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Oral sex and hygiene! am I OTT?

78 replies

MuckyRedSheet · 24/09/2012 17:44

I'll only do oral sex after he's had a shower. As we've never been in a position where he's had a shower before sex (or we've had time to mess around after a shower) I've never given him oral.

He has however, done it to me.

Am I OTT in insisting on shower first?

OP posts:
ErikNorseman · 29/09/2012 11:35

If I wanted a guy to shave I'd be happy to ask him to, but unless he was Ivan the hairy I wouldn't want him to. You know, the best willies are Muslim ones. No foreskin and washed with water after every wee. I know circumcision is a hot potato but it sure makes blowjobs much nicer!

LadyDianaSpencer · 29/09/2012 11:56

I think it's OTT. It seems a little inhibited.

AKissIsNotAContract · 29/09/2012 11:59

This is when a gentleman's wash is needed:

PrincessSymbian · 29/09/2012 12:03

It has never occured to me to ever ask a bed partner to wash his cock before I put it in my mouth.
Of course if it tastes foul then it does not stay in there for very long!

eurochick · 29/09/2012 13:23

We pretty much always both shower before dtd, particularly if oral is on the cards.

quietlysuggests · 29/09/2012 13:25

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Nagoo · 29/09/2012 13:30

my DH is clean, but that's because he knows that if he hasn't washed I'm not going anywhere near it.

NimpyWindowMash · 29/09/2012 13:45

I would not ask DH to have a shower before oral sex. But he showers every day so it is rarely an issue. Also he's circumcised so perhaps that helps. I just can't imagine that conversation being very sexy. "Do you fancy a shag tonight?" "Er yes but I'm not going down on you unless you go and have a shower first"... Doesn't it kind of kill the passion?

PeshwariNaan · 29/09/2012 14:45

^Sure, why not?

PeshwariNaan · 29/09/2012 14:46

^Oops, that was meant to be a reply to an earlier post about shaving. Yes, shaving's nice for both parties.

Revelsarethebest · 29/09/2012 16:50

My DH has a bath everyday but if he wanted oral within say 2 hours of having a bath then i would make him wash it again.

If he wants to do oral on me and its been more than 2hours since i ve had a bath then i won't let him give me oral until i ve had a wash.

DragonMamma · 29/09/2012 17:03

I shower every morning and it wouldn't occur to me to shower before sex? It generally happens when it happens and wouldn't stop to shower.

DH has a shower as soon as he gets home grom work so I know he's clean - I wouldn't put it anywhere near me if it wasn't but similarly, he wouldn't be receptive to oral if he felt he was unclean. Do whatever yoi feel comfortable with

superfanny · 29/09/2012 17:31

blow him in the shower. Its great fun. get him to reciprocate.

SarahBumBarer · 29/09/2012 17:47

DH is circumcised but still will often offer to take a shower if oral is on the cards (oral is usually earned in this house rather than spontaneous Grin) because he knows that psychologically that helps me enjoy the giving a bit more. I think he might be a bit upset though it I insisted upon it, every time and certainly in our early, child free more passionate spontanous days it would not have crossed my mind to insist upon a shower first.

saladfingers · 29/09/2012 17:50

Doesn't bother me at all but then mine is circumcised so generally very clean.I'd rather taste him than soap,more intimate.

modifiedmum · 29/09/2012 18:11

I wouldn't give my OH a blowie if he'd just got in from work tbh but as he washes daily I never really complain when the time comes but I don't let him go down on me till I've had a bath/wash either, just like being all fresh and nice down there tbh. I try and convince him to shave down there as i hate pube mouth but he doesn't as it's too itchy. At the end of the day it's up to you Grin

Debster7808 · 29/09/2012 18:28

All these girls with circumcised fellas! I thought I was one of the lucky (very) few!

GiserableMitt · 29/09/2012 18:28

As long as he has showered since his last wee...

dondon33 · 29/09/2012 19:12

If my DP know's a BJ is on offer he cleans himself before, regardless if he's had a shower earlier that day. Similarly I ensure my own cleanliness before he pays a visit south.
He also regularly has a bit of a trim and edge for my benefit especially around the balls area there's nothing worse than pubes stuck to your tongue Blush

I personally think it's a bit of a passion killer to have to say "oi! go wash your cock please" right before getting down to it.

Helltotheno · 29/09/2012 19:46

I like to be lemon-fresh before being on the receiving end and DH is used to my OCD'ness about this over the years, so the knock-on effect is he's usually clean too... Bidets for the win girls !!!

And in answer to you Debster7808, no. I like my men fairlyhairy, plus I don't do bare myself, I like an Almodovar triangle me :)

Tmi... too much beer actually Grin

carmenelectra · 29/09/2012 20:40

We usually have baths or showers in the evening so if we have oral at night time we are clean. If we do it early morning we both still clean, I think, from previous bath/shower night before. Dp circumcised and squeaky clean. I wouldn't insist on shower in middle of day, but hed probably have one.

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmm · 29/09/2012 21:02

It is a passion killer take it from me but as DP doesn't go down south on me but expects me to put my face near a smelly cock i think friggin not! So yes he got told in no uncertain terms and i think it worked because now he is washing the bloody thing after a wee. Some people just don't think, i'm sure.

Maybe i'll start dropping circumcision hints Grin

Nikoletta · 30/09/2012 11:51

Among my circle of friends, the only girlfriends that actually like going down on their partner are the ones whose partners are circumcised. I kind of agree, because you just don't have to worry about any nasty taste or smell surprises if the foreskin has been removed. (Actually, this was one of the various factors that prompted me to get my sons done at an age when the would not remember later.)

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmm · 30/09/2012 19:47

My ExP was circumcised, not for religious reasons or anything as far as i'm aware, but all the males in his family have been done. I followed along with DS, never gave it a second thought. Lately there's been a lot of stuff about it being genital mutilation of a minor and suchlike, taking away their choice, some men are unhappy they had it done claiming it makes them less sensitive and other stuff.

Don't know why i just said all that except that it's rare among white males or was as far as i was aware and now this thread has made me see otherwise. I'd prefer to go out with another circumcised man in a shot :)

ErikNorseman · 30/09/2012 20:10

One thing I will really miss about my stbxh is his cock. Perfect size, always ready for action and no skanky foreskin. I know it's not PC to say so but I find foreskins repulsive Blush

My Dad told me that upper middle and upper class boys used to be circumcised in the uk as a matter of course. He's a hippy so never had my brothers done but the cultural practice may be ongoing, I don't know. Plus the Jewish population is pretty big, and even non Jewish boys with Jewish dads or older relatives might be done as a cultural habit.

I wouldn't have had DS done despite my preference had his dad not been Muslim. I'm not sorry I did though.

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