Oral sex and hygiene! am I OTT?

[MuckyRedSheet]

I'll only do oral sex after he's had a shower. As we've never been in a position where he's had a shower before sex (or we've had time to mess around after a shower) I've never given him oral.

He has however, done it to me.

Am I OTT in insisting on shower first?

Oh must be that then as they like to class themselves as upper middle class have a bit of money

I had to pay for DS to have it done and our doctor (muslim) looked a bit why do you want it done.. but he told me where to go. I wish i could have had DS2 done the same but ah well

Neither me nor dh care if we are clean or dirty.

Dh showers in the morning and cleans himself thoroughly. I have never had any issues giving his 'work willy' a blowjob in the evening.

Come to think of it, I don't remember ever giving a man a blowjob whose willy made me cringe. Wonder how I landed with clean men or maybe my nose is bust.

BTW, I won't let dh go down on me unless I have washed immediately prior. He begs me not to but I insist. I am hard hearted, that way.

Arr and baby wipes taste rank .. don't ask

The stinkiest one I've ever come across was circumcised i.e. I could smell it a number of feet away. Looked fine, smelt rank. Let's just say that on that one occasion, I was more than happy to be a "voyeur" albeit a non-breathing one, made my excuses and left.

I don't think YABU.

I've only ever been with Jewish men, all circumcised. I actually have no idea what an uncirc cock might look like. I can say that in the midst of passion, it never occurs to me to think about hygiene. Obviously, if I ever had to recoil, that would colour things a bit differently..

Agree that you have to comfortable, so if you prefer to perform post shower/bath, that is your choice.

I'd.. ermm.. be more comfortable being on the receiving end if I was very recently washed as well.
And I would be fine if I was with someone and they expressed that was their preference IYSWIM.

So Things...Hmmm, why didn't you get DS2 done as well then? Isn't it a bit wierd for DS1 and DS2 to grow up looking different from each other? Just curious.

Gosh, I'm surprised so many prefer circumcised. All my partners were circumcised until DH and now I just think it's a bit sad they didn't have a foreskin. It makes things so much nicer. In my experience circumcised ones aren't any cleaner. It really depends on the person.

Of course it depends on the person and their level of personal hygeine, but if a man is circumcised, there's no way his penis can develop a nasty taste or smell even if he wanted to. That's why I've always thought it better for a guy to have his foreskin removed soon after he is born. My OH never misses his, as he never knew what it's like to have one, and he certainly can't remember the day it was removed.

I kind of agree, because you just don't have to worry about any nasty taste or smell surprises if the foreskin has been removed.

Yes, genital mutilation makes things so much better.

Elementary hygiene counts for a lot, from both genders.

In my dim & distant past, I remember having to change what I was doing when female partners weren't as fresh as they should have been.

In those days, if a quick was on the cards, you'd always make sure your own "bits" were fresh, as was your breath.

Debster7808 Mon 01-Oct-12 07:05:29
My OH never misses his, as he never knew what it's like to have one, and he certainly can't remember the day it was removed.

So genital mutilation is OK if done early, then?

I find it amusing this thread is still rumbling along. The smelly willy thread.

I would think the majority of people, men or women, know when they're probably a bit too less than fresh for oral and will discretely sort it before allowing things to progress. 'pop to the bathroom' sort of thing. Hasn't got to be a full shower to freshen up.

Me and my Dh shower every day so we don't get too ripe anyway! Having read the start of this thread out to DH he informs me he often has a quick wash if he thinks he may be on a promise with me later, shower earlier or not, and i don't even know it, and looked very pleased with himself

Because DS1 dad was done and was agreeable to it during the discussion, and DS2's dad isn't and wasn't agreeable to it i guess lol

OneMoreChap you appear to be very taken with the words genital mutilation i wish i hadn't used them further on up the thread and taught you how to spell them properly

My dp was circumcised as an adult, there was no 'genital mutilation' involved

OneMoreChap, you appear to have a little bit of a bee in your bonnet about it.

Lots of male American friends. Opinions divided, but Germany appears to have it right

SweetSeraphim well, if your DP wanted it done as an adult, fine; I suppose he could have had a Prince Albert done at the same time...

Generally, I oppose unnecessary surgical alteration of all sorts. Some people need circumcision, though there are less extreme procedures to address common problems. Bout like amputating a limb, surely you'd only do it if needed?

If you want your kids to have early cosmetic surgery, I think you're misguided.

I don't think a circumcision is mutilation if done nice and tidily, which almost all are if done in infancy. If anything, circumcision is a step towards perfection. Perhaps because so many people agree, circumcision is the most common operation in the world.

I can't think of anything more gross than a gamey crotch.

Debster7808 Mon 01-Oct-12 14:03:12
If anything, circumcision is a step towards perfection.

Develop that rather odd theme a little?

I take it you approve of lipo, tummy tucks, implants, collagen and so on?

Approve? That's a really odd way to describe a way of feeling about other people's choices Onemore.

I do feel circumcision is a form o plastic surgery. It's not a step to perfection its part of a males body he's born with. Imagine someone else saying well its unhygienic to have a clit so we will just chop it off, oh they do actually do that! In some countries that's normal and they hold the same view as you!

Not at all.

They are all cosmetic surgery. I generally disapprove of people going under the knife for non-medical reasons; it's usually a body image problem and surgery carries risks.

Perhaps I'm a rarity?