Found some Viagra...

[crazygracieuk]

Married to dh for 10+ years, 3 kids, no plans for more and he is 41 years old.

I accidentally found an empty box of Viagra in the car. Prescription date is 11 September and all 4 had been taken. We have had sex once and I really don't think that he's cheating.

Should I ask him what's going on or pretend not to know and save him the embarrassment?

Sex has dwindled a lot. I'd put it down to him exercising a lot more and dieting.

She hasn't asked him anything yet. Let's wait to see what he says, eh.

< looks at self in mirror >

< sticks tongue out and goes ahhh >

Yes, I am ok.

OMC and Crazy - OK, you're right, I should have checked.

I also can't understand why OP hasn't raised it yet. Bearing in mind that stuff like this can be an indication that there is extra-marital shenanigans going on, I would have asked him straight away.

Are you really ok AF?

I think so < pulls bottom eyelids down > < checks pulse >

Malificence Mon 24-Sep-12 15:32:25
It seems that when one argumentative know it all finally disappears from this board, he is quickly replaced with another.

If me, I have been here for a long while.

You're just another in a long line of men who just love telling "da wimmin" how they are wrong.

If me, nope. Just know-it-alls of either gender.

Do us all a favour and piss off.

If that's for me, may I suggest you and your perfect marriage, with your ever-perfect sex life, and your didactic , single-lensed approach to relationships do likewise?

Steady everyone, calm down.

Think he's having an affair- can see why you wouldn't see signs from closer in, but from the outside.... a) lack of interest in sex in r'ship. b) more interest in appearance/weight loss. c) working later than office hours every night. d) Viagra in car, seemingly dipped into already for more "goes" than you 2 have had sex in that month. Sorry- you have to say it looks like an affair. Spare phone dead easy to set up. Someone at work prob :o(

That was meant to be a sad emoticon, not a cheesy, jokey one, my heart goes out to you if it is an affair, don't find it atall funny!

Oh, Tank the LAWD, TANK the LawD.
Malificence jess came on here and saved us li'l ladees from them crool, ha'tless men that jess comes pushing there way in here, where we're jess helpless to ignore or respond to them thar posts our li'l selfs. Tank The LAWD.

Well..I do not think that he is completely innocent. Something isn't right. He had to have had it prescribed by a GP. If it was all above board I am sure he would have told you, having been married for 10 years.

I am not sure I would ask yet...I think I would bide my time.

Goodluck OP - I hope all is well.

any updates ?

I keep checking too ANY - I hope all is well.

If he took it before having sex with you it is likely that you would notice that he would be firmer than usual and for longer than usual. There is a deffinate difference between with and without viagra.

Arf at I couldn't ask him last night as something came up.

Sorry - as you were.

Op here.

I've read about Viagra today (including the side effects) and talked to dh.

I believe that he is not having an affair and that this is some sort of midlife crisis. He started the midlife crisis by becoming the size he was at 20 and as fit as he was back then. He's ordered a chip for his car to increase it's break horse power and his sex life was the next thing on his list of improvements.
He took 3 out of 4 of the tablets- one apparently is stuck in a small crevice of the car in the hope that maintaining an erection would kick his body back into gear. There were a lot of pages in his internet history about testosterone and other supplements. Why he wouldn't ask the GP for a blood test to rule out deficiencies is beyond me.

The first Viagra pill was for him to find out how long he could have an erection.

The second Viagra was the last time we had sex and said that while he orgasmed, he'd gutted that it might be because of a pill.

Sex did not happen one of the other times because I was busy with other stuff and he didn't event hint that he was up for sex.

I've bollocked him about the secrecy. There are a lot of male members of his family who died young from heart attacks so he shouldn't be taking unnecessary meds really.

I'm glad it's out in the open but we haven't got round to talking about where our sex life goes from here. He won't see a doctor (even a male one) despite me offering to go with him.

Phew
I love a happy ending

he is very stupid to not see a doctor.

But I am a bit unclear. Does he actually have a problem maintaining erections ?

and a another little question...if he hasn't seen a doctor, how is his name on the prescription ?

name on a parcel (ordered online) maybe...but on an actual prescription ? You have to see a doctor for that

I am not dismissing his "story" (especially since it is very similar to the one I put forward upthread ) but there are some things I would not let drop, tbh

Actually, very good point AF - it's not possible to get a prescription without seeing a dr is it?

If he has got a mate who is a doctor, said mate could've prescribed it. Shouldn't happen but does.

if he won't even talk to an "anonymous" doctor, I very much doubt he's been confiding in a mate about his willy problems, tbh

He might just say he wanted to try it to see what it felt like or something. I dunno. I'm pretty sure if it's got a proper chemist label on it, a doctor must have prescribed it.