When DH is down (which is often) he will come home from work and the first sign is often that he says he doesn't want to eat anything. He then goes off and does his own thing for a bit (ie several hours). Mostly this involves him ignoring me completely for the rest of the evening - he will lie on the bed and may doze off and/or actually go to bed. I eventually ask him why he's upset though he's often reluctant to talk about it (not a good sign, I know that). in many cases he starts talking in riddles : "My career is over"; "I'm finished" etc, and I have to ask loads of questions to get to the bottom of who actually said or did something that particularly upset him. Tonight was a case in point: he's applying for other jobs and was told he hadn't been called for interview. My usual response used to be to commiserate but try to assure him another job will be along soon, but he really rejects this approach, insisting angrily "there won't be other jobs", and "nobody wants me". So I tried saying very little instead, to avoid upsetting him further (failed!). He finished tonight (again) with him accusing me of "not caring" why he was upset and "not showing any sympathy".
What am I doing wrong?