Why am I feeling like this!!!!

[Typinginsecret]

Evening ladies....

I could do with a kick up the bum and I hope you will oblige!!!

Husband left 15 months ago, after a very stormy 5/6 years, including meeting a girl on the Internet, web cams, sex texts etc.

Me and the kids have coped quite well through all of this and now have a become a great little unit. Son still sees his dad, and our daughter doesn't and has no desire to(very bad relationship , including a huge fight, and then social services involvement)

Exh is in debt - knew about some of it- but found more once he has left.

We started mediation last week - and now he had announced he has a new relationship .

I feel like I have failed ... Not upset or anything, but just what if he makes this work with her , and couldn't with me!

I know it's utter nonsense... But still!

Yes, you are entitled to feel cross with him, and you're entitled to have your money back too! .

• Oh yes, another vote for a blow-dry! That's a great idea. ANYTHING that makes YOU feel good. :) :)

its only a matter of time before hes back to his old tricks.. tell her shes welcome to him!!!! i felt like that at fist for me, but you just have to keep reminding yourself of what it was really like when you were together....

Hey, don't even worry about it.

Let's just say that they end up being perfect for each other and have a long and happy marriage. That reflects on you, how? Most relationships end. Does that make them 'failures'? It's all the experience of life, not a film with a black and white ending.

It's just semantics, and it's the language of the media - newspapers refer to a 'string of failed relationships'. Unless the relationship was 100% shit and you never had any fun, it wasn't a failure. You created your children - that's amazing.

My parents have been married 5 times between them - does the success of their current marriages mean their marriage to each other was meaningless or pointless? I don't think so.