had a tear or two, hurt like hell and bled too!

Hi Fate - no, I get that but this is totally 100% consistent across these shows - the Americans NEVER so much as wince, whereas the London one they even showed Ronan Keating having a wee 'moment'! So figuring they must be editing it out of the US versions...? (Sorry, I know this is totally random and not dating related)

drugs? gas and air?
pressure from being on tv?
does it matter :)

madame - sounds really good :)

Hello new thread

Why am I cleaning the bathroom when I have a few hours off?

Decided to 'let everything soak' for a bit while I MN instead :o

Where is Time? (as in TimeForMeAndDD)

hmmm - throwing a question out there...

every time we have met the pirate has brought sometihng just for me. First date was my birthday present, second date he just paid for everything..... which was quite a lot. Last date not only did he bring booze and food, but also brought me chocolates.
All very nice, and actually first time someone has done this for me. Should i get him something?? is that really wrong/ awkward... i dont know what to get him... or should i bake him something? ( he does like cake...)

time is having a break from mn at the momment, hope she doesnt mind me telling you that. she is good though, spoke to her the other week.
:)