Red shoes, charming lesbians and pirates with taste...Dating Thread 24

[ChaoticismyLife]

It's the best I could come up with

As you were...

Watch - I would give him the end of the week. But I would minimise contact in that time. See if he does any of the running when he realises you aren't making yourself readily available for him. Put him to the back of your mind and spend this week doing whatever makes you happy.

Taking out how often you see him, when you are in his company, do you get the impression he is into you?

Argh, killing time now cause I'm too early..,

Watch, the more I think about it you're right - choosing two boozy nights out in a row over potential hot date when you are child free is not great. Don't know exactly what the issue is but it's something. Sorry.

I have a stinking head cold. No idea when or indeed if I am seeing PM today as he has not responded to birthday text - he spent his birthday weekend at the coast, I suspect getting hammered with the girlfriend he went out with for a few months when he was 17, who he recently found via fb and who has posted early birthday greeting on his wall, to which he has replied, 'my birthday came early this year'.

I'm being unreasonable, arent i?

fate - yes, thats what i think too. Im starting an new job tomorrow, so will be busy myself. i didnt reply to last nights text and be more distant and take longer to reply.
And then see what he does.

yes, he does seem into me when ive been with him, very touchy/ cuddly. but then didnt progress it any further than just kissing when i gave off massive hints id like to.....

however, i asked him round for the 3rd and 4th date. and thinking about it, when he asked me for a second date he actually said ' i supose we should try and see each other again soon'
thats not exacatly enthuastic, is it.
AND - ( again, just remembered) he said, when drunk on the 3rd date. that he had told his parents he had met me and i seemed really nice, then a few days later he told them he didnt know how he was going to see me again, because of time issues.. and how happy he was that he was now actually seeing me.

thininking objectivley about it, i think he kind of doesnt want to see me, but maybe thinks its something he should be doing?

and my interest levels just drop even further....

snape - i dont know what to say........

Oh Snape, too much stress altogether. Do you think you're in the right frame of mind for giving him the notebook when you do get to see him? Doesn't need to be a birthday present and you could wait until you feel a bit more (trying to think of the right word) resilient in yourself just in case it doesn't all go as planned? Or would you rather just know one way or the other?

i dont feel very resilient tbh. thats a good point.

(sorry watch not ignoring your pirate problems, just that i need to go and un-snot my head before I can think clearly)

Fate! All good here thank you. Had a brief shagfest catch up with BC on Saturday and then in the week wed/thur we both have work stuff in London so will see him then too. And have some decent time over dinner to talk about wtf is happening with him jobwise etc.

How is your new chap?

Watch I agree again with leaving it til the end of the week...

Snape you poor thing :( hope you feel better soon

watch I think stepping back from him a bit this week is a great idea, see what happens. I think it should make things clearer one way or the other.

I really cant be bothered with OKC, it's too wordy and all the men in my area are weird, or unattractive. Or both!

yoga good luck with presentation :)

snape so many stressful things all at once, must be hard to see the wood for the trees :( Maybe if you don't hear from PM today that will be a good thing - you can do all the bday stuff (and the notebook) in a few days when things seem a bit brighter...

snape - good point about not giving it to him when you are not feeling great.
:( hope you feel better soon.

lubey - good luck for finding out and hopefully working something out :)

i think leaving it to the end of the week is best. Going to totally leave the ball in his court. see what he does. and if he does nothing, then that speaks volumes and i dump him.
i shall resist the urge to dump now..... lol
because ive kind of lost interest now.

Sponge good luck with your new profiles!

Watch thanks I'm hoping he has a much clearer idea now of what's happening having done his USA jaunt...

I would lose interest too with that unenthusiastic behaviour btw.

Oh and it happened again! FFS, I got another text from someone I dated two flamin' years ago (or possibly more) last night. What is it with these idiots? I have a picture in my head of him just sat there texting every woman whose number he's ever had stored in his phone expecting one of them to fall at his feet or something. Knobber!

who knows lubey. men are weird.

i think its going to be a case for me, of another one biting the dust.

Men definitely are weird.

I'll definitely need luck with the profiles, I'm still not overly optimistic about ever getting beyond date 1 tbh, especially as MSF seems unlikely to generate anything.

Was on another thread on here yesterday (where the OP was considering sperm donor via clinic as in her 30s and single) and the amount of people going 'oh you should try internet dating' 'If you haven't found someone online you've not been trying hard enough' etc etc. Just ridiculous.

sponge, posts like that make me both laugh and get irrantionally cross :)
because its so easy, isnt it. Just as easy as buying shoes.... except the shoes sometimes arrive and they dont look quite as they did online. or dont fit quite right. or, hurt your feet after two hours, or fall about after a few times wear...
or they are just too pretty that you never want to wear them in case you ruin them. or you dont have the perfect opportinity to wear them and they just sit in a box in your wardrobe.
then you have to decide if you can be bothered to send them back, or not.

yes,, just as easy as buying shoes...
:)

Watch Pirate is taking the piss. I would be fuming. He's being as half-arsed as they get!
Let's look at the evidence:
Tells you he treats girlfriends as friends.
Would rather socialise with friends that you.
Doesn't bother his arse to tidy up.
Let's not even mention Nipplegate!

I'm guessing Mr PirateyWiratey has a Mummy Dearest who has dominated much of his life to the extent that no woman will ever measure up, as evidenced by his shitpit of a house, casual attitude to women, and completely taking you for granted whilst he was ill.

His attitude sucks big sweaty balls. He isn't even pretending to be remorseful about this state of affairs!

Sorry if that sounds harsh. Am in a take-no-prisoners mood today and you deserve so much better!

Snape All I can do is offer some hugs and Manuka honey, and fire random epithets in PM's direction.

Well I know it might not sound like it, but I had a lovely time last night! We went to the cinema, then did some late night food-shopping and had an impromptu meal, then went to bed. It was lovely. And still lovely this morning.

Sponge want to PM me with GSM names?

God people have no idea do they about what a bloody nightmare it can be.

Some are very lucky with it though, like my friend who is ridiculously happily married to the first person she went out with on OKC. She's just like us, normal hardworking mum, early 40's, (I know some of us 30's but still not much different!) attractive but not like a barbie or anything like that, size 16/18, 3 kids from previous relationship - just goes to show the right man won't be bothered by the things we worry about, like weight, age, kids, etc. And he is a good bloke, she hasn't just settled for any old twat. They were just both in the right place at the right time!

Have decided - I'd rather have shoes!!

you know where you are with shoes.

Madame - that sounds wonderful. So happy for you that things are going well.

Snake - just see this through to whatever outcome. You will either bag pm or you won't but either way this notebook can give you some closure. Sorry you are feeling low

Watch - I don't think he is into you. But not because of you, I think he isn't into anything but how his life is just now. From the sounds of it, you are going to end up doing all the running, but its all assumptions just now. Give him a chance to miss you. See what he does.

Lubey - to shagfest. Hopefully there will be some answers for you over the job front.

Things with NL are good just relaxed and going with the flow. I actually can't find a single thing to complain about still don't think it will be a serious thing but I am cool with that. I am currently prancing round my kitchen to aint no mountain high enough and putting food shopping away, thinking how much I like life with just me in charge!

Snake autocorrect! snape

Oh and I have some of you on fb but anyone that wants mine search: ramblinghaggis on fb :)

madame - no, i agree. its not looking good at all, and unless he makes some major change then im done. There is no way on earth im being a second option. Im just not. i deserve someone wanting to see me, and making some effort to do so.
not just popping over for a few hours because they would rather go out with their mates..

anyway - ive decided that since he doesnt seem like he wants to see me, then hes not actually into me. If he was, he would want to see me. end of.

its very tempting to send a text or something now....

fuck it, text sent now ( i have little restraint)
i sent : hope the film was good this morning - seems like you are very busy and have a lot on... doesnt seem to be much time that we can get together. You seem like a nice guy but if thats the case id rather know now than be left hanging around waiting for the odd spare hour.

probably slightly passive agressive. BUT - i cant be doing with playing games and waiting a week, im pretty fucked off... and it lets him know im not happy and that if the issue isnt going to be sorted, im done.

ill update when he replies....
( not expecting a reply till 5 ish)

sounds like you had fun though.. :) really seems to be heading inthe right direction.

Lubey - thats lovely. how on earth did she manage that?

fate - thats what i think too.
or he has issues with women ( from the boob avoidage)
and i dont want to be dealing with that either!

my phone always autocorrects snape to snake too ;)

Hi Fate I've friend requested you . . . Glad life is good for you at the moment.

Watch - nice one, at least you will know where you are with this one now and won't waste more time hanging on if it's a dud.