My husband has been having an affair and is leaving me

[DaydreamDolly]

I can't believe I'm writing this. 2 DD's youngest 6 months. Been going on 2 yrs on and off. He loves her. I'm devastated. What am I going to do? He told me at 10pm so I haven't told anyone in RL yet.

I dont think I have commented here before (memory failure), but I think you are doing brilliantly. Have you instructed your solicitor yet?

Well hope "the talk" goes ok. Will check back later.

I won't take him back. I will be calm and cool and tell him so and watch him panic

good girl

Can l be a fly on the wall pleeeeassseeeee

He wil try and push all the buttons and love bomb you don't fall for it Dolly xxx

Haha I might even be kind and patronising and tell him he'll get over me in time

Wishing you strength Dolly. I know you'll put your DDs first and you second. His needs and wants don't count at all.
We're all rooting for you!

Have you got someone to talk to when he goes?

Well done Dolly - be strong, you are amazing and deserve to be treated as such. You know full well there's no going back from what he has done and now its time for him to recognise that too. Sending you strength and resolve and all sorts of positive vibes not to mention a barrow load of un-MN-y hugs

Dolly you are amazing! I hope you have someone in RL you don't have to be calm with tho' (your mum/sister?) so when you do have wobbly momnets you don't have to feel you have to always present a controlled exterior?
You are such a wonderful example to your girls (and to all of us too ), they are gonna be so proud of you!

Go Dolly

He wants to talk!

Stay strong. We're all standing behind you cheering your on

I loved your last post - To right as your the best thing he ever chose to lose. Sending strong posative vibes your way. You can do this.

< Waves pompoms for Dolly>

He's still upstairs, just going to touch up the make up. I'll be a bit gutted if the talk is about something else haha! He is so cock sure that he will think he can worm his way back, I know him so well. Not this time matey. I'm actually doing ok. In fact, I'm doing better. I don't want that miserable man laying on my sofa night after night ignoring me, and then going 'away' once a week. I used to look forward to the nights he was away. Rose tinted glasses are OFF!

You sound fierce Dolly!

You go girl!
Am very proud of you.
The fecker has no idea does he?
:)

Delurking to join the pom pommers :) go Dolly!

Well after all that time together, married and bringing children into the world I do think you owe him - Oh wait, no, you don't!

He may want to talk but you don't have to listen.

[hgrin]

Go Dolly, stay strong

Dolly, you're an inspiration. I think we should re-name the relationships board in your honour. Or something.

Thinking of you Dolly, remember the pain he caused you when he told you he was leaving, don't let him back in, he's not worth you!

Going to have a while waiting for your update.

Hope you've got a chilling for when he leaves.

Let us know how 'the talk' goes. Hope you get to use that "You'll get over me in time" line :o.

Good luck Dolly. Stay strong. And remember what a twunt he is.

Or Dolly you could thank him for leaving, he has made you see that YOU haven't been happy in the relatinship for quite a while and now that you have had some time apart, you really don't want him back

Girl power...any update yet?

Hope all went well.