He was in the wrong...wasn`t he?

[brownbag]

Sorry if this is TMI first thing on a Monday morning, but really not too sure what to make of this.

Been kinda seeing this man for about five months now. All going well, he is very affectionate, funny and always there if I need a hand with everything.

We were in bed last night, and he asked me to give him a blow job, which is something I really, really dont like doing, but will very ocasionally. Never have with him before, and I made a feeble joke about needing to get up and do some work. He had tried to direct himself into my mouth a couple of weeks ago, I had twisted myself away and hed seemed to get the message.

This time though, he pushed me onto my back, pulled himself up the bed and pushed himself into my mouth. I was so shocked I just let him get on with it. H acted totally normal after and so did I.

Is this just him getting carried away? I know I should have said no. I know I should have tried to push him off. Was just completly shocked.

That's terrible, OP? Do you mind if I ask, did he come like that?

no he is an abusive wanker.
that is not right
not in any way.
it was sexual assult.

I would have been vey shaken had that happened to me. I think it's more than getting carries away- he's forced his penis into your mouth when you've told him no. This is rape. Don't think you should have pulled away, you were probably frozen with fear! Nothing you did was wrong!!!! Hoping someone can come along with more practical advice, but I just wanted to say, I'm sorry this happened.

Run like the mind. Fucker him not you

That's awful for you and absolutely not acceptable in any way.

I know its easy to say after the fact but i wish you had bitten his cock....hard.

He was in the wrong. He assaulted you. You have to get away from him now- he is not a good man.

I just can`t believe it really.
Not sure what to do if he contacts me again

Don't blame yourself. It was a sexual assault. Talk to the police and get away from this arsehole.

He forced his penis into your mouth?, if you did not want to take part, then it is rape!!
Get out while you can, 5 months is better than 5 years of hell-he is abusive

Tell him to fuck the fuck off.

What do you mean- if he contacts you again? Is this just a casual thing? If so, then it's easy. Block him. And get on with your life.

What the hell is going on on this board, this is the 3rd rape post this week, I'm horrified that the ops are asking if it's wrong, surely you know it is. All of you should call the police.

what is it with some men who think its ok to force themselves on their partners.

tell him you wont see him again, its only been five months. it would be harder if you had children, married etc.

OP, that was rape.

I'm sorry he did that to you.

Are you away from him now? I'd end it. I sincerely hope you do so, too. How are you feeling?

Op, rape is what it is and no it is not ok.
You should run a mile, you have done nothing wrong

That's either oral rape/sexual assault.

Have no more to do with him. What a bastard.

chipsand mushypeas Your comment is not helpful.

If he contacts you again, ignore his calls, delete his texts or just tell him to fuck off. You're under no obligation to speak to him again.

I would have bitten hard.
Yeurch. Not my thing!

I would walk away. If he thinks he can do this after five months...

No it wasn't him just getting carried away.

How fucking dare he force himself on you.

When he contacts you again tell him to fuck the fuck off.

Yes I`m away from him.
Just a bit shaken up, and shocked. He has always been so lovely to me.

In a thread last week i read the sentence "the act reveals the man" i can't remember who posted it but they were spot on.

He has revealed himself to you, that's the kind of man he is.

Sorry it's happened to you, you deserve better.

He's not so lovely though, is he? He's vile and entitled, tell him to fuck off.

You've had an insight into who he is .... walk away even if he says sorry