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How often do you see your Mum?

65 replies

Northerner · 08/03/2006 19:17

I ask because sometimes I feel guilty for not seeing enough of her. She lives about 1 hour drive away from me but I don't drive yet so rely on dh taking me. He works most weekends so when he is off we want to spend it together. We get to see my parents about every 6 weeks. We speak every day for 20 mins/half an hour. She calls at bath time/bedtime and I work and have a social life so if I can't talk to her for long, she gets a bit huffy, and says I have no time for her, which makes me feel bad. Dh gets annoyed she makes me feel like this, and says if she had a job/something to do she wouldn't be like this.

I am an only child and she is quite needy and gets upset that she is not involved with my ds on a day to day business.

My Mum and Dad don't drive so rely on us going to them.

It is so difficult pleasing everyone.

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puddytats · 08/03/2006 19:20

At leastevery other day, she lives 2 mins away from me and is fantastic support

spursmum · 08/03/2006 19:21

I see my mum every Saturday as she has ds for 8 hours but I hardly ever speak to her on the phone. We could quite happily go about our lives without speaking for weeks on end.
We don't have the best relationship.

SuperTramp · 08/03/2006 19:22

She lives about 20 minutes drive from me and I see her once every 2- 3 weeks. Sometimes more, sometimes much less. We talk on the phone a couple of times a week.

starlover · 08/03/2006 19:23

i am lucky that my mum only lives about 15 mins drive from me so i see her a few times a week

Tommy · 08/03/2006 19:24

about once a week or so. We live in the same town but she is very busy. She quite often pops in to see us during the day in the week.

Northerner - have you though about asking your Mum to ring you at a different time? Or getting her online so yu can email her? mine loves having photos etc sent by email.

KBear · 08/03/2006 19:25

I usually see my mum every day, we lived opposite each other for 11 years before we moved to a bigger house and are now about 4 minutes away in the car. She has my children for me when I work, on my days off we shop together or go swimming or just spend time together - she is my rock and my best friend!

Flossam · 08/03/2006 19:26

I'm in London atm, and Mum is in the West country. We both work, and aim to see each other (well, her see DS!!!) around once a month. We take it in turns loosely, she'll visit, then I'll visit etc.

Am moving closeler soon (fingers crossed) so don't know if it will become more frequent.

hana · 08/03/2006 19:27

once a year, twice if lucky Sad
but when I do see her it's for 6 weeks everyday

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Northerner · 08/03/2006 19:28

Tommy - My Mum is the ultimate technophobe. Email scrares her!

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QE2 · 08/03/2006 19:29

Last saw her in September when she remarried. Have spoken only twice since then. She is wrapped up in her new fella atm

Before that, when I lived near her we saw each other every week. Now we live over an hour's drive away, very rarely.

Nbg · 08/03/2006 19:33

Northener
I am in the same position as you. Don't drive, we live in south yorks, my parents are in north yorks.
My mum has just gone back to work having been off sick and before that she only did part time hours so she was down every week but now it's once a fortnight.

I miss her loads and would love to be nearer to her.
Am going to stay with them for a few days though next month so that will be nice.

Posey · 08/03/2006 19:34

Ideally every 6-8 weeks (not ideal but reasonable as they're a good 3 hours drive away)
They are retired so come and see us in term time for a week or so, then we tend to go in school holidays (alternating with dh's parents)
I always though my sister's distance was great, about an hour away so they can do day trips, but they don't get the fun of staying with the grandparents.

Swings and roundabouts...

charmkin · 08/03/2006 20:00

every day

kama · 08/03/2006 20:01

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Mazzystar · 08/03/2006 20:16

mine visits (by train, bless her) every two - three weeks and stays for 3 days. speak to her once a week, text every day. always feel guilty that we don't visit her much. northerner - is the train not an option for either of you?

myturn · 08/03/2006 20:21

Every other day. My parents live 15mins drive away and we are extremely close. Don't know what I would do without them.

hoxtonchick · 08/03/2006 20:24

at least once a month (my parents live 200 miles from us). phone/text/e-mail every day though.

tegan · 08/03/2006 20:25

I see my mum and dad everyday without fail and even speak to them on the phone too.
we tend to se the in-laws once a week when we go for tea.

MerlinsBeard · 08/03/2006 20:27

every 2 weeks with DS's but we ring every now and then too.

salsa · 08/03/2006 20:27

I speak to my mum every day. I live in a different country but she comes to see me every 6-8 weeks. I am just about to move back to the UK and will be living less than 5 minutes away. I can't wait.

Norah · 08/03/2006 20:27

As rarely as possible tbh. Very sad but I feel our "relationship" - such as it was - has broken doen completely. I feel no desire to even speak to her - but she rings twice a week - same time, same day every week - and I can barely be bothered to even speak.

Yes I feel sad - but at 38 I've got to admit she isn't going to change and she isn't a nice person.

Hausfrau · 08/03/2006 20:27

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tortoise · 08/03/2006 20:31

I havnt seen my mum,dad or two brothers since October when they moved to Turkey.Before that I saw mum nearly everyday.Found it hard them not being around!We keep in touch via text and e-mail.

LadyTophamHatt · 08/03/2006 20:32

haven't seen her since the 7th jan, spack on th phone about once a week...maybe less.

thats' bad really isn't it?

Sparklemagic · 08/03/2006 20:35

I speak to her on the phone every day and she looks after my DS two afternoons a week while I am at work. We also meet up on one or two other days of the week.

Good job she's my best mate as well as my mum!

My DS absolutely adores her and they have a really special, profound relationship...

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