what have I done?!

[OfficeNat80]

I work as an office manager in London-married, no kids. I am confident and outgoing and have a great relationship. For whatever reason a guy started talking to me on the train the other week. Wasn't about anything in particular. Told me he was a recruitment consultant and since work has been miserable of late, I gave him my card.

Anyway, he dropped me a line and suggested meeting up. Met in a pub and it was obvious he was really coming onto me. He was a bit cocky but his confidence was so attractive to be honest. I went a bit far with him but can't stop thinking about him. Feels guilty but so exciting... damn! He has sent me a few texts this weekend so know what is on his mind..

Never done anything before with anyone and know I should not but the temptation is there. Help!

[Mark2345]

Yes they should have a heart to heart..

Husband: "What's wrong"

OfficeNat80: "I really want to have sex with another man that I've been seeing and sexting behind your back"

[AnyFucker]

"I won't do anything but ...."

"I know it's wrong but ...."

Give over love, you are gagging for it

Give your husband a break and tell him what you are up to, you silly mare

[NorksAreMessy]

I don't mean tell the DH what you are up to, but tell him that there is something wrong between the two of you.
No need to mention handsome sexy strangers

[SavoyCabbage]

I bet he chats up a married woman on the train twice a day and once a week gets a positive response.

[Mark2345]

The only thing thats wrong is OfficeNat80 wants to cheat on her husband with another man, someone she met on a train, despite being married.

[soontobedivorced]

I bet he's married

[lostpigeon]

end this nonsense now

[OfficeNat80]

Thanks all. I know it is daft, he's just after a shag etc. Embarrassingly these feelings started about 2 months ago when a friend showed me pics of her new bf..I couldn't help but keep thinking what a great time she is having.

Course the couple in the flat upstairs who woke me up the other week when I heard them going at pt for hours didn't help!

This guy caught me at a bad time! Not sure he is married as he is 24..

[LizLemon007]

Beware of somebody outside of your league as you put it op. MY x clearly enjoyed my 'gratitude'. he called all the shots. I don't think he would have got away with it if I'd been 'in his league'.

it turned out though, there are different leagues and when it came to common decency, kindness and generosity he wasn't in mine.

ALSO, more relevant to what's just happened, it's not one man (your husband) against this guy. It's a marriage versus a one-off exciting but anti-climactic fumble.

[OfficeNat80]

Oh I don't think of him as any sort of relationship..love hubby for that. But maybe to be satisfied physically! Maybe I need to start swinging with hubby?! Why am I having such thoughts?!

[greeneyed]

Don't touch him with a bargepole - some good looking blokes learn early on where that cheeky smile gets them, they hone their skills in flattery and learn how to get women into bed.

I've been around the block a few times and there are only 3 men who've ever made me feel amazing, wanted desired etc - it's such an ego trip and a turn on. all 3 were womanisers with several girls on the go - trust me you won't feel amazing and your self esteem will take a tumble when you realise how easy it is for him and you are just one in a long line - so not worth risking your marriage for. Cut it dead and you'll forget about him and things will probably go back to normal.

[OneMoreChap]

A very confident young woman more than 35 years ago told me, "There are very few great individual lovers. Lots of people are great lovers together; I work hard at it."

If your sex life is lacking, you do need to talk/do something about it.

How would you feel if DH was chatting up women on trains...

[Dahlen]

I think you need to work on spicing up your sex life. I know exactly what you mean about a large part of great sex being psychological and of course relationships that have been going on for some time tend to lose that initial rush. But it's not true that long-term relationships have to become boring. There are many couples out there who have managed to use the upsides of familiarity and trust to explore their sexual relationship with amazing results. I think that's where you should target your energies.

[greeneyed]

Agree with both above posts - and stop comparing - how can your husband compete (as far as desire is concerned) with the excitement of something new, naughty, secret, dangerous etc.

[Mark2345]

This thread is again proof that sociopaths don't make good wives.

[Coconutter]

Been there, done that (well, most of the way). Believe me, it is not worth it. You will regret it. I never thought I would - thought this guy must be something special as I'd never looked at anyone but DH before. He wasn't. I regretted it. It has messed up my life. I repeat, IT IS NOT WORTH IT. (repeat ad infinitum until you get it into your head) You have my sympathy, but just don't go there. Delete the number. Now!! And then give your husband a big hug while thanking your lucky stars you stopped it before it went any further.

[ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmm]

Come on where is she showing many of the 'qualities' of a sociopath?

She's revelling in being spotted and chatted up.

All she needs to do is keep it in her knickers.

Delete the number. Now!! And then give your husband a big hug while thanking your lucky stars you stopped it before it went any further. Totally agree.

[OfficeNat80]

Thanks again. He texted me today too but I ignored it, despite him seemingly being able to know exactly what buttons to press..

I won't do anything and yes, it is nice to turn him down. This has taught me to not think about things too much. Yep, should spice up the sex life but hubby can't do things some men can!!

The fantasies will remain in my head only..

[minceorotherwise]

Only on here could you go from fancying a bloke on a train to being a sociopath in 43 posts!!!!

[OfficeNat80]

I know..who'd have thought it eh?! I like to think I am a normal gal and live a very clean living life.

Yep, I had some naughty thoughts but surely so does everyone?!

[AnyFucker]

OP, what do you mean that "hubby can't do things that some men can" ?

[Chubfuddler]

Grow up. You sound like a panting fifteen year old. It's not a good look. If you want to cop some new cock for the thigh trembles at least have the decency to end your marriage.

[fluffyraggies]

Look this is an anonymous forum and the OP is using it to say what's rally going on in her mind. Here you don't have to worry about how you 'look' - it's one of the joys of the place.

I'm wondering about the 'hubby cant do some things' comment too OP.

Seeing you're being so honest, what is lacking exactly for you with your DH?

[fluffyraggies]

rally - really!

[AnyFucker]

oh, I have lots of naughty thoughts, but what I don't do is start giving the glad eye to any office shagabout lothario that shows me a bit of interest