Red shoes, charming lesbians and pirates with taste...Dating Thread 24

[ChaoticismyLife]

It's the best I could come up with

As you were...

I'm getting ridiculously excited about the shag date tomorrow. Think he quite likes me. I quite like him. More solicitors visits have happened to move divorce on. Photos of ex have apparently gone (will check tomorrow). He laughs at my jokes (so he must like me cos they're not funny), doesn't gush loads of meaningless shit so when he says something I know he means it (I do this too so it's ok though it wouldn't suit everyone), he's very easy to talk to, funny and fit and sexy. I am enjoying all this tremendously and really hoping its only going to get better!

Ooh, OhWestern that all sounds most promising - yay for tomorrow! And Yogagirl that sounds very difficult indeed but also yay about your new tattoo.

Western - v exciting!

Western Hope you have a great time tomorrow!

Oh Yoga you are not, I repeat not a bad parent for having a tattoo. It was something you did for you & you should be bloody proud of yourself!

Sponge don't despair about the no messages so far, I read your intro from reading your posts - they'd be lucky to date you.

Oh heck. We may have a new puppy developing.. Man 3 from the date last night is very very keen. Apparently he's never met anyone like me and is banging on about me seeing other people

I quote

"I agree we're having a good time but I don't want to get my hopes up because one day you could turn around and say you're not interested?"

^ That is after 2 dates. Even after my assurances that I like him & for fucks sake if I didn't, why would we be planning a subsequent date next week?

Oh now apparently I've gone quiet...

Hey Mac, I'm still here, I'm just trying to compose a suitable reply to NYBoy.

I know the tattoo doesn't make me a bad parent but I knew before i did it it would be a touchy subject and he can turn almost everything around to suit his point of view.

Man3 sounds needy. NYBoy is needy I think and we haven't even met!

Hmm, what did NYBoy say? You mentioned up thread that he was revealing all about his infidelity?

Does he have any redeeming features?

Blimey Mac he does sound needy, I'm not sure I'd find that very attractive! What was your response when he said about not getting his hopes up etc?

Yoga whats going on with NYBoy?

I STILL have not a message. My profiles been up since first thing this morning. I can't say I'm not slightly disappointed.

It isn't particularly attractive, no. It's irritating. I told him that it was his issue & that nothing lasts forever so why not just enjoy spending time with each other as who knows what could come of it? I think I was quite restrained in not telling him to go fuck himself go away.

Grr. He's lovely apart from that. Now I've called him on it, he really only has one more shot. Can't stand needy.

Aw Sponge weekends are mainly unpredicatable with dating websites. Can be a flurry of activity for a few hours, then nothing for ages. Remain positive.

Sponge - I wonder if many people are actually subscribed to MSF? I only heard of it very recently.

NYBoy - just been chatting for the last week or so on OKC. It was fun to talk to him because we're both from the same place. There's been no suggestion so far of meeting but he seems to be getting a bit...attached. Whereas I'd just be happy to have him as a penpal I suspect he wants more. He's been pestering me for several days to chat in real time so we talked via IM tonight and he poured out his whole 20 year relationship history, which included an affair on his part (from what I gather he didn't physically do anything with this other woman til after he and his wife split and it was a very long time ago but still). Regardless of all that I was going to tell him anyway I just wanted a penpal type thing from him- he lives even further away than Mr60 so it was always going to be a non starter for me really! But after him pouring his heart out tonight I felt the need to reply a bit more fully and explain where i was coming from. So that's all.

also replied to Mr60s message earlier and stupidly hoping to hear back from him

Mac I like the 'nothing lasts forever' response! I agree very restrained on your part, I think I would probably have just laughed at him

Thing is I'm really really needy (look how I stress about no messages etc) but I bend over backwards NOT to show it! It would never occur to me to show my neediness so openly :) Hopefully he'll learn to conceal it better in future and just go home and anguish over it like I do post date

Yoga if NYBoy even as a sort of penpal has been a bit of a distraction from Mr60 thats got to be a good thing. Again, he sounds a bit needy though (is it something in the weather, we've all had miserable days and the men have got all clingy!). Anyone else worth messaging to distract you from both of them?

I'm not sure how many people are subscribed on MSF - but even if you're not you can favourite people you like. I've not been favourited either. Hopefully tomorrow will bring some activity...

Yoga no advice really. I hope Mr60 replies to you. :) At least if you're honest with NYBoy then you have no reason to feel bad. From my perspective, there's nothing wrong with a penfriend & especially as you're from the same place.

Mac - I hope Mr60 replies to, but probably better for me if he doesn't at least til after tomorrow night when I could run to his place and throw myself at him

Definitely bad/weird vibes all over the place tonight! I'm off to bed as I have to be up stupidly early tomorrow.

Sponge the thing is, it's natural to sweat the small stuff. Apparently I'm the least needy person people know and yet when I email people or text people, I have this horrendous feeling that they won't reply! It's like a deeply set anxiety that someone won't like me. And then I start checking for messages every so often on an hourly basis. I've learnt now that I can only do my best, and if thats not good enough for some people, then it's their loss. I'm bloody amazing and so are you! As is everyone else on this thread!

I'm hoping he will, he asked if I was seeing other people, and I replied that I was. Sometimes I wonder if honesty is the best policy

I often get that feeling re texts, and tend to be able to predict fairly accurately when I won't get a reply most of the time post date

You're right that we're all amazing, I know I am, that just makes it all the more frustrating that in 4 years I haven't met even 1 man who thinks I'm anything special. Hopefully MSF might change that :) though not on current evidence admittedly

Sponge they are amoebas, a waste of time, tossers idiots then. Still got my fingers crossed for you. :) Night

Sponge why don't you message the ones YOU fancy the look of???

Morning!

yoga the ex can fuck right off. In case he might have forgotten, it's your body and if he ever had any 'rights' over it (snort!) that finished a long time ago.

The are people in relationships who are mindful of their partners opinion when getting more (and more...) tattoos. They may take their partners opinion into consideration when they choose to modify their body. However, I think the only thing you can ever truly own is yourself. Tattoo parlours are full of recently divorced women getting lovely new tattoos as a way of reclaiming their bodies and firmly sticking two fingers up at their exes. Good for you.

Hope today is going to be a bit brighter for all of us.

Morning all!

Positive thoughts for everyone today.

Very excited for you Western! Who else has a date this weekend?

I think Watch has a pirate date and Madame is busy tomorrow ... Hope it goes well for you both

Morning :) happy birthday to watch's DDog :)

I like my children - they don't wake up too early and when they do they amuse themselves for a while :)

Happy birthday Holmes! I had a two hour moan/gossip/laugh with a great friend last night and, for a change, a luvverly sleep. And good luck West for tonight! Sending positive thoughts!

Hi Miranda So glad things are going so well for you! What did your parents think of him?

I have taught my children to switch the telly on when they wake up early but they always come and ask politely first like they have to do in the evening, which defeats the object a bit!

Parents liked him :) And DC seemed quite content to have met him too :)

Will probably find out what they thought from XH if they say anything to him .

We are going on a date today - going to fountains abbey as there's an evening thing there tonight. May look round ripon first although as his DS is working from 12 until 4 there is the chance we may do something else first . And looking forward to a lazy day tomorrow :)