A male friend of mine has confided in me that he has been having an affair for the last 5 years.
We have known eachother since we were kids as our parents are also close friends.
He got engaged at 23 after his girlfriend of 2 years discovered she was pregnant, but they have never married. They have been together for 9 years in total.
He hasnt been himself lately, he's been very down in the dumps & withdrawn. He told me last night that he has been having an affair for almost 5 years with a woman he used to work with.
Now i dont condone cheating, my theory is that if you are unhappy in a relationship, you should end it before starting a new one.
He claims the affair started after his relationship went stale, and that he and his partner are more friends than a couple these days. He says he stays for the child, and that he does still love his partner "in a funny way" ... But that he has also fallen in love with the other woman and canr imagine his life without her.
He says it has come to the point where he is struggling to continue living his double life, but is having difficulty choosing between them.
His partner discovered his affair about a year in, and he ended it... Only to resume it a few months later, which his partner knows nothing about.
I dont know what advice to give him.
There is a saying that goes "if you love 2 people, choose the. 2nd, because if you really loved the first then you wouldnt fall for the second"
But is that a myth or can you really love two people at once? All views are much appreciated.
Thanks in advance.