Red shoes, charming lesbians and pirates with taste...Dating Thread 24

[ChaoticismyLife]

It's the best I could come up with

As you were...

I think baking a cake would be a nice thing to do :)

Is this the fastest moving dating thread ever? Less than 24 hours old and over 200 messages already

Do you want to get him something watch or just feel like you should? Is time okay?

Cake sounds good to me Watch!

Thanks for the Time update btw.

My only update is that BC is still in the states and will be til Thurs. Then seeing him over the weekend and some of the week after.

I'm looking forward to hopefully finding out once and for all which job he's going for and when, it's really annoying it all being a bit in limbo.

I still don't know what will happen with us when he goes, but if he plumps for the USA that will make it a bit easier with regard to potentially nipping over and seeing him sometimes, ditto with him coming back here sometimes. So it's possibly not DOOM for us. I think HK might be though if he goes for that one! That would be decidedly more difficult.

As an aside... any London folk know anywhere good to eat near Waterloo?

i think americans are more likely to use EMLA numbing cream - or be super-thick skinned..

waterloo - there's a great cheap thai cafe on Lower marsh and a nice curry shop opposite the fire station pub at the waterloo east exit. :)

Thanks snape, that's what I was wondering.

Cake sounds good watch, I like chocolate. Oh...sorry, you meant for the pirate.

Thank you snape :o

hmmm. i could make him some kind of oozey, gooey, mess of a chocolate cake, but then i might want to lick it off him, and thats not going to help the not sleeping with him yet....

maybe ill do it in a few more dates, should we get that far.

lubey - so, he will know for sure shortley then, thats good :)

Wants oozey gooey chocolate cake now please make me one watch. But you can't lick it off my body unfortunately!

watch yes I believe so. We'll be talking about it when he gets back

Lurking and reading with fascination.

I started a dating profile on the Times Encounters site before panicking and deleting it. Probably means I'm not quite ready

For future reference, I have been noting all the various OD sites in my moleskin notebook!!

I really should know better than to watch slushy, romantic, crappy afternoon films when I'm feeling a tad lonesome :(

Yes EiePie... I avoided 'Love Actually' last night for that very reason!!

I think I could quite get into horror films actually - as I told my DS2 'there's nothing more scary than real life'!

I wouldn't mind but it really is a crap film Smoothie (called Honeymoon For One). I should be doing something much more productive - it's my night 'off'! but I'll still end up thinking "Where's mine!?" I'm such a tit sometimes!

Oh, all OK now. Special Agent Gibbs, NCIS, has cheered me up! :)

So I sent pof guy that link to my professional profile and made a joke about how if I didn't hear from him again it would be because he'd be intimidated by my professional credentials (he made a joke about checking out my credentials in his message), suggested an alternative day to meet, and ... it's been 24 hours and he hasn't replied. Aaaah, this is agony. I can't believe you all go through this with several guys, you must have nerves of steel. What are the chances he will reply? Is it worth sending a quick message just to check if he still wants to meet?

I'd wait until tomorrow, it's possible there's a legitimate reason, and possibly a quick, light-hearted text tomorrow. It's not looking all that positive though, sorry. As for nerves of steel, it's more like battle-worn. ;)

positivity my best advice is to get a few blokes on the go messaging, then if one of them disappears or if you decide you don't like him, you've got back-up. Sorry if that sounds cynical but it worked for me! And don't invest too much in it before you meet - treat it as a bit of fun and don't get emotionally involved.

I know, it's stupid to be emotionally involved at this stage. It's just that I first found him on GSM, then pof, and then his Facebook profile, so as ridiculous as it sounds, I feel like I 'know' him better than other potential dates, and he seems like a really interesting guy. Plus he is just the right level of fitness not to be out of my league but still attractive.
He's been 'online' for most of the day on pof - is it possible he just left his computer signed in while he went to work? What about the pof app, does that make you look signed in even when you're not actively using it at that moment? I'm such a novice

Yes, I think you can show up as online even if you're not actively on the site if you leave it running on another tab or something.

Hope he gets in touch!

Positivity, I'm afraid Unbridled is right, you really can't afford to invest too much emotion until you meet. Due to work, travel and other stuff, I had to be content a with text, e-mail and phone 'relationship' with a guy off Match. We were sooo compatible and chatted for 3 and 4 hours at a time on the phone. He looked really nice too. I had high hopes (I was a novice too). When we met, there was zero 'spark' on my part but, unfortunately, not on his part. I had already got involved in his life (knew his brother was ill, his Mum was moving house, his son was trying for Uni etc) that it was really difficult to extract myself from his life. I felt really bad and hurt him (he wasn't very gentlemanly about it) so am much more careful now. As for on-line on POF - I often have a peek in the morning and don't log out so it looks like I'm 'shopping' all day!

yep - everyone kind of makes the same mistake when they first start out online dating, but you will quickly learn that nothing counts till real life.

Thanks for the advice everyone! One thing I've been wondering is whether men who do online dating for quite a while (like this guy) start to dehumanise women eventually, like people who watch a lot of porn. I wonder if they kind of get used to the idea of 'shopping' for women online and picking the ones who tick most of their boxes and dismissing the ones who don't. Any views? (I admit I've become sensitised to this by what happened with my ex.)

Unbridled I think you may have a point...Pie are you going to have a date withe VillageBoy then?

Unbridled Your mission, should you choose to accept it is......bloody difficult! IMHO there are serial daters on OD but there are also good guys too, the trick is working out which is which. The only way I've found is to (as has been said before) find several guys you like and, if they get back to you, seem right when they e-mail, organise a date. I think you get an instinct as to whether they are just time wasters when you meet them in RL. I think, unfortunately, all OD'ers have a certain amount of box-ticking going on. There are so many people on there that it's inevitably. For instance, I'm 5'6in so discount anyone the same height or shorter than me. If I met someone in a pub, at the bar, say, and got chatting and there was the ever elusive 'spark', it wouldn't matter that he was the same height. We have to have some sort of criteria or we would be on there ALL day! Never was the saying "You have to kiss a lot of frogs" been more relevant! Make sense?

unbridled, course. thats the nature of online dating, women tend to do the same. and essentially why wouldnt you pick the ones that tick the most boxes?

anything from your new profile parsley?