Red shoes, charming lesbians and pirates with taste...Dating Thread 24

[ChaoticismyLife]

It's the best I could come up with

As you were...

exactly. i cant be fucked hanging around wondering for 5 days.

i feel that to do so is actually me putting my feelings aside for his, and hell are his feelings more important than mine.

Plus - essentially he cant have seen anything wrong with that, so, its unlikely to change in 5 days with me not sayign anything, is it.

but fucks sake....

in other news, puppy is back on okc and hasnt been contacted in over 2 weeks. hahahaha.

and - those that are on the options fb group. The not an option of limited quiality is also on there.... ive seen his penis. im considering emailing him. but then, seeing as he didnt follow through with a date months ago, he doesnt really deserve a second chance....

Watch Well done for the text, you struck a good tone. You can't carry on being left hanging.

Watch it was literally just down to luck, I'm sure. Right place right time etc.

Good luck with the text

Text sounds fair enough watch and I firmly back up just being yourself and not holding back 'incase you scare him off'. He knows how you feel now, he either gets his shit together and makes and effort or he doesn't and you move on to pastures new :)

Got the third degree off my daughter yesterday about my "boyfriend" - she's ten and obviously knows I've been going out (my son's usually in bed by the time the babysitter comes round) and started asking who I was going out with. This isn't the first time this has come up so thought I ought to give some limited information rather than keep fobbing her off. Didn't know what to say really but I have told her his first name, what he does, his age, that he has some children and very briefly what he looks like. Resisted answering any questions relating to have we kissed, have we hugged, have we snogged, does he have hairy legs etc (!). Well, I said it was none of her business so she said that she knows we have then otherwise I would have said "No". Hmmm. Also had the question "When are you getting married?" so I have had to have a conversation about it's very early days etc etc but I don't know how much notice she's taken. And now of course my mum will know all about it and that could be difficult.

Dd is extremely enthusiastic about it all and wants to meet him - I don't think that is a good plan at this stage, but I said she could look out of the window or answer the door next time he comes to pick me up so she can satisfy a bit of her nosiness.

Anyone want to buy one of my new line in T-Shirt "Choose Shoes"!?

fate - exactly. im done with keepiing quiet in case me being disgruntled scares them off. Im pissed off, rightly so. Ive laid it down, he can either sort it, or not.
and then i move on.

Ive not heard anything yet pie - hes got the dentist at 3:30. so will be out of work by then. so, really, i should get a reply by then? because doctors waiting rooms are rather boring... he will have time.

Western - think you handled it well :)

Fun isn't it western my girls caught NL and I having a sly snog before he left for work, cue them going on that we are in love they now know he is my boyfriend which I would really have preferred they didn't considering recent split with S. I should know better to think I can do a sly anything with four kids in the house

also - just rejoined okc.
first message from bloody belgium.

Yeah, children and new men, great combination . . . Actually, I was relieved that she was happy about it as I thought it might be a bit odd for her. Didn't expect quite this level of enthusiasm though . . .

Really didn't want my mum to know yet but I can't ask dd to keep it a secret. It's just that my mum will either be really nosy or (possibly worse) will not mention anything at all but will be keeping her eyes open and asking the children leading questions . . . Just puts a bit of pressure on things that I didn't want/need.

Pie - I'll have a t-shirt please!

Watch - good for you.

Interview done. Presentation was really good if I do say so myself, but I would be very surprised to actually get offered the job as I know there are plenty of others with more experience (totally different field from the other job i'm going for). More waiting. Drums fingers...

Off to check out OKC to see what soup boy has to say this morning (and block and delete weird stalker/spammer from earlier).

Hmmm, choose shoes. yes I'll have one of those t shirts. I really should put a pic on of my shoe collection, it's ridiculous - but very true that they don't let me down and I know where I am with them

Hahahaa at the questions from kids. I remember it well, dating when my DD was 11. I called the stage she was in 'the 75 yr old MIL' with her disapproving looks, accusations and blah blah. I gave her very sketchy details only, reassured her I wasn't getting married anytime soon and told her to mind her own biz with a lot of personal questions 'has he seen your bum?' was one of them!! They grow out of it when they start to like boys themselves. Mine did anyway, when she was about 14.

The first relationship I was in from OD, he did actually end up meeting her once. She and my niece snuck up on us in the kitchen, playing the cuppycake song (youtube it!) on her phone....

Can I choose handbags? I have a love/hate relationship with shoes but I always know where I stand with a good handbag. I've had some wonderful long term relationships with handbags.

Snape, thinking of you, hope you're ok. I know how your heart must have sunk reading that FB post this morning and not knowing what it meant or even if it meant anything. Stay strong, you are amazing.

How about "Have Handbags" Yoga? :)

ok - ive had a reply
:yes, cinema was a good experience with the kids. I am a nice guy i hope :)
just be used to filling up my time so as not to have 2 much alone time. I think we get along superbly and just think its unfortunate our free times have not nicely matched yet! Should be good to get together saturday and sunday. have postponded curry until mid week. Can call in later tonight if appropitae?

then, 2 seconds later i also got:
last relationship i had i leaped before looked before leaping and it was pretty bad! i promise i will not mess you around, i am not like that. truely i have a lot of things booked up for the next few months so its going to not look great, but if it helps i can share my diary with you later? I will only ever be honest with you, promise x

so - ( if you are still reading)
i have replied:
thanks. Im not being all demanding, sometimes im busy too, and thats fine. Its just not good to feel like an afterthought or way down the list.
You do seem nice and we do get on great :) you also dont seem the sort to mess people about, i dont either, hence todays text.
i cant really do later, i have too much to sort out for my new job.

what do we think?

give him a repreieve now he knows the score?

yoga - when do you think you will hear?

I'd choose shoes...but then as men never choose me, it's sort of Hobson's Choice really!

Watch, hope you get some sort of a response from him. And that OKC turns up some half decent prospects :)

yoga, glad it went well, that should leave you feeling positive even if the job doesn't come off, you've got through the presentation bit!

MadameO, I'll pm you later when I can access GSM - thank you!

Ridiculously young colleague has spent all day flirting and chatting with the girl on his team. and I am not jealous in the slightest, of course

Ooh, x-post!

Definitely reprieve. Sharing diary sounds good. it also sounds like he's taken on board what you've said.

BUT no second chances - if he leaves you feeling like an afterthought again, then ditch!

i thought so, seems like hes understood what ive said and has tried to do something about it. and wants to do soemthing about sorting it long term so it doesnt stay a problem.
thats good, isnt it.

Popped round mums who i told and she was very impressed by what i had done because i do deserve more and am not desperate. Also said how not many women speak up and end up being walked over or just very unhappy.
So - yay me :)
and yay to all of this thread too, because im sure its because of this i have the confidence to say ' nope, thats not right, im not happy'

prrior to all this i would have just been unhappy but shut up and accepted the crumbs.

so - thank you.
:)

sponge - dont worry about him, glad gs has thrown up some good ones, thats quite something!
concentrate on that.

snape - still alive?

I agree with Sponge he's bought himself a reprieve - he's written well - but just for a while.

He sounds great actually watch :)

Yep, give him another chance for those responses! Glad he's come good.

Oh, and Sponge feel your pain re: having to watch flirting. One of my FB acquaintances got married on Saturday and lots of mutual friends went to the 'do' so FB is crammed with hundreds of 'lovey dovey' photos of the happy couple and....AND ...if that wasn't enough, now they are posting their sickly sweet honeymoon pics from Paris Yuck!

he should write well, hes an english teacher for the top 6th form in the area!!!

but yes, hes come good. in word. lets see if the actions match up.
definatley one on the side of not game playing and not being yourself in case you scare him off.
fate - totally agree with that. 100%

gggrrr to all flirty/ loved up couples.