Do I let him move in with me ?

[jaffacake2]

Need advice as not sure to go with heart or mind decision.
Have been with a kind witty charmer for last 16mths.Have previously been on my own for 12 years following abusive marriage and have brought up 2 lovely daughters. This guy seemed like a breath of fresh air for me until discovered he is up to his eyes in debt,has no assets following collapse of his company.
He rents a small studio flat but could soon be evicted for non payment of rent. He works full time but on minimum wage so never seems to have any money.

What would you do ? Give him a home or keep financially secure but lonely without him?
Help please

Just want top add my voice of support to the crowds shouting cocklodger! Really, I would write off the cash you owe, you wont get it back, and consider it a bargain to get rid!

Glad you reached that decision.

You will meet a more genuine one but only if you are single and you can. He's a double whammy - he'll absorb your money; give little in return and prevent you from finding happiness with a better bloke.

Jaffacake, don't feel bad about this. Years ago after my divorce I met a similar sort of man. I loaned him some money (which was never repaid!) and he was very keen to move in after a few months. Luckily I came to my senses and said no. He bombarded me with phonecalls, flowers, declarations of love for a few months and then disappeared which I assume meant he met his next vulnerable woman to sponge off.

I suggest you spend time working on your self-esteem and be kind to yourself. Don't date anyone for at least a few months. It's the best way to move forward from this. You can and will meet someone better than this user and it will be worth the wait.