DP says sex toys 'emasculate' him. I am rather upset about this

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By upset I mean frustrated.

I don't want to give the idea that I am a vibrator addict or anything, I'm really not, but I do like a toy or two in bed. We don't use them every time but I do like them. DP says he feels like he can't satisfy me without them and this emasculates him. This comes on top of his recent declaration that he no longer likes oral, so I won't be getting that anymore. I don't orgasm through penetration alone and I feel that what were the best bits of sex, for me, have been removed. I also feel like its possible/probable that he doesn't really want to have sex with me at all and he no longer likes me.

I'm not really asking anything, I'm just sad.

We've been together over 15 years.

id suggest it to a guy too. Ive suggested to my partner to trim many times. He also prefers it when I do. Its pretty common these days for both sexes actually and improving oral sex is quite a major factor.

And ive been with enough men and women to know that some people arent as fastidious about intimate hygiene as they should be if they want licking them to be a pleasure.

It wasnt an accusation, it was a suggestion. I dont KNOW the woman.

Why bother with penetration? Tell him you've gone off that as it isn't doing much for you.

What's good for the goose.....

I don't think there's anything wrong with being fastidious about intimate hygiene.

But I think any man (or woman) who feels intimidated by a sex toy has issues. That's not to say I think everyone should LIKE them - some people don't and fair enough. But emasculated and furthermore prevent another person from enjoying them? Fuck off.

I think he sounds like a bit of a controlling knob actually.and crap in bed

I wouldn't be bothering with his satisfaction if he showed so little regard for mine.