To not want my dh to remind me I'm just a single mother with kids who he 'took on'?

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Bit of background: this is my 2nd marriage. Exh was verbally abusive & used to smash things up, never showed affection for years, lived separate lives. Been with dh for 6 years, married 3. He's becoming the same person as exh. Goes off at deep end for the smallest things and continually threatens to leave unless I change ever more aspects of myself. Recently he has started throwing the fact that I should be grateful he took my kids and I on as I'm just a single mum. I'm so unhappy. Aibu to expect more from love/marriage?

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Wanted to add well done too, my mum stayed with my dick of a dad until he left when I was 18, I remember very similar comments and being so sad she couldn't or didn't have the confidence to stand up to him. It's taken her years to get over it.

Good for you!
PS Have you thought about joining the Freedom Programme? Good for recovering from being with abusive twats, and recognising them a bit more quickly.

Just to say my mum was also a single mother to two kids when my step-dad 'took her on' and in a million, billion years he would never have expected her to feel grateful for that fact. No normal person would.

Good luck with getting rid of this loser.

Glad to hear he is getting ditched. Seriously, it is very common for people to end up in a repeating pattern, especially in relationships. If you've found counselling helpful before then maybe think about returning to look at the pattern. You deserve so much better than this twunt.

Glad to hear he's about to be history - good for you! And good luck with your new life, I hope it's a million times happier :)

Well done you!!

Will it be easy enough to disentangle finances? Do you own or rent?