Honey traps and stunning women aplenty - dating thread 20!

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20!!!!!!

Bloody hell :)

Another pitstop to sneak in and hug Sponge...

well, there still isn't a definate date for date 1 (2) so I have nothing to postpone... and the absolute filth that was flying through the mobile networks last night isn't helping matters. plus I know I need to have the dreaded STD chat before I actually get into his knickers...

I'm of the opinion that it's 'dont ask dont tell' with PM at the moment. he's in a bit of a funny mood.

Ah Snape thank you, I have managed a small :) yes I am (I think) only a bus ride away. A coffee sometime would be rather lovely - I'll get the lattes and you bring the fish!

Rude man yesterday hasnt helped but main source of irritation today are the twittery girls I work with. They are all less than 10 years younger than me, but spend all day when they should be working chatting about nonsense. One is pregnant and the other 2 are getting married, and it's all wedding bouquets, scan appts, pram shopping etc. And everything is such a BIG DEAL. As someone who went through one pregnancy completely alone (& the next one I might as well have been) the amount of fussing pregnant lady gets is beyond belief. HR have got her a new desk and chair, she's changed her working hours, gets to take a paid day off for every medical appt everyone else is doing her work meaning she sits chatting all day dear god it is driving me mad!

I am aware I sound like a complete bitch btw.

Morning! I had a text from last night's date. It says he enjoyed my company and "see you soon" with a kiss. He said the same last night. I've replied saying that I'd like that but neither of us have mentioned date number 2. Am I right in thinking that if there really was going to be a date number 2 we'd be talking specifics? God I hate this.

Morning :)

I'll be on the dating committee too if anyone ever wants my opinion. I'm only on OKC though.

watch I've missed you but hope you have a good time.

sponge don't give up hope.

Sponge - I'm fairly certain my bosom isn't nearly as remarkable as Snape's but hugs too xx

Snape - is it possible PM's odd mood is because he's twigged you're OKC profile and is wondering what you're up to...?

LLareggub - sorry, don't know!!!

I've joined OKC but it doesn't seem any good in my area. I had a message from someone today but he lives at least 2 hours away! I'm not sure there's anyone on there for me but I did recognise a few people from other sites.

sponge :)

You don't sound like a bitch at all. It just sounds that you are recognising how strong you had to be when you were pregnant and I think it's only natural to wish that you had been looked after a bit better. None of that is your fault just a reaction to people treating you less than kindly in the past. :) the point beingthat your experience doesnt necessarily relate to your pregnant colleagues experience it is in the past, so we can tie it up in a really nice box with a big pink bow on it and chuck it off of tower bridge. :)

I think you need to steer the conversation a little. Do you think your colleagues would be comfortable discussing anal fisting? cock rings?

Llaregub I think he was possibly just testing the water - wanted to check you were still keen before launching into shall we go out next Thurs then or something. IS the conversation still flowing by text? If so maybe ask what he's up to at the weekend/let him know when you're available, something along those lines?

yoga dont think so - I am watching my visitors list like a hawk with an eating disorder. he hasnt shown up there - I doubt he has the sense for anonymous browsing - unless he's playing dirty I think the thumbnail is vague enough to not be me, but the narrative is very obnviously me, so he's twig.

Sponge Do feel free to tell me to fuck right off, but I'm very happy to give your profile a once over in a supportive, gentle way, if you would like, on teh basis that my profile has been up for a week now and I've had around 50 messages.... not all of them from wankers just the vast majority

Snape My colleagues are as vanilla as it gets, who giggle over 50 SOG and find it terribly 'racy'. They make me look like a female Marquis de Sade...

I wonder whether PM, knowing you as well as he does, can tell when something's up, and your attention is distracted from him, and that explains the odd mood?

No, he hasn't replied to my message saying that I'd like to meet again. But I have just checked a message on pof and he has been on there today....but then so have I.

He does seem like a genuinely nice person so I have no reason to suspect he is playing games or messing me around. I think I need to get on with some work and stop over-thinking this. Might it look wrong now to send a message asking him what his plans are for the weekend?

Watch You have already gone but just in case you check in, have a fab time

Sponge I agree with Snape. I can totally understand where you are coming from, being another strong woman who coped alone and may as well have been a single parent when pregnant. Even if that hadn't been the case, I'm one of those women who just get on with it, don't need pampering, special chairs or the like. But some people do like all that As for the special desk, chair and breaks, all that is part of Health and Safety these days, it's the company that has to be seen to be taking care of the pregnant employee. I'm loving Snapes idea of steering the conversation. And I'm pretty jealous that you and she live close enough to be able to get together for coffee!!!!

Hi to everyone else

Morning. Hug too sponge. I have a substantial bosom tnat I'm quite proud of! Your workmates sound a droning bunch. One of my friends has just got herself a boyfriend and sends texts saying 'off to see my lover'. O god is vomitus maximums.

Im feeling quite Upbeat today. Met up with a good friend last night who is always single. She is smart, beautiful and fantastic fun. It reaffirmed my perspective bit.

Snape. It's frustrating but I think you will soon hear regarding a second date. I think texts can over familiarise us with someone when essentially they are strangers, giving the illusion of closeness. What you really want is date, time and venue.

Llaregub. I think he is keeping you hanging. I've had this. Met someone for coffee and he would text me 'when are you inviting me round' and 'what did you think of me?'. When people are keen they soon ask when they can see you or ask if you a free on a particular night.

50 messages? Wow! I have revamped my profile pictures as I think I looked a bit mumsy to be honest. I look foxy now ;-)

Another hug for Sponge
Well I am taking things VERY easy right now. A recent date who was nice just wanted to be friends, but I was ok with that. i texted him about meeting for lunch with DD, and we did, it was nice. Text occasionally too.
Talking to three other blokes right now, one is in my area, complete geek but asks lots of intelligent questions about my interests, I am liking this a lot. Not sure where its going but have known so many arseholes that am enjoying being treated with respect.

Another one also in my area, just on internet right now, I was chatting on GS weeks ago but he didnt reply when I asked him about his views on fidelity so I left it there.
Then I saw he'd looked at my profile so I asked if he wanted to meet. He didnt have a subscription by this point so I sent my email address sneakily and he got in touch with his phone number. Have not used it yet as I always get a bit funny and teenage once the phone comes into play. Doesn't last but its a pain.
Having said that i have some time to myself tomorrow, should I ask him out? He's bloody gorgeous. Now Im getting the hang of this dating lark a wee bit more and realise it's Just A Date Im a bit more relaxed and have stopped thinking ooh this could be my husband

Yes, ask him out MadameO, go for it

thanks everyone :)

Time you will have to come down to London and see us, I have more than enough room to put you up if I ever clear all the crap out of my spare bedrooms and you would be most welcome!

snape thanks I would love your views on my profile. I'm not sure if I can PM you at work (am not putting my username on thread after last debacle!) but will try...Time do you want to have a look as well? I'd value your opinion too. I wrote it in about 10 mins last night so it's probably not my best work!

snapes profile is excellent.

My bank card arrived yesterday, I sent the necessary information by text and they texted back later on in the evening to say my card has been activated so I'm going shopping later, after signing on.

Ok I've texted him. We'll see. Have an evening to myself planned so doesn't really matter if he is there or not.
Who am I kidding? A yes from him will throw me into a flat spin of planning, wardrobe choices and nerves. [angst]
Going to see a couple of shows in Festival that people I know are in, so I'll be doing a bit of socialising no matter what.

Ooh I would love to do that one day Sponge, thank you! DD is always asking me if we can go to London and I would love to take her but it's such a huge place I'm scared of getting lost We had a weekend in London a few years ago, with The Ex and his mother. DD and I loved it but he hated it, so we never went again. And yes please, I will take a look at your profile I think mine is crap too, I just threw something together, but it gets compliments so it must be ok. One guy told me that less is actually more on dating sites. And I don't think he meant clothes

Madame) agree with Time ask him.

Less can be more but very little isn't enough, imo. It's a balancing act really.

Well this is day 3, on OKC, and I already have 3 views from men who are either topless or naked, although not quite showing 'anything'

I've found that a little info and the photo lures them in and they message because they want to know more I've had a lot of messages on Cupid, much more than before, just not met anyone I like enough to meet. Men are visual, I think the photo is probably more important than the blurb, if they like the look of you they will either contact you or not contact you because they think you are out of their league. That is my theory and I am sticking to it